Confidential_Con Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I hear a lot about the concept of squishes in regards to aromantics and I know we've got several threads on here about them... so does anyone else not have them? For me, it feels a bit isolating, sometimes.
AceUpMySleeve Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Well, you're not alone! I've never really experienced or had a squish before. It bothered me a little at first, since it seemed like absolutely everyone had one, but after while I began asking more people and it's not uncommon to not have them. Just like sexuality and romance.
Holmbo Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I've never had them. Sometimes when I've just met a person and they've made a strong impression on me I can feel sort of a general attraction to them that might be a bit similar to what people feel for a squish but that disappears ones I spend some more time with them. To me squishes feels just as alien as romance.
techno Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 On 1/13/2017 at 4:29 PM, Holmbo said: Sometimes when I've just met a person and they've made a strong impression on me I can feel sort of a general attraction to them that might be a bit similar to what people feel for a squish but that disappears ones I spend some more time with them. I feel this. I think I've only had one experience that could qualify as a squish, but it's on a friend I've known for like ten years so I don't know if that really counts? Idk life is weird /shrug
Mark Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 On 13/01/2017 at 4:42 PM, Confidential_Con said: I hear a lot about the concept of squishes in regards to aromantics and I know we've got several threads on here about them... so does anyone else not have them? For me, it feels a bit isolating, sometimes. I find the concept rather awkward. Especially the whole "platonic" thing. When I find that the way I'm attracted to people is very varied. Even if "squish" makes sense for a case where platonic attraction dominates what about if sexual, sensual or aestetic attraction is the strongest? What if platonic attraction is the weakest component?
karnzter Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 I've never really had a squish. Mostly crushes years before I first identified as a demiromantic demisexual, but they're the crushes that make you do a second-take and ask yourself a lot of times if this is real, if its you being infatuated, if its hormones and/or society doing the talking and/or just daydreaming silly.
Isaac Posted January 16, 2017 Posted January 16, 2017 Though I am platonic, I acknowledge that squishes are not universal and there exist aplatonic people. Platonic attraction yields platonic orientations like heteroplatonic, homoplatonic, biplatonic and aplatonic.
Garnet+Amethyst=Sugilite Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 On 1/16/2017 at 0:11 PM, Isaac said: Though I am platonic, I acknowledge that squishes are not universal and there exist aplatonic people. Platonic attraction yields platonic orientations like heteroplatonic, homoplatonic, biplatonic and aplatonic. Yeah,I agree. I am homoplatonic. I have only experienced 1 squish in my life.
Kojote Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 I'm not really all that sure what qualifies as a squish, no matter how often people explain it to me, soooo can't be 100% sure but still pretty certain that I've never had one. Like, I have people that I consider my family, though we're not blood related, but what I feel for them is really just bestie friendship. It's platonic, sure. Everything nonsexual is platonic, but it's not something as vague as "between-friendship-and-romantic love". Just plain friendship/family love. Sure, I don't want sex nor a romantic relationship from them, but I don't want that with any of my other friends or family either
Ettina Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 I'm not sure if I have squishes or not, but I have something.
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