Lunar Nova Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 Just now, ArrowAce said: I am touch starved imo, i seriously want hugs and stuff. I just don't receive them often enough. *Plaitonic Hug* 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 1 hour ago, ArrowAce said: I am touch starved imo, i seriously want hugs and stuff. I just don't receive them often enough. *hug* If a ya know situation happens with a lot of touching, once in a blue moon, I'm good for a year. But theoretically I can feel touch starved, I guess. I can't say that I dislike specific types of touching, but if it has a romantic vibe to it, it can feel uncomfortable. Which is most true for cuddling. Also, I don't like LOOOOONG touching. Cuddling is always kind of looong. And after 30 minutes at least, you need to get away from me. I need to breathe. Some people can cuddle for hours and I would find this extremely uncomfortable. Even the cutest, cleanest and nicest humans have some peculiar bad / annoying qualities that I just cannot stand for too long. On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said: Cuddling I don't like at all, except with my mom maybe? With cats maybe? On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said: Kissing (three times) is sort of the national greeting here, but I don't really like that. 🤒🦠 Coronavirus says: "I approve this greeting. Thank you for helping me remain an issue!" ☣ 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted February 8, 2023 Author Share Posted February 8, 2023 23 minutes ago, DeltaAro said: With cats maybe? cuddling and petting dogs and some other animals, yes! not humans because they're not cute (used as a synonym for 'hot' is obviously different, and i don't find babies/children cute) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 It's honestly really confusing for me. I mean I think I quite like hugs, or at least I love the idea of being hugged/hugging somone, but I'm always to embarrassed to ask for any, so I don't get hugs/hug other people often. And about other stuff... Well, I also quite enjoy holding hands as well! (But I don't do it often, for the same reason) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Nova Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 i mean i will sometimes allow physical touch, but only if i know/am comffortable with said person, but holding hands (i only do this with one person, and theyre dating someone already) i will sometimes do because Anxious habit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 15 minutes ago, aro_elise said: cuddling and petting dogs and some other animals, yes! not humans because they're not cute (used as a synonym for 'hot' is obviously different, and i don't find babies/children cute) Cats yes... 🐈⬛ meow! Though I used the word "cute" for humans, I actually don't think adult humans are ever really cute... (I guess I just adjusted myself to the romantic language to call grown ass men or women "cute" ... though my actual reaction to this is "what?"). Sexy or hot, maybe but not "cute". I can understand "cute" applied to babies and small children to some degree. I mean they're much smaller for starters (not a > 50 kg human clinging onto you). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nix Posted February 8, 2023 Share Posted February 8, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, DeltaAro said: Also, I don't like LOOOOONG touching. Cuddling is always kind of looong. And after 30 minutes at least, you need to get away from me. I need to breathe. Some people can cuddle for hours and I would find this extremely uncomfortable. Even the cutest, cleanest and nicest humans have some peculiar bad / annoying qualities that I just cannot stand for too long. Oh no, 30 minutes is my max too. There’s always an arm or a leg that’s getting cramped… 1 hour ago, DeltaAro said: With cats maybe? …except with cats yes! My cat weighs a little under 5kg so he’s not too heavy and also soft and warm :) 1 hour ago, DeltaAro said: On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said: Kissing (three times) is sort of the national greeting here, but I don't really like that. 🤒🦠 Coronavirus says: "I approve this greeting. Thank you for helping me remain an issue!" ☣ Yeah it’s really weird how most people in the Netherlands just straight up ignore that the virus isn’t gone? I mean, last friday I was invited to a party but I chose to hang with two of my friends to start watching The Last of Us. And now I hear from a friend that did go that about 2/3rds of the party goers has Corona now, her included :-/ Touch can be really dangerous 😬 (And I also wouldn’t call an adult cute, they’re just… not.) Edited February 8, 2023 by Nix Typo 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Nova Posted February 17, 2023 Share Posted February 17, 2023 On 2/8/2023 at 2:45 PM, KoconutBounty said: i mean i will sometimes allow physical touch, but only if i know/am comffortable with said person, but holding hands (i only do this with one person, and theyre dating someone already) i will sometimes do because Anxious habit Alright. I am now VERY anti-touch with people I don't know. someone pinched a large portion of the back of my neck, and I know it wasn't an accident because you cant just do that accidentally 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
