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True. Generally I don't like to buy pride merch from companies unless the profits go to LGBTQ charities.

Agreed. Never been in the JW cult, but have known people who were. One lady was suicidal after the shit they put her through, and I had to talk her out of it multiple times.

I would probably wait until he makes a move and then let him down as gently as you can. It's hard! I had a friend ask me out last year and it was super awkward. I turned him down saying I'm not really attracted to anyone, and it kept replaying in my head for freakin days. Unfortunately I don't think there's an easy way around the awkward. You just gotta wait it out.

I very rarely see pride flags in general that aren't the six stripe rainbow flag. I saw a customer at work with a trans flag once. And another time someone had a bi flag face mask. edit: Oooooh, also a coworker has a bi pride pin. It's subtly colored, but I've seen the same pin for sale online and it's a bisexual pride pin

I think right now I'm more certain about being aromantic.

Fullmetal Alchemist was my gateway anime. I need to rewatch it one day, it completely blew me away the first time. Other favorites: CLANNAD (still holds up after multiple viewings, too. visual novel is best, though, and you can get it on steam and run it on even a potato level laptop) Soul Eater New Game! The Disastrous Life of Saiki K

Probs only as part of a QPR and only for legal benefits. No wedding, just a courthouse signing us as a married couple.

Hi there! I'm grey-aro. I didn't come to that conclusion easily. For the longest time I thought I was alloromantic. I have had a couple "actual" romantic attractions, and a handful of "well, this person might be fun to date" thoughts that may or may not count as very minor romantic attraction. Ultimately, what makes me believe that I am right in adopting the grey-aromantic label is that I think about dating people and then think "ew, no" along with a realization that I want to stay single and would ultimately probably be happier that way. Also..... sometimes the idea of romance just seeems..... incredibly odd. I don't think there's any harm in trying a label on for size and giving it some time to see if it feels right. And ultimately, I figure that my labels are my knowledge of what I am to the best of my ability to understand my current self. If I gain experience in the future that my labels are off, that's 100% okay. I can always change the label.

Hard to say.

Definitely. I'm probably something like demiromantic. But I prefer to just say aromantic, or grey-aromantic, if I must. I have had a couple instances of romantic attraction. One has lasted for several years now and is still going on. I knew this person for several years before I developed the feelings. And I honestly wouldn't refer to them as a crush, but more like.... a deep, steady love for them. It has been said that demiromantics skip "primary romantic attraction" but they do develop secondary romantic attraction..... I think a crush is the "primary", and the "secondary" is a more deep love that comes from years of knowing someone.

I don't usually bother unless they're in-the-know on LGBTQ+ labels. I've had co-workers ask me if I have a boyfriend or girlfriend, I say no, they ask if I want one, I say no, they say for real, I say yup.

One of my friends just had a breakup with their boyfriend of 5 years...... I'm friends with both of them, so I get to hear it from both perspectives. (They seem to have broke up on good terms.) I'm just like...... wow, this seems like so much heartache to go through, I don't want this ever.

I'm lithsexual, which means I do experience some sexual attraction (not often tho) and I have sexual fantasies....but I'm usually not a subject of them. I use the label lithsexual, because I can desire sex in theory..... but I don't think I want it in actuality. I mostly relate to asexuality, so I call myself asexual when I don't want or need to go into more detail. But sometimes I do feel disconnected from asexuality, since I like erotica and can certainly be attracted to female bodies in a sexual way. There definitely are times if I wonder if I may be allosexual after all.

I think that actually is a thing, at least I have seen people use that label

Mkay, there's a lot to unpack here. I'm also babysitting my cats while they get used to being around each other, so bear with me. So, one reason God created reproduction is a way for humans to populate the Earth. There didn't used to be as many humans as there are now. And people won't populate if there's no drive for something pleasurable to bring that on. Another reason God created marriage, is to mirror our relationship with Christ. The Bible talks about the church body as the bride of Christ, and Christ as the husband. Not every single aspect of it needs to line up for the metaphor to work, so I won't go into the symbolism of sex here haha. (Though some people have found some symbolism there, but I'm not well versed in it and not entirely sure I agree with it all tbh.) Think of it like this...... God created us with 10 fingers. Some people are born with extra fingers, or with fewer fingers. Just because it's different from how we probably were before the fall of man, doesn't mean it's bad. Plus, the Earth has billions of people now. We don't need everyone to reproduce.

