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"Those books you felt like reading but procrastinated reading them? Read them now!
When your sis asks you to start watch Shadowhunter with her, read the books first! They are called The Shadowhunter Chronicles.
Read the Percy Jackson books. You won't regret it!
Do your best to make good friends, ask your sis for advice cuz she is good at it!
Stop riding Buna and start training with a klicker instead (a form of horsetraining, not sure what it's called in English) from the ground. It will be good for both of you! Make sure that your training together is funny and that she gets to work with her brain - it's the best for her!
And something very important - look up the terms "Asexual" and "Aromantic" asap (as soon as possible, since you didn't know what it stood for a while ago...). It will be good for you! Take pride in who you are.
Wait with coming out a little and think first, I know you suck at social things but please, try thinking some extra before you do social stuff!
See if you can get checked for Asperger's a little earlier. But please wait until you have started 7th grade because that school you are in before sucks.
Oh, and I know things felt like crap at that first school, and no I don't know if we'll ever be free of that time and what it did to us, but things will get better.
Chose Germany to study instead of French. French is impossible.
I guess I should also write some happy stuff about how everything will turn out well but who the fuck am I to know that? I managed without some older variation of me telling me advice, so you should too. Grow up and stop depending on someone else to give you the answers. *******.
Yeah yeah fine good luck or whatever."

(please never let me send advice to my younger self....)

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Research your brain. Your school notices your anger management issues and tries to deal with them at a surface level because that is what they need to sort out to run smoothly. If you want to work out what is really going on in there you will have to do it yourself.

put some effort in a diet right the hell now, you will have to deal with that later and the longer you leave it the more difficult getting healthy will become.

You have a kink, you will be unsure how to approach this for decades to come but for now just know that it is fine and you aren't some sort of freak. You will be much happier when you accept that and be open with yourself about finding pornography which works for you by the way.

Oh, and Leicester win the prem in 2016, that should sort out the student debt

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Get a better psychologist and put real effort into the therapy, it's hard but will make life so much better.

Do the things you are frightened of, don't let anxiety hold you back. 

Care less what other people think of you, their opinions really don't matter and most probably have barely even noticed your existence anyway.

Buy bitcoin.

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Don't worry so much about what's gonna happen next. Just chill out, enjoy it while you can. Savor your platonic relationships with others. Treat your friends, care for them, life is short.

Most importantly: things will get better. Don't leave this world. You have no idea how many people you will affect if you go now. Stay alive.

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Dude, you do too care what people think of you. You can be yourself without trying to prove it to everyone.

Also, hold onto your friends, its okay to be the first to reach out.

(Also telling myself what to do to avoid some events I'd rather just forget)

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To younger me: FIGHT BACK! Fight those bullies, punch them, kick them, don't you dare let them destroy your mental and physical health! It really sucked for me! ?
I really regret being quiet and scared. My mother has even informed me that she wouldn't have been mad if I'd been expelled for fighting back against bullies. I would've just been transferred to a new school. ?‍♀️

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To younger me: i know ur convinced u don't care what people think, but you actually do. Everything u do is to keep up a persona or character, and just because that fake self is unconventional, that doesn't mean it's not fake. U don't have to be anyone, you don't have to be interesting to matter. 

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To younger me:

DO NOT MAKE HOMOPHOBIC COMMENTS. (I never actually knew what “gay” meant so there were plenty of VERY regrettable moments in my past I’d slap my younger self for).

If there’s an issue, get out of the room, don’t just try to confront the bully.

Take notes of any feelings you have towards people, it’ll help later on.

Focus on your interests, start drawing at an early age.

Try to really be around your personal friends as much as possible, you’ll miss them.

Document every time you seem to be very distracted or you space out out of nowhere.

Look inward, find your beliefs on things, be sure what you actually want and believe.

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I would tell younger me to not get involved with the wrong people, to never have started smoking weed, and that I'm good enough and don't need to impress anyone or show off.

