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I personally had 3-4 years of confusion/denial, slowly putting the puzzle together using random bits of info from random places as prompts and pointers, some of them not even aro themed but feminism/lgbtq+/sex ed, people's personal blogs, so I don't remember one specific one that would have been The Source.

 

Maybe we should make a website with content a bit more well-written than someone's 3am tumblr one liners. :)

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I came to aromanticism through AVEN.  That was really the only contact with the aro community I had.  I don't use sites like tumblr, and I'm not usually into blogs.  So I'm not aware of any particularly great resources, although I would love to know if there are some! Most aro resources I've stumbled upon seem to be lacking in quality or content.  

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3 hours ago, omitef said:

Mainly The Thinking Aro

 

No offense, but I wouldn't recommend this blog. I read it from time to time but the author changes their stance on things constantly. It also used to be called The Thinking Asexual and only recently changed to The Thinking Aro. It's not an education site in any way. It's an opinion site that reflects only one person's viewpoints. 

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31 minutes ago, Nope said:

 

No offense, but I wouldn't recommend this blog. I read it from time to time but the author changes their stance on things constantly. It also used to be called The Thinking Asexual and only recently changed to The Thinking Aro. It's not an education site in any way. It's an opinion site that reflects only one person's viewpoints. 

 

I realize that it's an opinion site. And there are some opinions of theirs (not sure about pronouns) that I disagree with, like how aroaces shouldn't use the term queer. But there are also opinions of theirs that I do agree with, like how platonic relationships aren't inherently inferior to romantic relationships, and how there are issues with the triangular theory of love. I also don't think changing viewpoints means that a site lacks credibility. I think it shows that the author of the site is actively learning from new sources, and then changing their opinions based on what they learn--which is something that all of us do. 

 

And you're right, it's an opinion site that reflects only one person's viewpoints. That's why I also educate myself about aromanticism from talking to other aros in forums like Arocalypse. Unfortunately, a forum isn't a blog, and the OP was specifically asking for blogs. So I linked one that I liked. 

 

What kind of blogs, or sources, would you recommend?

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I also found out about aromanticism through AVEN. I really think there's a lack of information about aromantics because a lot of people use the term "asexual" as if it applies to aro aces (which is untrue). Just look at some of those memes that describe who everyone is attracted to... the asexual is mostly shown as "nobody" even though it's untrue; that applies only to aro aces. So I definitely think more effort should be put into discussing aromanticism in an unbiased way on a blog of some sort (like AVEN's front page does for asexuality) because the most in-depth explanation I've ever come across has solely been from AVEN or people arguing on Tumblr.

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This one is pretty good:

 

http://anagnori.tumblr.com/tagged/aromantic

 

As for The Thinking Aro (Asexual), I find her (it is her) posts to be pretty informative and well written. She has changed her opinion over the years, but I think that shows an evolution in thinking, and maturity in admitting she was previously wrong. I don't agree with some of her opinions either, but that's the point isn't it? They are opinions, and it's interesting to see somebody else's point of view.

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Okay, so I know tumblr blogs are even worse, because they not just change very quickly, but also the weather forecast is pretty much heavy sh!tstorms with some sunshine.

 

@Saaaro, you probably know them already, but there is alloaros and arobutnotace. Its tumblr, so take it with a grain of salt and prepare to see some black belt keyboard karate...but that's what there is at the moment as far as I'm aware.

And then there is perksofbeingaro had this aros over twenty thing they do. I liked it as a concept. The prompt was "what I wish I have known before I was 20", people submit their experiences, own journey and things they wanted to tell their younger selves.

 

If anybody knows anything better, please share.

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as a tumblr gremlin, most of my content comes through that site (plus the regular torrent of Discourse), but i've always liked perksofbeingaro and similar blogs. as for the thinking aro, i tend to avoid her D: mostly on the grounds that shes incredibly exhausting to read

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Not sure if I'm posting this in the optimal place, mods feel free to move if not...

 

So, I was online today and came across a few resources that may be of interest.

 

I found this podcast by Elizabeth Brake - she coined the term 'amatonormativity' in her book Minimizing Marriage (the podcast is about the book and the 'amatonormativity' concept comes up at around the 24 minute mark, if you want to skip ahead!) :

http://newbooksnetwork.com/elizabeth-brake-minimizing-marriage-marriage-morality-and-the-law-oxford-up-2012/

 

Or, if you don't have an hour to spare (!) here's a Youtube vid by Sarah summarizing 'amatonormativity' :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xe55btNlJTU

 

There is also a framework called 'Relationship Anarchy' (RA) I found out about today, which might be a useful framework for anyone that is interested in pursuing 'unconventional' relationships (i.e. ones that explicitly reject 'amatonormative' expectations and/or the 'relationship escalator' of romance->co-habitation->marriage->kids). I found Kale's Youtube channel and I think her videos give some good summaries.

Intro to RA, by Kale : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1xBdffi0m4

Goes into some more (aro-spec relevant) details re. the above : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjDJrGcvOCE

Here is an updated version of (one of?) the original manifesto(s?) for RA, by Andie Nordgren : http://log.andie.se/post/26652940513/the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship

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7 hours ago, NullVector said:

There is also a framework called 'Relationship Anarchy' (RA) I found out about today, which might be a useful framework for anyone that is interested in pursuing 'unconventional' relationships (i.e. ones that explicitly reject 'amatonormative' expectations and/or the 'relationship escalator' of romance->co-habitation->marriage->kids). I found Kale's Youtube channel and I think her videos give some good summaries.

Intro to RA, by Kale : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1xBdffi0m4

Goes into some more (aro-spec relevant) details re. the above : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjDJrGcvOCE

Here is an updated version of (one of?) the original manifesto(s?) for RA, by Andie Nordgren : http://log.andie.se/post/26652940513/the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship

I'm also intruguid by RA, which is actually why I've taken it as a prompt for the November Carnival of Aces. Thanks for sharing all these great resources, I'll be sure to check them out!

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