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Maybe if they don't give people what they want they'll love it even more though. Like when Game of Thrones started the trend of killing of the characters people rooted for. Maybe some show will do the equivalent to romantic love. Every potential romantic story will just crash and burn. (Or not main to t If) I can't delete that text on the phone for some reason. Also I changed the quote without meaning to.

I was thinking about just writing mine in the family chat

Are you afraid they will take it badly?

At some point I'm going to have to sit down with my family and explain what aromantic is and that I am one. It wont be a big deal because neither of my parents have ever put any pressure on me about that I should be in a romantic relationship. But somehow because it's not an issue it feels very weird to bring it up We never ask each other about our love lives. There's never a question that might go into the topic. But I still want to tell them because it's such a huge part of my life and affects all the major choices I make about it. I'll probably just bring it up apropo of nothing at dinner or something.

It's a good format for a thread. There's so much different varieties of confessions one can make. I have another one. I confess that when I make plans for my future a huge part of it is ensuring I won't be alone too much, because I think that might turn me weird(er). And that I sometimes worry about friends or just people in general that spend much time alone and feel like it's not good for them. Edit: Actually "weird" is the wrong word. Antisocial is better to describe it. Or self centered.

I'm waking this again. I'm a bad aro because: I don't mind romance in fiction or movies and especially not in songs. I don't have squishes I think I kinda want other aros to be like me. That there are certain things with my personality that I tie in with my aromanticnes so I feel it's strange that other aros won't have those traits.

Jo in Little Women reads as aromantic asexual to me. She's based on the author who seems to have been gay (though that was no invented at the time ;)) So if you read "the extra material" so to speak she's not aro or ace. But the book just portray her as not being romantically or sexually interested in anyone. The main character in Ann Leckie's Ancilary trilogy also reads as aromantic asexual to me. But it's complicated. As for books not contaning romance or sex, I looked at all the books I have in my read list and it's interesting to note that fiction ones lacking romance and sex are either childrens books or old time classics. The only one that is neither is Elephant Gold by Eric Campbell. Also some books by Jodi Picoult but I don't really like them enough to recommend them.

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I've gotten almost the opposite impression. That men who live alone after a certain age are often seen as weird. While women who live alone can be the "fun aunt" or the friend who actually have time to hang out, because she's not busy with husband and kids all the time.

Contact is a great book. I read it not too long ago. I didn't read Ellie as aro. She seemed to have a desire for a romantic relationship but had trouble finding a guy that would respect her. She being very much in love with some musician at one time during her college and they were in a relationship but he left her.

I view Sherlock from Elementary as aromatic heterosexual. I haven't watched past season two though because I got the feeling the series was not going places I'd enjoy.

I have no problem with it. In fact I'd be fine with nakedness being less of a taboo. For example I wish I didn't have to wear swim wear at the beach. Skinny dipping is much nicer and one wouldn't have to worry about carrying around wet clothes or struggling to change inside a towel.

When I was a teenager I dated a guy for almost a year and lied to him about being in love with him. We had just dated so long I felt that I should be in love with him. I liked a lot about our relationship and I was curious about sex and felt a real pressure that I should do it before I got too old. It all seems rather crazy to me now But I don't regret it really because I learned a lot about myself, even though I didn't realize that until much later.

Sometimes I think about how I'd like to write one of those romance novels with the "dark disturbed guy" who's jelaous and possessive. Only it would actually realistic so the arch would be that he becomes increasingly more abusive and possessive until she fears for her life.

That's crazy! I'd hate to hear what he goes to next. I'm thinking about coming out to my parents. Not because my disinterest in relationships has ever come up with them. I think I could be single forever and they would never ask about it. They probably feel that it's my business who I do or do not date. But being aromantic is such a big factor in how I plan my life. Right now I'm looking for an apartment and I'm thinking about getting one with three rooms so I can find two flat mates to live with me. Because I don't plan to ever live with a partner and I don't think I would like living alone in the long run. So when I discuss my apartment plans I feel I should tell them but it feels a bit to complicated to bring up just as a side note while talking about estimated values or whatever. I think they might get kinda confused about the concept so I want to have a good moment to explain.

I know it's kinda weird I just think they wanted to present some different information and jokes about this topic and didn't put that much thought into it.

Yes it's hard to say about historical people. They could also have been homoromantic and therefore not interested in marrying women. I tried searching for "famous aromatics" and came across this venndiagram which made me laugh.

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I totally thought I was straight for a long time and just needed to find "the one". I tried, for many years, dating guys I found attractive but usually lost interest after the first or second date. I used to think it was because I just had very specific interests and I couldn't connect with someone who didn't share them. So the drop to that theory was when I connected with a guy who did share those interests and then felt nothing about it once we went on a date. That was the first time I started to realize I might not actually like men, and I immediately went to lesbian, because I thought the only other option was asexual and that didn't seem to fit. I was quite freaked out by the thought. Not of being a lesbian but of having gone so long without realizing it. Then I started to think about how I had never been in love, google some phrases related to that and found the term aromantic. I feel it fits extremely well and even though I'm not entirely sure about my sexual orientation still, I know that perusing a romantic relationship is not the way to figure it out.

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I haven't told anyone except my closest friends, and a few guys who were persistent in asking me out on a date. It's not due to shyness or anything. It just hasn't come up. The closest thing I've come to the topic is when my mom and I talked about women having grandchildren and I was curious how she'd feel if none of us kids had any children. If she'd be dissapointed. She said she wouldn't be and she'd totally respect our choices if we decided not to have any. I'll probably tell them at some point though. They'd be interested to know. I agree with you who posted about coming out would be good just to spread the word to people who are aromantic without knowing that's a thing. Think how lucky we are to be born in a time of internet.

I really agree with this. I might show this video to one of my romantic friends to see what she feels about it.

I had trouble coming up with a good title for this topic. My question is do you know of anyone who is famous in some context other than a LGBTA and is aromantic? I'm asking because I listen to a podcast called invisibilia where they did an episode on Daniel Kish who is an expert in human echolocation which allows blind people to see by using click noises. In the episode they mentioned that he is aromantic. They didn't use the term but it was very clear that's what they meant. I thought perhaps we could make a list. If anyone has more people to add?

I recommend it. You can also arrange different specific activities and meet people that way. Me and a guy met up to make a meal including crickets, because we both wanted to try it.

I'm thinking couchsurfing is a good way to kinda "date" platonically. It's a site were people can offer to host people who're visiting their city. Or just to meet up and show them around. I've hosted a few people and it's always been a good time. You go out eating, get to know one another. A few times I think they would have been open to sex had I wanted it. And there's no expectation of any romance because they are just there for a few days at the most.