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I wonder if OP is still asking for suggestions 2,5 years later Anyway, for those who like sci-fi, The Expanse is very light on romance. There's like one romantic relationship which doesn't take up much focus at all, and lots of other great relationships. Not much sex either (don't let the sex scene in the pilot fool you) The female characters get to be prominent without having to be paired up with the men.

I have tried writing before but I would always get stuck right away. So I thought nano would be a good thing to really force me to write. And it did. I wrote more than 4000 words which is much more than I ever wrote before. And I also realized that I'm really bad at imagining characters, outside the pov.

I tried it this year, but only for six days. It's just so many words. I don't write fiction usually so I thought nanowrimo would be a good way to force me to really try it out. My story was actually aro themed.

I'll also join.

There went that theory. Interesting that not as many men feel the need to talk about their asexuality either. Maybe it's dependent on which forums men vs women prefer? For example there are probably more men on reddit, they might write about asexuality and aromanticism there.

I wonder if that means there are more guys in the ace forums?

Väelkommein!

This is a difficult situation and I don't think you should feel bad about giving in to pressure. I read your earlier post and it seems to me like you are pretty set on not being in a romantic relationship. This sentence stood out for me "They told me a relationship was about give and take, which made me feel guilty because they gave up a lot to be in a relationship with me, like cuddling and frequent physical and verbal affirmations they would probably typically receive in a romantic relationship." I'm in no way a relationship expert but I think the give and take aspect should not be something one does begrudgingly. It's supposed to feel good to give something to your partner, not like a sacrifice. I've been in similar situations before. My first (and only serious) boyfriend which I dated for a year. I never felt romantic love for him but I cared about him and wanted to experience a relationship. I'd feel guilty about not having romantic feelings for him and not being as attached to him as he was with me. This made me compromise a lot about my own feelings and comfort. After a year I realized that it wasn't what I wanted and I broke up with him. He was devastated, almost suicidal, and clung desperately to our relationship. I wanted to still be friends and he wanted too, but everytime we met he'd feel sad about our break-up and ask for romantic interaction. Eventually I just had to break it off completely. The reason I'm sharing this is as an example that it can be really difficult for Allos to go from romantic relationship to platonic. If you break up you might have to break entirely, cut all contact. I understand that this would be difficult as you live so close to each other and have many friends in common. I wish I had some solid advice for it. All I can say is that I understand what you're going through and I think you should not feel guilty about doing what feels right for you.

I feel like I could never have become anything other than aro. But I also feel like it's part of my personality and we know personality can change. In the book Sex at Dawn the authors writes about research of sexual orientation, among other things. It has been shown in studies that in general female sexuality is more fluid than male. Females can acually change from say heterosexual to bisexual over life. While males are more influenced by early sexual experiences. If sexual orientation can change then maybe romantic can too.

I'm not sure what would constitute an ace song. Which songs have you found in this category?

I'm sorry you didn't get the support you wanted. My mom said something similar to me when I came out. She also said she didn't belive it was a thing ? Don't worry about being sure. Maybe you will feel different later but if aromantic fits your experience now, use it. For comparison, imagine if a person feels heterosexual but is hesitating to say so because they could be bi, maybe they just haven't met the right partner yet. No one would hold it against this person if they realized later that they were bi, and neither should they hold anything against you. If romance happens to you it will happen, regardless of how you think of yourself.

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@karnzter many of your suggestions seems plays more like breakup songs to me than aromantic. Someone who have been in romantic love but their partner didn't treat them right. Maybe my mind interprets it different.

So far it's twice as many females. But only the respondents so it might not be representative ?

There's an older thread like this one too. http://www.arocalypse.com/forums/topic/1245-our-favourite-aromantic-songs/

@karnzter I was only referring to the title. Since I don't speak French and didn't read the translation.

@karnzter I'll have to take your word about the French ones. L'amour doesn't sound very aromantic I have one in Swedish then. Om Sanningen Ska Fram - Eric Amarillo If we see it as a kinda satire on ideals of romantic relationships. Here is a translation of some of the lyrics: If I listen when you're talking, not speaking about myself, if I say you are beautiful, but it doesn't matter. Because beauty is within us, if I lie about things like that. If i say things are good, but don't talk about my work. If I give you my tears, but is strong when you are weak Playing sweet home Alabama, on a fire side guitar. If I'm sure of myself but never too full of myself. If I'm a alpha in bed, but never fight. Would you sleep with my then if truth be told? Would you sleep with me then, would you sleep with me? Would you sleep with my then if truth be told?

@Silyun I really like Friends - Anne Marie and Marshmello Thanks for the recommendation.

Maybe some new Scandinavians have joined?

I made a playlist from the songs suggested I don't really have many suggestions myself as I mostly listen to instrumental music. Maybe U + Ur Hand - Pink

Which book was it? ?

YMBAI you read a book that ends with a romantic couple breaking up but starting friends and you think What a happy ending.

I often write drafts or brainstorms on paper and then on computer. Mostly I write either forum posts or articles about urban planning. I'd like to write fiction too but I have a hard time getting into it.

And .... now it's ended. A year or so to the next one. Great ending! And since this is an aro forum after all, I'll add the observation that there's so little romance on this show. So much character interactions and relationships, so many prominent female characters and even so, only one couple this whole season. Not even any will-they-wont-they tension between anyone. (Though the fandom is certainly thick with shipping).