I would also tell my younger self to lower my expectations if I want a genuine, real friendship.

side note: don't do drugs kids 👍👍

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You won't actually like being tall, also this is how your queer.

School will try to teach you it is your fault you are broken. It's not and they only made it worse. Go to therapy.

You can find some friends on the internet, but be careful.

Reading boring books is just hard, and you won't be able to read the ones you like all the time either.

For me when I was very small though: don't pull it just because it says pull in big letters. It will scare you, and everyone in the building.

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dont cry too much if your childhood friend forgot you, you protected them and helped them through a lot so its not your fault if they desided to change croud.

dont blame yourself if bullysm is seen as cool between your classmates. you can always find someone else to have friendship with, maybe outside school, just open up more and dont lose hope on people. therere people you know little of that still remember you for little things youve done because you got out from the corner and made a positive impact on them, may it be a drawing or some help on homework or a joke you found embarassing or that comic that was your cry for help that worked.

so stay strong and stubborn, talk and dont let the pressure destroy you, or stress and anxiety are gonna bend you in a really bad way. thats really a part of me that i want back, so dont lose it.

(also for the love of god dont let your parents throw away our beloved comics, i cant find them anymore-)

ps: say always hi and smile to anyone, you never know if it will be the last time you get the chance.

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At a school assembly, I decided to start making jokes about Florida and going "BACK IN FLORIDA WE RESTLED ALLIGATORS IN THE POND." at my previous school everyone would say this one inappropriate phrase that I didn't know the meaning of, and when I said it at the assembly and it screwed me over BAD.

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7 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

At a school assembly, I decided to start making jokes about Florida and going "BACK IN FLORIDA WE RESTLED ALLIGATORS IN THE POND." at my previous school everyone would say this one inappropriate phrase that I didn't know the meaning of, and when I said it at the assembly and it screwed me over BAD.

Oh yeah, I still shudder remembering the dumb crap I've said simply because no one ever told me the definition. I called people a certain derogatory term for gay people and believe me I wish that the school would tell us what that meant early on rather than just letting that go. I'd slap my past self in the face with no hesitation.

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2 minutes ago, HelloThere said:

Oh yeah, I still shudder remembering the dumb crap I've said simply because no one ever told me the definition. I called people a certain derogatory term for gay people and believe me I wish that the school would tell us what that meant early on rather than just letting that go. I'd slap my past self in the face with no hesitation.

I would punch myself in the face and shove myself off a roof of a house with how much regret I have for it. At least I can kind of relate.

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1 minute ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

I would punch myself in the face and shove myself off a roof of a house with how much regret I have for it. At least I can kind of relate.

Oh yeah, there's the occasional time where all of that comes back and the only thing I want to do is just stop thinking, and absolutely obliterate my past self.

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9 minutes ago, HelloThere said:

Oh yeah, there's the occasional time where all of that comes back and the only thing I want to do is just stop thinking, and absolutely obliterate my past self.

Wait do you have a weird anxiety that everyone is manipulating you and you don't even notice it.

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5 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Wait do you have a weird anxiety that everyone is manipulating you and you don't even notice it.

I’ve more worried if I’m a decent person or not, or if my actions constantly make me look stupid. 

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Just now, HelloThere said:

I’ve more worried if I’m a decent person or not, or if my actions constantly make me look stupid. 

yeah, sometimes I imagine myself in a third-person perspective to see if what I'm doing looks normal.

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20 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

yeah, sometimes I imagine myself in a third-person perspective to see if what I'm doing looks normal.

There’s way too many times where I’m just like “ok would I look neurodivergent for doing this thing?” I mean I know that’s a really horrible assessment but I’m trying not to look weird by just existing.

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Just now, HelloThere said:

There’s way too many times where I’m just like “ok would I look neurodivergent for doing this thing?” I mean I know that’s a really horrible assessment but I’m trying not to look weird by just existing.

actually at my school although I don't think its good, the term "autistic donkey" is thrown around a lot, I think the term is terrible but for some reason some jerks still say it.

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