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interesting thing came up in the last aromantic social. the idea of enjoying listening to music in languages you dont understand which means you don't get loads of romantic lyrics. Is this something people here do? if you do are there any songs you particularly like because of that?

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yum love beetroot, also like a soup that looks like I'm eating blood (also as an aside, fried gator tail sounds awesome) beef stew

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one I found annoying in a different way was Syriana interesting movie by the way, political intrigue involving the selling off of oil fields in the middle east. however it has a lot of people who the movie struggles to humanize. not sure the best way to put that but you have morally dubious secret agents, middle eastern royalty with oil money, people involved in Islamic fundamentalist groups. The movie has a need to show the audience that these people are just guys. Once I realised this was going on it was very difficult to avoid. The way the movie makes these people human is *he has a wife and kids*. It gets slightly annoying.

I find this quite interesting. I'm a bloke and being raised as a guy in the class/social background I was in meant that the messages I got about romantic media were very different. My knee jerk reaction to romantic media would be either 'this is for teenage girls' or 'this is for bored old housewives'. I think I was sort of expected to not like romantic media. to find it irritating or childish in particular were the default view. If anything the 'bad' thing to do would be to admit to liking the sappy romance scenes, especially if it was the sort liked by teenage girls. That would make you the odd one out.

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we have a roundup. https://nextstepcake.wordpress.com/2022/07/24/carnival-aros-june-2022-roundup/ have a look here if you are interested

ok. the way I tend to think about this is power imbalance in a relationship. Its not wrong to feel some attraction towards a teacher, thats some feelings you can't really do much about. However it is wrong to be in a relationship with a teacher where that power balance comes in. So if you have one schoolkid, a teenager with no adult experience, limited freedom to get out of a bad situation. That person should not be getting into a close relationship with someone who has such great ability to control them. Think of the power a teacher could have over that student, for example if their parents trust the teachers word they have an immense ability to do harm with very few places the student could go to help. Where I am in the UK our law on sexual offenses is very explicit on this point when it comes to sexual relationships. basically no sex if you are in a 'position of trust' over someone under 18, even if by pure age limits it would be seen as ok. Because tehse relationships are generally bad and dangerous to the younger party we discourage them, but sometimes that gets translated as saying its wrong to feel that attraction, which is not really the point. with regard to platonic relationships I guess the same thought would apply. It is not a good idea to treat a teacher as a friend in the same way you might have schoolfriends, that person is a grown ass adult and can exert a lot of power on a naive student. But to just think that a teacher is decent and you would like that sort of person as a friend or companion is not some moral failing.

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There's a short story collection called 'bones of green and Hearts of gold' by K.A.Cook. https://aroworlds.com/fiction/collections/bones-of-green-and-hearts-of-gold/ Free to read from here. The site gives you more detail on what the stories are about.

now thats cool, also makes me really want an aro longbow

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i reckon you're right about that, good on them. and they back it up, looks like you can play that way if you want to.

welp, its gonna be a short life either way with those choices. i'll take the milk as I have seroius questions about 'most dirty' WYR have free beer for life or free ice cream for life

you feel motivated to do everything, get really overwhelmed and still do nothing my superpower is that i can punch through walls

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