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It's been a long time since I been on Arocalypse and I come back directly with a vent. Sorry about that, but I also feel like a few of us can relate so... I turned eighteen a few months ago. I never had a romantic partner. I never felt that way and I never felt the need for romance. I am not out as aroace (and I probably never will be, both because I probably would be considered confused by my family and because coming out as always felt too formal for me). So, of course, I have been asked often « do you have a crush on someone? », « do you have a partner yet? », and every other question like that. I have a sister five years younger than me who got with her first boyfriend at the end of last school year. Since then, my whole family (including my sister) are pestering me because she has a boyfriend at 13 and I never dated at all. I heard the term 'immature' a lot. It made me realize how much I hate amatonormativity and the concept of immaturity. Of course, I am not the most mature person out there, but the fact that recently the fact that I don't have a romantic partner is the reason why I am considered immature by everyone is what gets me even more angry. Anyway, I hate the fact that romance is one basic need to acquire maturity in the eyes of society. You can study, work, travel far from home alone, but it will always be like you are missing something or like if you are 'not ready' to be in a relationship.

I am really into Supermassive Games recently! More specifically The Dark Pictures Anthology. I also play Resident Evil and The Sims 4, but since school started again I don't have much time anymore...

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I have not seen him mention but Daryl Dixon will forever be aroace in my book, even if The Walking Dead tried to give him a girlfriend.

I like the general ambiance of the song. It's one of the song I would but in the background while I do chores in my house or while I write/do homework. You know that kind of song that you do not really listen to? You only put in on to not be face to face with the silence.

False The person below me hate spicy food.

Your pizza is covered in cockroaches and mud. I wish I had the motivation to study.

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There is so much aromantic songs that I like, I will try to list the ones I like that were not said before : Kissaphobic by Make Out Monday Célibataire by Hugo Lapointe (this one is in French/Québecois and it might be the BEST AroAllo song out there) Don't Fall in Love by Denko Jones Turning out by AJR (I don't think it was suppose to be an Aro song, but it has the vibes) Not a Love Song by Bulow Heart Heavy by Mother Mother

You are lucky! I have a sister, but my mother still says that she wants children from the both of us, and it's really not in my plans...

It was really weird indeed, but she had spent a good part of the night drinking, so maybe that explains it

I get that. Sometimes I don't really control my emotions anymore and I don't know if it's the hormones, the lack of sleep or something else entirely. Once, my mom came into my room and was talking about the fact that I should be 'exploring my body' (which was gross and none of her business? It came out of no where too, I was just vibbing listening to music) because it was normal for teenagers my age and I just blurted out that I did not even want my to be in my body in the first place. She's borderline transphobic, but luckily she was tipsy so I just told her that we both needed to sleep and she left me alone. I had a mini heart attack. I love this song! Obey, by YUNGBLOOD and BMTH is also really good!

Sometime I think that I do not mind romance in media, but then they put pointless and empty romantic tension in Scooby-Doo. I wish that Romance would not sell that much so creators would not feel like they need to put romance in medias to get attention... (Another good song: Eat Your Young by Hozier)

I haven't seen those benefits either, I'm just seventeen, but just thinking about it makes me feel better. As you grow up, people around you will start to feel like they need to be in a relationship to be happy. At first it made me angry to see everyone around me say that I could not feel complete without a significant other, but now I see that it's cool to not depend on romance like some people my age or older than me. You are still young, but that does not mean there are no benefits. I know that I had an easier time going through puberty than some of my friends. They were busy dealing with crushes and I was just vibing XD

For me, I love being A-spec for the advantages that you said and even more, but it's hard sometimes because I feel alienated in society. That feeling is stupid to have and it usually go away pretty quickly, but for people who just came to term with their lack of aromantic/sexual attraction it can feel very overwhelming... One thing about being AroAce is that we will all be able to learn that it does not matter in the end if we are considered « anormal » or whatever. It might take some time, but in the end romance and sex don't really matter next to all the other amazing things in life! Other benefits: Ace: More time for cuddles or watching movies, not getting distracted by 'sexy' things and being able to focus on what matters, buying cake to eat by yourself Aro: going on date with yourselves (or in others words: doing things for yourself that you enjoy without the stress of impressing anyone), having the ability to buy a King bed for yourself A-spec in general: understanding and being more aware about the different attractions and the toxic impact of amatonormativity on our society (for exemple; 'you need to have someone else to be complete', if you are on the a-spec you have more chance to understand that you don't need anyone but yourself to be happy) And more!