Newest PFP is for pride month <3 I'm a proud grey-aro bambi lesbian

What denomination are you? Some believe in "the gift of singleness". In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul talks about marriage, but he also talks about how it's good to be single and he even says that in his opinion he'd prefer that others were as well because marriage can distract one from serving God fully. In some denominations, singlehood and celibacy is a requirement for certain religious offices.

Do you have any pride merch you can wear publicly, or are you able to get some? btw, I would get the pride stuff from LGBTQ creators if at all possible, corporate pride is just greed in 90% of cases. If the company is giving their profits to an LGBTQ charity, though, then I would support them. Etsy has a lot of LGBTQ creators with beautiful stuff! You could also wear aroace colored clothes, etc

Hey hey, I understand. I have feelings for a friend of mine who is unavailable (she's married, for one). I've had feelings for her for several years now tbh. Being aro-spec, it didn't bother me all that much that I could never be with her, until a couple years back when I actually became depressed over that fact and I was just a little bit envious of her partner. My feelings are still there, honestly. But we're still friends, and close friends at that. She doesn't know that I have feelings for her, or at least I don't believe she knows. There have been occasional times that she teases about us being a couple. I don't plan to ever tell her, nor do I ever plan to pursue her. I've learned and am learning to be content with her friendship, and to treasure what we do have. I wouldn't try to pursue her, since you already have an idea what she wants. Most crushes do fade with time, though, so give it time.

Hi, I've been Christian my whole life and am pretty devout. I'm grey-aromantic. So far as coming out, I wouldn't until you're pretty well out of your questioning phase and you're sure of yourself. (That's not to say you may not end up questioning again at some point in the future, or adjusting your identity. That's perfectly okay, too.) If you think coming out to your friends might be helpful though, like maybe you think it'd be helpful in figuring things out, then go for it. But I wouldn't come out publicly until you feel fairly, reasonably certain. Coming out doesn't have to be a single, one and done, event either. Most will come out multiple times in their life, having to open up to different people. Also, something I have tried is not using labels to explain things to some people, if you don't think they'll be accepting of a label. When I came out to my mom as aroace, I just said that I'm not interested in "that kind of thing". I did show her my aro flag, but her reaction just cemented the fact that using labels would have gone in a direction I didn't want it to.

I'm Christian. There's nothing in the Bible against being asexual or aromantic, and in fact Paul encourages singlehood and celibacy. So people who naturally have no desire for romance or sexual stuff could be considered blessed or as having a gift! But yes, I have run into a lot of ignorance from other Christians. I am out as asexual, but don't plan to come out as grey-aromantic. Instead, I came out as a lesbian who is abstaining from romance - which is my main reason for not coming out as aro. I feel like it'd only confuse people. Another thing I've run into is the assumption that aromantic and asexual are the same thing, and the Christians I've spoken to being bizarrely bent on insisting on this. In the end, to what extent you choose to make your identity known is entirely up to you. Ignorant people gonna ignorate, but don't let that stop you from being yourself.

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You could also go to a doctor, that's a good starting point. Can you do that? https://patient.info/doctor/patient-health-questionnaire-phq-9 This isn't a diagnosis, but this test can help you determine if you may have depression

Hi I don't have much time to leave a reply as my break at work is up, but have you considered looking into shopping around for a therapist? A good one could help you figure out what's causing this. You may have a mood disorder like depression.

Well. It's official now. I'm out, no turning back. Even though I identify very much as grey aroace, I came out as gay. This is because I do experience homoromantic attraction, even if rarely, and I want to be able to speak publicly in the church community about issues that affect me.