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@ApatheticEchidna I like your suggestion. The only thing that gives me pause is the "no violence" that might be too harsh. It would discount pretty much all Pixar movies for example. But maybe it can be nuanced a bit.

Don't you think that it being in another language than English would deter people from partaking in it? I personally don't mind getting all the dialogue through subtitles, since I've grown up watching a lot of movies that way, but I know many people haven't and they might prefer knowing as much of the language as possible. Plus, there's often a lot of cultural context to a story. Most people have at least a general idea about the context of American or British media, but I doubt many people would get the context of a lot of premise for, say a Swedish tv show. So that's my reasoning for suggesting language. If we would like something with as wide appeal as possible.

On this board there are always many recommendation threads for aro themed books/movies/shows etc. @Apathetic Echidna made a list earlier of a lot of different ones. I think it could be fun to try to determine a few that could be seen as the ultimate aro content. Things that aro themed but also with very wide appeal. Something you could recommend to any aro and expect them to like it. The way we could determine this is to make a list of some criteria the content should have in order to make it as accessible for as many aros as possible. When we have a list I could ask the different users who made suggestions in various threads to fill in which criteria their recommendations fit and see which ones get the highest score. Obviously these factors wont mean that people automatically will like it. But I thought it could be a fun way to sum up all different suggestions of various content. My thoughts on criteria: No romance (as an alternative there could be romance present as long as it's not the topic of the story) It should be in English (since I think that's the most widely accessible language and it's also easier for people to get the cultural context) No graphic sex or violence (possibly it shouldn't have sex at all since some aros are also sex repulsed) Passes the Bechdel test (or possibly some more nuanced way at judging if well written female characters are included) Diversity (presence of different ethnicites, LGBT+ , dissabilites, what else?) What objective criteria do you think general accessible aro content should have?

To me the number one perk of not desiring monogamy or children is that I'll have so much more time for my career. I feel like it's such a big advantage.

Good idea with a poll. It's interesting for everyone to see how many with their orientation are on this forum. And the demographics overall too of course.

I'm sorry you have to go through that. My first instinct was to urge you to confront your friend about his hypocritical behavior, asking him how he'd feel if someone would tell him that his orientation is just something to fix. But then I realized that might not be what you want. I've long had the reflection that aros concerns don't necessarily have that much in common with other parts of the LGBT+ movement. If I ever make an aro group IRL I think I'll try to make it a more general one of "people who're not into romance".

I would ? Though I'd rather you write them here as comments

When I read here online it seems everyone has different habits about how often they tell other people they are aromantic, and in what way. I personally almost never tell anyone, because I feel like the topic rarely come up. But lately I've been thinking about maybe bringing it up more often in casual conversations. Because it could help introduce people to the concept, and it would also make me more likely to find fellow aros. Do you ever take aro visibility into account when you decide who to come out to? Do you use the term aromantic? Or do you talk more in general terms about uninterested in romantic relationship.

@hermi1e that sounds like a good story arch. Not cliché at all. I suppose the main cliché to watch out for with aro ace characters is that they can't love. Or that their lack of romantic or sexual desires is due to some past trauma. So try to make clear that's not the case.

I see, sometimes I tend to just extrapolate from peoples posts because I don't have a lot to say about the question itself I've never experienced what you're describing. But, on the other hand, I have three siblings. I suppose the closest I've come to it is to kinda want to experience pregnancy and thinking about maybe having a baby for another person. But in reality I would never do it.

I also thought of adoption. I'm sure there are older kids in need of a home. Though, don't adopt one just to get a heir

I've read all the Twilight books more than once.

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Nice to see some allos are catching on.

That's a good point. This is a thought I often come back to with aromanticism, that it's not just a topic for LGBT+ community. So many people in general could benefit from a more nuanced understanding of attraction and different types of relationships.

Advertising of aro related things are always welcomed here, at least by me ? The web comic heartless is really well drawn and has an aro ace protagonist. It's even a central plot point to the story. http://heartless-comic.com/

Well put. Also, many allo aros doesn't want casual sex with strangers but rather comitted non exclusive sexual relationships and those are pretty much non existent in media.

YMBAI if you as a child were weirded out by childless couples since clearly the only purpose of marriage was to have children.

I didn't know that. I think the author stayed true to her character though. I never read her feelings for Bhaer as romantic. More like trust and a longing for comfort.

The rest of the book is not about romance. It's mostly about values and how to choose your priorities. I found it very rewarding. The subtle art of not giving a fuck, by Mark Manson.

There's a playlist on spotify called demoromantic love songs. I've not listened to it but maybe it's a good place to start the search https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4dyAyDOrMG2X1DkZfCNnbF

From this "self help" book I'm reading. I thought other aro's might enjoy it.

In Sweden it's not really a thing to kiss at midnight. We toast champagne and take groupies ? At least me and my friends do. I can't speak for everyone I suppose.

In Sweden a lot of people never marry. The act itself is not expected. But of course living in a romantic monogamous relationship is what most people strive for still.