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I recently ordered a new bed and I got a wider than I really need because I feel it's embarrassing to have a single bed at my age I'm not planning to share it with anyone and don't really need any wider than a 90 but I got a 120 (going with the SI units, sorry Americans but inches are stupid). So now I have a wider bed for no practical use. Well, on the plus side I have space for my reading pad and phone next to me on the bed, instead of having to place them all the way over at my night stand.

I think you're on to something. Historically women were allowed to care about marriage, homemaking and children, so that's the roles they could have in entertainment.

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I'm not romance repulsed but I'm kinda indifferent to it. Most in the time in stories I just ignore it and focus on the rest of the story. However there has been a few times when I've reflected over that I really like the love story and that it adds to my enjoyment. Most recent have been two different books: Shards of Honor by Lois McMaster Bujold and Uprooted by Naomi Novik. I'm not gonna go into the books but I wanted to post the titles in case someone else had read them and wanted to comment. I've been trying to think why I liked the love stories and I think it's because there's no anguish abut the romance. In most stories about romantic love it's portrayed as kind of stressful and draining. The two main women of these books just know what they feel and act on it. Does anyone else have exceptions to disregard of romance?

Now I have talked to my mom. A year from when I first thought of it. It's just hard to find my family members in quiet situations without having to make a very big deal about it. But yesterday my mom and I had a quick lunch together and I asked her if she knew about the term aromantic and then explained what it was and that I was it. She actually made a much bigger deal about it than I expected (sorry to say to you others who are considering it). Yesterday she didn't have much to say but today she had thought a bit and came to me to talk about it. She told me that she had tried to read about the term online but not found anything and she was doubting that this was really something that exists and maybe I was just reserved and didn't want to let someone in. I didn't take this so hard though because I know that she, like myself, always wants to make up her mind quickly about things but is not hesitant to change it and doesn't mind if someone else thinks different than her. She also wanted to understand better too and asked me questions about it. I gave her my standard example (which I seem to use for everyone that doubt the idea of aromantic) that if someone is hetero how do they know that they just haven't met the right person of the same gender yet? Also I assured her that I wasn't putting myself in some box and that I would always just do what felt right for me.

I might like to do something like that if the option ever came up. Pregnancy is actually really fascinating to me. I'm sure it'd be very uncomfortable but also interesting to see all the weird changes of my body. Also that the kid can hear sounds in the uterus and taste the food in the amniotic fluid. If I knew someone who'd make a great parent I might have a child for them. I doubt the opportunity will come up though, which is probably just aswell because what if I wouldn't want to give the baby up. Hormones can do crazy things I've heard

Today was my last day of work for 2017. Vacation until 8th of January

It seems to me that the most commonly used gender neutral pronoun in English is They. I feel kinda uncomfortable about this term because it feels weird for me to use a plural pronoun for one person. I suppose that maybe native English speakers have a easier time with this since it's kinda an extension of using the same word for second person and fourth person. I just feel like all my childhood years of English classes crashes in my brain when I try to think of They as a single person. Am I being silly and should just gt used to it? I'd much rather prefer a third pronoun. I've seen some different exponentiations on that, like xe or e, but they all seem kinda clunky to me. What is your preferred gender neutral pronoun (in English or other language)? Also a disclaimer, I'm quite uninformed about this topic compared to many people, so feel free to ignore me if I add nothing interesting.

Well, that is true. Maybe I can just think of it as a coordinate transformation problem and I'll be less upset I hope you're right. I'm just worried this will make them feel like outcasts. Hopefully they will teenage rebel by reading Charles Darwin or something.

