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I relate to this all too well lmao, glad you got out of there :)

Probably a few months ago when I realized that you don't need romantic/sexual relationships to not be lonely in life. The only reason I pursued them was the fear of being alone. once I realized that you don't need them it sorta clicked that I was aro/ace

I do appreciate the validation, I was scared to ID as aro(even though I did because of the very little to no attraction) bit because I thought it may have been untrue or upset people who are arospec. Even though Aroace feels accurate and correct to me. And ohh okay, I;m sorry to hear that you went through that :(

Ty for the validation on that, genuinely. I guess I just got into the mindset of “well identifying as aromantic is wrong because of that 2 times i fell in love with someone in my entire life” but I guess the definition of a romantic is feels a little to no, romantic attraction. And i’ve never heard of caedromantic before! What does that mean if I can ask? I’m really new to the Aro community so i don’t know many of the other identities under the umbrella. So i guess being aro/ace fits, and I feel like I identify the most with aromantic, because of how little interest and attraction i feel. The person who actually told me that is also a Transmed… so if that gives you an idea of her beliefs. Tysm! 🖤💚🤍

As the title says, Over the past year or two, I realized I might be on the aromantic spectrum. I’ve never been “interested” in the whole romance culture, and honestly find it to be a bit much, It also makes me uncomfortable to be around it. However, there have been 2 times, with 2 separate people years apart where I did fall in love with them. Even with them, I wasn’t into the whole “couple goals” type stuff, I enjoyed their companionship and sharing my life and interests/hobbies with them. I’m not interested in romance or a romantic relationship, and I wouldn’t rule it out but it’s also not something I actively seek out. Most of the time when I’ve tried dating people, I never really felt anything and just felt uncomfortable the entire time. As I said, I’ve only felt romantic attraction twice, other than that it’s been purely platonic and I honestly prefer QPPs and close friendships. I think I may be just extremely demi-romantic and extremely close to being fully aro. However, when I came out as Aro and started expressing how I think I may be aro/spec because I experience very very little romantic attraction, I was also told that there has to be something wrong with me because I’ve had relationships in the past, so I "can't be aro and probably just am too traumatized" I’m not really sure, am I arospec? Grayromantic? If anything, I feel like I'm 98% aromantic