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I would have to agree. The only time I've ever been comfortable with sex was with someone I developed a deep friendship with first

I basically used that line when breaking up with an ex, though I backed it up with an explanation (that I wasn't attracted to him and it 100% wasn't his fault) and how much I appreciated his companionship

Then you should watch the anime! It's Tanaka-kun Wa Itsumo Kedaruge (Tanaka-kun Is Always Listless) It's a slice of life about the laziest guy ever

@omitef I'm actually having consistent sexual relations with someone I'm not officially dating, and I see what you mean. We've actually been keeping it a secret from our friends so it's been weird going on a trip with everyone this week

Actually it was recent, just over a year ago. That's why I couldn't believe it. My school was incredibly backwards though, given it was a religious private school.

Prom/ball culture is a huuuuge thing in Australia. It's so gross and gendered! Sure a girl could wear a suit, if they wanted to be ridiculed. Not to mention of my friends was a lesbian and wasn't allowed to take a girl, so she took a gay guy so they could share the pain of homophobic private schools together. I couldn't even believe that rule existed, it was absolutely disgusting. School balls are basically the final ritual for conforming to cis/heteronormative culture and hardly anyone seemed to be bothered by it???

The same thing happened when I was 9, and the girls in the locker room were nagging me about when I was getting a bra (same shit, different school). Stuff like that was super isolating because I was an early bloomer. In my experience puberty is used as an excuse to sexualise and feminise young girls which I personally think is really gross. It certainly felt wrong to me, all the pressure to "be a woman" and "be desirable to guys".

As someone who was bullied into shaving at only 11 I second this. I spent years hating my body for doing what it's supposed to do and only in recent years have I managed to unlearn it.

I used to absolutely hate female beauty standards, but now I just don't care anymore. The other week we were talking about shaving and I showed a mutual friend my armpit hair and she was pretty bothered by it, which I took great amusement out of later. I find that not adhering to almost any feminine beauty standards makes it easier to narrow down my pool of friends and not getting too close to people who are clearly sexist and/or homophobic.

As someone who still lives at home I totally get this

Hopefully not, because you only insulted someone who isn't on Arocalypse.

Something I don't understand about romance: why shows like the bachelor and married at first sight are so popular when they lack any sort of substance, yet shows with fantasy and action and intricate plots get swept to the side by the majority.

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