This is VERY off-topic but I think people on this board give good advice in general and are not judgemental, so I'll give it a try. I'm a participant in this language buddy program where native Swedish speakers are paired up with new Swedes learning the language. I'm parried up with a woman from Syria who is married with three kids. She's a very sweet person who works very hard to learn the language and I enjoy hanging out with her and her family. She's very religious, which I'm not used to since Swedes in general are very indifferent to religion but she's never judgemental about it, so it hasn't been an issue between us. However, the other day she brought up that she doesn't believe the earth moves around the sun because the Quran says the sun moves around the earth. I couldn't help to respond that it's not true. To ignore basic science for religion is just too strange to me. Her 11 year old son got involved in the conversation and both he and his mother stated that everything the Quran says is true. I knew they believe in Islam and follows all of it's rules but I didn't think they took everything literal. I worry about the children growing up believing this, to me it seem akin to child abuse to convince them of such a rejection of science. I'm afraid such a view will make them feel like outcasts in Swedish society. Most Swedes would mock such thinking as extremely ignorant and even find it offensive or threatening. I think the way I handled it was the total wrong way, to just reject it outright and say that it's wrong. A better way would have been to ask questions about it and try to make them see it from a new angle but I'm not sure really how. I tried searching for advice online but only found a bunch of Islamophobic stuff. Then I tried instead of searching for advice about people taking the bible too literary but this gave me the opposite problem in that all the search results was about how to convince people who didn't believe in the bible Does anyone have reflections or advice about this? Maybe I'm overacting and the kids will be fine.

I just rewatched Zootopia and I just wanted to state: that is one good movie. My favorite animated film, I think. Who else have seen it?

Maybe more people should

Go Sweden @Josie I'm from there too.

Sydney in I Love You Man. He is not interested in any romantic relationship and his old friends are all married and doesn't have as much time to hang out anymore.

I thought of some other ones .. kind off The way way back (though the kid is the protagonist) Uptown girls (I think she does get together with the guy at the end but he's not important) Ex machina

That's an interesting take on it. I can why someone might feel this way. I feel a bit similar in that I enjoy the shipping as a fandom activity, separated from the actual show. I don't read fanfics but I enjoy reading peoples arguments for an against peoples pairing. Because mostly it all comes down to how they see them as characters and what people they'd connect with. Also I like the silly shipping like these two are pretty and should kiss. It's fun.

Mysteriet på Greveholm (the mystery at Count Island) is the earliest thing I remember scaring me. It was my bogeyman for years. All the most terryfying nightmares it was that skeleton man chasing me. Look how terrifying! The only thing from when I was a child that still scare me are some of the ghost stories. Like of people stepping out mirrors or stuff.

It's always sad when someone you think might be a potential friend romozones you It feels impersonal somehow. That maybe they talked to you only because of involuntary romantic urges rather than a conscious decision.

I was thinking about that one too but wasn't sure if I'd put it in the same category. I think it do belongs to it.

Now when I actually think about it I realize some of them are books and most have "the other guy" as a new love interest for the woman. I always forget about the other guys because I don't care about them. A few examples though: Sliding doors Legaly Blond Tina - What's Love Got To Do with It Her ( )

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Those are great I wish I had some to share in return but I can't think of any.

There are some lists on this forum of movies without romantic stories in them. I feel like there's also another category which aros could enjoy which is movies with messages against romantic love. Movies where the protagonist is in a bad romantic relationship and then leaves for the freedom and personal growth of being single. I know many examples of this but one that comes to mind, because I watched it last night, is 28 days with Sandra Bulock, where she is sentenced to rehab and has to confront her past and her addictions. She has this destructive romantic relationship which she holds on to because he is the only person that cares about her.

Whenever I do the hypothetical scenario of being able to talk to a younger me, or going back in time and living my life again, I always get stuck in such theorizing like time paradoxes and changing history. I always start with the small thoughts, like that I would tell that popular guy what a creep he was when he talked about Catcher in the Rye and he agreed with the protagonists view about girls and sex. But then I go into how if I was around at the time of some big disasters I'd have to warn people and how would I go about that. And also how would I make lots of money and influence the direction of society.

I want to nitpick this though with that further population growth is mainly about the boom generations growing up and replacing the smaller older generations. Birth rate is actually pretty close to stable at 2 children per woman. Hans Rosling desribes it well http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FACK2knC08E&t=19m16s Carrying capacity has been estimated at much lower numbers before. And number of people doesn't seem to be that closely related to resource consumption, since a vast minority (17%) does a majority of the consumption (80%). I suppose bringing down world population fast could be our best option since lowering consumption seems impossible. We will have to figure out how to deal with a much larger share of old population then with fewer working people to support them. Hopefully Japan will be forced to figure it out and we can learn from them. I don't have the option to involve children in my work either. But I have some options in my free time. I signed up to be language buddy to a new Swede who is married with kids so I get the opportunity to interact with them. And if I wanted to I could join a sport or cultural organization and help out with the kids there. It would be kinda cool if one could incorporate kids into the work life somehow though. Maybe there could be more mentor programs or field trips for school children.