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- I have a hard time understanding the concept of queerplatonic and have decided it's not a helpful one for me. - Multiple times I've had crushes. Many of them, even. The thing that makes it different from alloromantic people is they aren't very strong and/or can fade quickly. I also can "get over" them easier if it doesn't work out. - My feelings on romance fluctuate. Most of the time I'm indifferent, but sometimes I'm favorable or repulsed. - I don't mind romance in fiction as long as it's done well, as with anything else. In fact, I've always loved shipping and finding out I'm aromantic didn't change that. - I may "technically" count as gray aromantic but I prefer to keep my labels simple and just say aromantic since it's an umbrella term. - I still have desire for a romantic relationship and have several throughout my life. - I'm not acespec at all, I'm aroallo and a lot of people seem to think just because I'm aromantic I'm also asexual.

You can definitely still be aromantic while having some attraction if you find the label fitting and helpful. I also fall under the little attraction definition of aromantic. I've had some crushes in my life, just not as often or intense compared to alloromantic people. Even been in several romantic relationships too. I would probably count as gray romantic if I wanted a specific label, but I prefer broad labels, so I just say aromantic. If you like an aromantic sublabel, you can identify that way, or just call yourself aromantic since it encompasses all arospec identities, either way is ok. There are lots of aromantic people who still experience some attraction and/or want romantic relationships, so you're definitely not alone.

Yeah, when I was in 6th grade (11 or 12 years old) I had a dream about kissing this random girl in my class. I don't know why my brain chose her since we barely even talked, but it led to me developing a bit of a crush on her. Also played a big part in me figuring out I'm not as straight as I thought I was. Fun times.

I fall somewhere in the gray area so I have crushes but it's definitely different from how alloromantics experience it. One of the best examples of this for me is how I was talking to my coworker and discovered she had similar interests. So I developed a bit of a crush on her until she mentioned she had a boyfriend and it disappeared. This was all in about 20 minutes, too. So that's how it is for me currently. I definitely also had crushes growing up, probably a mix of genuine crushes and "well, everyone else is doing it so I guess I have to pick one too". In elementary school, I had a bunch of crushes but I have no idea how real they were. Even then, I feel like I knew deep down I was different. It seemed like everyone was really into romance and "dating" but I didn't understand it, I just picked out some "crushes" on people I thought were cool to fit in. Not sure what was going on in elementary school, but I think I only developed actual romantic feelings when I got to middle school. I had the biggest crush on this guy for a while, then I lost interest. He started to get on my nerves, and also said he had a crush on another girl. I remember him confessing to her, then my best friend who knew about my crush checked in on me to see if I was ok, and I just went yeah I'm fine I don't care, I don't even have a crush on him anymore. I think I'm just way less invested in my crushes than a lot of alloromantic people. Never understood when they would talk about crushes like they're all consuming and they just have to get together with them. For me, crushes are like, well it'd be nice to date them, but I'm also fine with just being friends, since there's not too much of a difference between friendships and romantic relationships in my mind.

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Hi there, I'm an english first language french heritage speaker! I have an edge on french learning from growing up around so much french media. Basically my child brain picking up the language patterns from things like music and tv really helped me learning the language later in life. So my advice for learning any language would be to immerse yourself in it. You don't have to understand it fully when you're just getting started, but things like media made for kids is a good place to start. Film is also good because you have visual context for what's going on. Here's a couple french specific recommendations. I have a lot more but these are what helped me when first learning. Wakfu is a fantastic children's show, we actually watched it in my french class and it's great. We also watched a show called Extra French, but I have to warn you it's super cheesy as it's made for beginners to learn, not much substance. Music is also a great way to learn, there's a lot of good ones out there but one of my favorite artists I grew up with is Coeur De Pirate. Highly recommend seeking out other music as well, it's a great way to learn. Let me know if you have any questions, I consider myself an advanced french speaker and I'm always happy to help people learn the language.

Yup! I have that copied a lot so I can let my partner know. Coincidentally the last thing I have copied currently is a chickensmoothie pet.

