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  1. Welcome! As someone who has recently figured out their aro, but also reads romance fiction or watches it. Yeah, it feels weird , especially when you just realized you're an aromantic. It's also why I had some doubts being aro at first, even though the term instantly clicked with me. As I've seen, some have put it as, getting your romance fix or playing as a character. Also we watch or read of lot of things, because it's interesting or entertaining, doesn't mean we want it to happen to us. It's funny how we don't realize this, until someone else points it out. I completely understand the struggle of explaining your aro and ace to others. It was difficult enough to tell and explain to my best friend. I knew she will accept me, though, I don't think she has completely understood, that I'm never gonna feel romantic attraction. I have yet to gain the courage to tell my parents. It's not a simple thing to explain sadly. It may get a little easier, once the world becomes more aware. As for telling the ex. It's better off you don't tell them, unless they try to approach you for another chance. Even then, you don't really have to, a simple "I'm not interested", should be enough. The news, isn't gonna bring you two back together, it's not gonna change the fact they have to move on.
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    As some one who recently found out their aromantic a month ago, I understand your worry about offending the community. I had the same worry too, but after I did more research on aromantic. I was then confident, that's what I am. Though regardless it's ok call yourself aromantic, but realize later it doesn't fit. It happens. It's no different than a person who thought they were bisexual, only to realize they weren't. As for the break up part, it usually does hurt both parties, no matter the reason or who broke it off. It hurts because, you thought or hope it would work out, only to realize it won't. It also doesn't help knowing it's gonna hurt the other. Something to clear up. Not all aromatics are repulsed by romance completely. There are spectrums. Some aromantics, simply can't feel any romantic attractions towards another person. Some feel only a little romantic attraction. Or some can't feel any romantic attraction, if the person shows romantic interest first. They can also still like romantic things, but simply have no desire to experience it themselves. There's one spectrum called Lithromantic / Aporomantic / Akoi(ne)romantic "1. Describes a person who can feel romantic attraction towards others and enjoys romantic relationships in theory, but does not need that affection to be reciprocated or to be in a relationship with the one the feelings are directed towards." "2.Describes a person who may stop feeling romantic attraction once in a relationship or stop enjoying it." You can look here to see if any of these seem to work https://www.aromanticism.org/en/identity-terms For the click, not everyone feels that. The only reason I feel, I felt a click, was because I already had the term in my head, but had no word to match it to, at the time. I'm also asexual, but when I first read the term there wasn't a click, it wasn't until I did more research that I realized, I was in fact asexual. The big thing here is do more research, this will help make things clearer.
  3. I'm 26 and realized I was aro, about a month ago.
  4. I don't ever recall planning my wedding as a kid. Maybe acting out a wedding, when playing with dolls, but this is probably more of kid me coping what I saw in movies or tv. Kids were always a maybe for me, but even back then, I was positive I would adopt. I never understood the need to have kids biologically, when there are so many out there, that can be loved just as much, looking for a family. As for the "husband", never really visuals one. If asked I would say a nice man, but this was back when I assumed I would cross the bridge some day, because that was the "norm".
  5. Yeah, that's defiantly on the list of one of the worst. Though, Adventureland (comedy/romance/drama) would be my number 1 worst. This was back when Twilight, just got popular. My friend had to see this movie, because the actress from Twilight was in it. Worst movie I ever watched. I like romantic comedies (mostly for the comedy), but this was just painful to watch. I would rather watch Twilight again, over Adventureland.
  6. Ok real late to the party, but I love riddles! Anyways, riddles tend to have the simplest answers. So, I'm gonna say it was a mirage or hallucination. Everything listed in the riddle isn't possible all at once, unless it was a mirage or hallucination. Mirages or hallucination don't need to make sense, they're illusions that deceive your eyes and mined.
  7. Nope! TPBM watched Pokemon, in their childhood.
  8. YMBAI you played dolls/pretend with your friends and your doll/character never has a boyfriend/girlfriend. It's funny because, this didn't dawn on me, until after I realized I was aro and thinking of signs during childhood/teenhood. YMBAI your best friend has to ask if you're gay, because you never dated anyone and your thought process is, "Well, I don't seem to be attracted to the same gender, so I must like the opposite gender!" Honestly, this should have been the moment, I realized something just wasn't adding up and start researching. Curse my obliviousness.
  9. Man, they're so many signs, that I was aro as kid and teen. Sign 1: Never understood others crushes on classmates or a celebs. Usually my friends would have crush on this one classmate, but all I would see was just a classmate or possibly another friend. Remember 'High School Musical'? A few friends had a crush on Zac Efron, back then. I remember covering my ears and cringing as they screech, when he appears on screen. Had absolutely no clue, what they were seeing and just didn't get it. Sign 2: When I played dolls with my friends, my doll never had a boyfriend, unlike my friend's dolls. Even when we were playing a storyline from a fandom, I could never act out a romantic relationship with two of the characters. My friend always had to do it. I'm wondering how I didn't notice until now. Sign 3: I never had a crush, not even on a celeb. Classmates? Well, they were just classmates to me, some I wanted to be friends with. Celeb? I love their work and it would be cool to get to know them. I use to make the excuse that, I maybe just haven't found the right one or I would need to get to know them first. But once I was in my 20's I started to question myself a bit. Sign 4: When someone says they like me. I have two reactions, complete confusion and think "Why?" or Oh, please no. Sign 5: Never jumping on the teen romance book/movie bandwagon. Remember Twilight, Divergent, Mortal Instruments, Fault in Our Stars, Love Simon? I had no desire to read the books, even though everyone around me was. I saw some of the movies, due to a friend or cousin who wanted to see it. The only thing I liked about Twilight, was the take on the vampires and werewolves. Not gonna lie, watching people go from "loving" Twilight, to absolutely hating it, was quite hilarious. Sign 6: Could never figure out what my "type" is. My friends could have a list of things that would make someone their type. I however, could only come up with, is nice, has humour and things in common. The rest was lost to me.
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