Tallow

I've been researching about autism and adhd for over 8 months now and I finally got diagnosed like 3 hours ago!! I have both! Feeling very validated right now!!! That is all. :) (btw i'll probably not respond to any comments if i get them because aaaaaaaaaaaa, yknow?)

QPRs to me are just relationships that defy "normal" (I couldn't think of a better word) relationship boundaries. The boundaries that they defy or the attraction that is involved in the relationships are purely up to the people in it. This could mean people who do not feel romantic attraction to each other, but still want to be in a partnership and do typically "romantic" things with the other person. (What this means is, again, defined by the people involved, as romantic attraction or romantic things do not have set in stone definitions.) A QPR could also mean one person feels romantic attraction and thinks of it as dating, while the other doesn't know what they feel but still wants to be in a partnership with that person. In any of these relationships they could do anything they want, such as cuddle, live together, have sex, go on dates, etc. Basically a QPR is a chaotic, undefined force of nature that I am thoroughly in love with.

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I hate kissing with a passion, but cuddles and hugs are literally the best. Having a SO myself (qpr), I'm comfortable with it as long as it doesn't get put in the context of romance (like when their friends ship me with zem). Then it gets gross. I have a weird relationship with pet names. They're bad in theory, but I liked them this one time, so idk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ . Also platonic dates are where it's at!!

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Thank you all!!! :DDDDD

I'M IN A QPR!!! LIKE A SERIOUS, FR, QPR!!!! I EVEN GOT PERMISSION TO CALL THEM MY QUEERPLATONIC PARTNER AND EVERYTHING!! EEEEEEEEI'm happy stimming so much rn!!!!!!! :DDDD (If u don't know what a qpr is, here's a link: https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Queerplatonic_relationship )

Yeah, the hierarchy that people put on types of attraction often goes both ways. That's a great point. Now that I think about it, I have seen this quite a lot within the aro community. That was actually one of the main reasons why I dedicated a large portion of my time making this list. I kept finding things about romantic or platonic, but nothing matched my experiences. Even the rare post about sensual or aesthetic attraction never fully described my feelings. This list helped with that a lot.

Welllllllll around 3 years ago I created this character that I thought was really cool. It was a ghost candle with not much background aside from the fact that it has to take people's souls and add them to its flame to continue "living". I decided that I needed a name for this character, and so the hunt began. I was looking all around the internet for names for around a week, being the indecisive little queer I am, when I found something. Tallow. It sounded cool, it meant something for my character, and it was original! I picked Tallow for my oc name (and my name for practically everything else), and I haven't looked back since! (Wow that was dramatic-)

Yeah, the thing I don't like about those is that it makes out platonic attraction or eriattractions to be less than romantic/sexual attraction. ..Although I will admit it is a much cleaner way of sorting attraction into boxes than mine-

Hello people!! A few months ago I went on a rampage, finding and documenting every type of attraction I could in a Google Doc. I still look at it every now and again, but aside from that it's kind of just sitting there. I decided that instead of letting it collect dust, I would transfer it to a carrd.io website and share it with you guys! So without further ado, here you go: https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/ **Disclaimer: This list is not at all perfect, and I would love any criticism/help/add-ons you can give me! Edit: I have reorganized the list a little.

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Hi Tatzel!!! Yeah, that must have been pretty challenging to figure out. A lot of the things that are typically associated with having a crush are also symptoms of like, medical conditions lmao. Yasssss hugging and cuddling is where it's at!! I hate how it's always supposed to be seen as romantic. I cuddle all the time with friends and there's always just this voice in the back of my mind telling me that they're going to think it's weird or smth because it's "romantic". I've never thought of cuddling as romantic, even with my old partners. Even when my heart was beating really fast or I was enjoying it a lot or blah blah blah. There are no guidelines to if a gesture is romantic or not, no matter now fast your heart is beating or how much your experience lines up to the typical "romantic" experience. If you don't think/intend for something to be romantic, it's not romantic. Period. Sorry for that rant lol (which was more or less directed at myself.) I'm glad I could help!

Omg slayyyyyyy!! We love squishes 🤩 Hello!!! That's so interesting. Exclusivity is one of the biggest differences I've seen with people separating squishes and crushes. Although I don't think that's how it works for me, it's still really cool to see others coming up with ways to differentiate them. :D

I'm new here and I wanted to ask around and see if anyone has had similar experiences to me. So, have any of you felt strong sensual attraction to someone else and mistook it as a crush? Or strong aesthetic/sensual/alterous/whatever else attraction that isn't romantic? Bonus Point: You got butterflies and nervous around this person. If you can't relate to this, that's alright, I'd be glad to meet some new a-spec friends anyway!! :D