"I'm offended by the non-capitalisation of your name"

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I'm a franco-american Texan which is. Certainly an interesting place to be culture wise. For the Texan part, my family was never religious but it seemed like all my friends were so I felt I had to follow along, including that I had to settle down, marry someone, and have kids. When I was younger I was obsessed with the idea of family, and dreamed of getting married with kids, but as I got older that desire kept lessening. I thought I had to settle down and have a "traditional" family like all my friends did, but when I got older and saw others having different family structures I realized that's not the case and I would probably be miserable trying to have a family like that. For the french part, we are a lot more open and relaxed about topics like sex and romance compared to where my family is currently living. So having moved to Texas my family had a hard time adjusting. I feel like I am on the fence between the two sides of my culture particularly with the very different views of sexuality. For french, it's considered a natural part of life and is not stigmatized, but for american, especially Texan, it's a lot more taboo. I learned a lot about this when I reconnected with my french side and I feel a lot more sexually liberated now. It's a very interesting topic to me, how the different cultures view sexuality.

I mean, to be completely honest, he's a fictional character. You have the right to see him however you want, and so do others. You also have the right to disagree on your interpretation as long as you're respectful of others. I see him as a gay aro dude though I prefer the source material and don't care for BBC Sherlock. I know other people see him differently, especially seeing as because of the times, Arthur Conan Doyle could not write him to be explicitly any type of queer. It's all implied. Every Sherlock is just another version of ACD Sherlock, who's not written to be any sexuality in particular. Once again though, I watched BBC Sherlock and don't care for it, this is just my opinion as a fan of Canon.

I'm offended that you're blaming them for this game's inactivity.

I haven't ever done real gambling since I never got the chance but I have always loved gambling in games... probably for the best so I don't really lose anything. Catch me breaking the bank in Fallout New Vegas with my maxed out luck stat.

People assuming I'm also ace, or that I have no interest in romance whatsoever. I've always been obsessed with fictional romance and am currently in a romantic relationship so that couldn't be further from the truth. Just all the assumptions in general. I also have seen people saying aro = unhealthy relationships and it's super annoying. Like yes I've had unhealthy relationships both romantic and otherwise but it's not because I'm aro. I live in bad education land so I had to learn about relationship stuff like setting boundaries the hard way. Also I'm autistic so that makes it even harder. It has nothing to do with me being aro.

I can't get a diagnosis so it's taken me a long time to accept it but I'm pretty sure I'm autistic. Multiple professionals have brought it up as a possibility and it explains so many of my problems. I'm still working on accepting it. I'm currently coming out of autistic burnout from continuously ignoring my needs and pushing myself too far and that was definitely a wake up call that I need to make some changes. Hoping I can get diagnosed but, well, American healthcare, and I'm not sure when I could get tested. I'm just focusing on learning more about my needs and how to improve my life for the time being.

That's ok, these are super cute! Thank you <3

I hadn't thought about this before and to be honest I don't remember much about the movie - but I do really like it. I like how it showed different kinds of relationships not necessarily romance focused. I liked the brotherhood between the Kens then the sisterhood with the Barbies. The arc with the mother and daughter also hit close to home for both me and my mom.

Yeah talk to them. Aros aren't all the same and this forum can only give general advice. I mean as a partnering aro. Communication is the most important. Also I'd like to note that fantasy and fiction =/= wanting the same thing in reality - a lot of aspec people like fantasies about fictional characters, celebrities, etc, because they're unattainable so it's not the same as wanting a relationship in real life. It can range from just finding a dynamic interesting but not wanting it at all to wanting a similar relationship.

I'm offended that I was busy and came back to people getting offended without me.

Bienvenue, welcome! I hope you enjoy your time here :)

I don't remember dreams a lot in general... but I've had several of those over the years so I'll try. I've had one where I was being massaged by an attractive man. Another example is I was a character in this fictional world so the fantasies I had about the characters from it came alive.

Nice, it feels good to find a label that suits you

Wow, I don't really know much about Persona but that's beautiful! Nice work. The colors really go well with the aromantic flag.

Welcome! I'm dewy, I'm also 18 and I like tumblr as well. It's a great place for community and I'm glad you feel welcome with the aros. It's always nice to have a community you're united with. I hope you like it here and can meet some cool people - there's plenty of us here 😎