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welcome, to be honest I am yet to find a show with a cat in where the cat isn't the best character, cats are just that great. Anyhow, hope you like it here

moved to new work, ended up finding two girls were ace. That didn't fit but they were the first time I had really been told you could separate a desire for romance from a desire for sex in such a permenant way. I knew people could have casual sex (me) and i knew people could have love without sex (a few older couples i knew) but i guess i thought of this as a sort of stopgap. there was a perfect ideal of what a relationship should be and if you were lacking any of those parts it was because you wanted them but practically couldn't get them. (ok, warning for anyone who wants it, I am going to discuss how I thought about sex for a bit here) Basically the way I thought it worked was i would shag around for a while from my mid/late teens. then at some point i would gain this desire to settle down and start a committed relationship, start looking for something which i had been taught was more 'meaningful' than a casual fuck. I also had that very cynical view that men put up with romance in order to get sex. I didn't really get the idea that a guy might actually enjoy, say, treating his partner to a fancy date for the sake of the date. that was just what you do to get laid in my eyes. Well the years had went by and i still hadn't had any desire to settle down. I also started realising that the other guys i knew were far more enjoying this idea of romance than i had believed they should, i lost a lot of that grumpy teenage outlook on wanting sex and having a slightly more sensible mindset of what people wanted from a relationship. meeting those two girls gave me a whole new outlook on how i think about romance and i slowly realise that my idea about having this realisation at some point in the future that i want to settle down is not a normal way to think about love. Also, and i have said this partly in jest before but it is true. All this talk about settling down when i was older was coming head on with a horrifying realisation that i might actually be older. put all that together and you get me looking up aromanticism and reading aromantic experiences and thinking 'oh balls, this sounds a lot like me'.

I mean, probably because space is just so damn big. The other option is that their apparent habit of abducting drunk dudes in the middle of nowhere and sticking a probe up their bums is actually not on. Maybe any alien that wants to visit earth is put on a watchlist.

Turns out romance can be replaced with a teasmade This would be utterly terrible for me because I leave a lot of notes lying around to remind me to do stuff or to remind me where I put things. Sorry dear, the love note says 'fix red shirt, bring trousers home, empty big rucksack'

At the moment I'm listening to my neighbours singing sweet caroline ☹️

well feeling like throwing up when someone kisses you is certainly an interesting reaction. Have you had a look at people's experiences of romance or sex repulsion. Reading peoples experiences of them may be more helpful to working yourself out than asking directly if you are aro.

Welcome, also yeah, Aria, cracking name although noodles is close in terms of coolness.

If we're going to do good April fools videos I have to recommend this classic.

Oh God what have I seen. spoilered, mention of sex

Oh god. Like, this is something I have wondered about, but at least I know I could bring my parents around to the idea of saving money/having two incomes for one place even if they didn't accept the relationship. Also the whole how will you split up the furniture thing seems really wierd, like. it isn't that hard to split dozens of items roughly equally between two people, or maybe they expect you to saw a sofa in half. Sounds really like a sort of 'we dont like this, better try to find a reason'. Hope things get better for you, and good luck. Cohabiting with a good friend sounds really cool and you deserve to be excited about it.

http://drgrumpyinthehouse.blogspot.com/2022/04/accuracy.html

money yeah, I know frogs are great but I don't think its worth that much, I need the cash. money or fame(but less money)

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Really interesting pair of articles by a woman named Amy Andrada. I think this is something some people here would like. https://medium.com/fourth-wave/why-arent-the-other-kids-playing-with-my-son-guest-post-by-amy-andrada-2b56d9b55412 https://medium.com/fourth-wave/what-happened-when-a-single-mom-started-wearing-a-wedding-ring-guest-post-by-amy-andrada-b175daf83e53 Basically, Amy is single and has a young son, son realises kids aren't playing with him, well they are but the other mothers try to keep the kids away. She starts wearing a fake wedding ring and the reaction changes. more people talk to her, kid is invited to places more.

ok I'm going to plug this thing from AUREA (mainly because I helped out in it) https://www.aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/diy-pride-gear-part-4 These are a selection of DIY pride things to have a go at.

As everything green is ours we obviously own Ireland

Ah sorry, that was my bad on the stars one. What I should have said was something like 'Taking someone out to see the stars' which is arguable but I would say fits in with your cambidge definition in that it is an action done to express your feelings, although it may have little practical effect. If I understand the romantic mind right, you offer to do something with your romantic partner to express the feeling of love towards them. This would then be a gesture in that it is an action done to express feelings, rather than because there is any practical desire to watch the stars. But yeah, sorry about that I really didn't think through the distinction between doing the activity and the gesture of taking someone to do the activity.

watching the stars with someone. stars are just legit fucking cool.

I think it's a load of bull

The Encyclopedia Galactica, in its chapter on Love states that it is far too complicated to define. The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy has this to say on the subject of love: "Avoid, if at all possible." can't believe I forgot this one before

welcome, you have a very beautiful username, although getting up early is not usually something I would dddescribe as beautiful. Also I like your profile picture, looks very pretty.

fiiiine, I guess its time to put this pun chain out to pasture

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not sure how long we can keep milking this for