UncleBeard1978

I’d like to know about the intersectionality of Aro and OCD

Hello 👋🏼 I am new here. I would like to ask the opinion of others on something personal. I am a gayish/ bisexual man in my 40s and a friend has recently suggested I might be Aro. I have had sexual and romantic relationships in the past but they have mostly ended in abuse or just terribly. I haven’t had a relationship in over a decade now and I don’t miss it. I still love sex, but can’t always… perform … and anything romantic now repulses me. I know the theory of it but I don’t understand why the feelings are meant to be good. I don’t know if I’ve always felt this way or I just can’t remember. I remember that in relationships, I found it a very painful and intense experience without the joy it’s meant to have. I can imagine forming a relationship with another man at some point, but mainly as a sex thing / practicality of pooling resources, etc. I’m not lovey dovey at all though I can appreciate it in others. I want it but it makes me want to run a mile at the same time. my love for friends is deep and genuine and heartfelt but platonic, even if we have sex. Am I Aro? Thank you in advance.