that halo nerd Posted February 18, 2023 Share Posted February 18, 2023 I would prefere if touching could stay bettwen hands personly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rather be Reading Posted February 18, 2023 Share Posted February 18, 2023 I'd rather strangers not touch me, but I like being touched by friends and family every once in a while as long as it's platonic. However, I suck at initiating touch, and I've been told being hugged by me feels like "being hugged by a very sweet piece of wood". 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxIsCosmic Posted February 20, 2023 Share Posted February 20, 2023 I’m very open to touch espresso from friends I tend to be a bit more cautious with strangers but if someone ever really needs a hug I’m glad to give it ^-^ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoodbyeRepublicServices Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 (edited) On 2/8/2023 at 12:42 PM, aro_elise said: i don't find babies/children cute Same with me -- they're usually loud, annoying and needy. Just yesterday at my work, a little boy said "hi" to me in a friendly little kid voice, and I even find THAT annoying. Also, babies are ugly as fuck. Childfreedom reigns forever! Edited May 26, 2023 by GoodbyeRepublicServices Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted May 26, 2023 Share Posted May 26, 2023 1 hour ago, GoodbyeRepublicServices said: Same with me -- they're usually loud, annoying and needy. Just yesterday at my work, a little boy said "hi" to me in a friendly little kid voice, and I even find THAT annoying. Also, babies are ugly as fuck. Childfreedom reigns forever! I wouldn’t take it that far because some do want kids but yeah, I just don’t. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 11, 2023 Share Posted June 11, 2023 Like the only “touch” I’m interested in is like platonically scratching someone else’s back because that’s nice. Hugging is just awkward, kissing is disgusting and I’m glad I don’t have to, cuddling is kinda just “meh”, and let’s be honest here the whole sensual aspect is something I don’t understand. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canislupus Posted June 11, 2023 Share Posted June 11, 2023 I like physical touch. I wouldn't say it's a love language for me, but I'm also pretty touch starved as well so I guess that makes me more open to it nowadays I guess? I really like casual things like hand holding and cuddling, but it feels like you can only really get those things out of a relationship :/ which sucks. I know it's sort of normalized with girls who are friends, but not so much guys, which also sucks I guess. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smac n cheese Posted December 8, 2023 Share Posted December 8, 2023 ZERO TOUCH, NO HUGS NO HANDHOLDING NOTHING IT JUST FEELS SO WEIRD is there like asensuality or something cause I think if there is I might be one of those I just really hate it when other people touch me 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kira- Posted December 8, 2023 Share Posted December 8, 2023 I personally don’t like touch, the farthest I even consider a handshake as too much, the only stuff I’m okay with is a shoulder pat or fist bump, though depending on the person and circumstances I can do a hug. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
urmomma Posted December 8, 2023 Share Posted December 8, 2023 I like hand shakes and hugs and holding hands but anything else feels uncomfortable. I do kinda want to be hugged more or cuddle with someone, but that's about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark Confidant Posted December 8, 2023 Share Posted December 8, 2023 I love physical touch, but it comes with an asterisk. 1) I'm demisexual, so I don't really desire nor want random physical touch or affection from people I don't know very well, but for the people I do know well, I love hugging, cuddling and whatever physical touch they are comfortable with. It makes me feel...closer to them, like on a spiritual level. 2) That physical touch I may have with friends NEEDS to be private. I cannot stand PDA and am repulsed by it. I do not want people to perceive me as being romantic with someone and I also physical touch is very intimate for me and PDA feels very...inappropriate is the best word I can use to describe it. Hugging is the extent I will tolerate in public. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frutiger aro Posted December 16, 2023 Share Posted December 16, 2023 i'm weird because i generally don't really like being touched yet i'm also kinda touch-starved? like most days the extent i can take is a handshake or something but other days i find myself craving a lil hug now and then. one thing i absolutely wouldn't like though is a prolonged cuddle, it sounds nice in theory but in practice they make me feel suffocated and want to escape lol. i think overall i'm kinda like a cat in that i'm fine with occasional minor displays of affection but only on my terms. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Collie Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 On 1/25/2023 at 8:38 AM, Lunar Nova said: does anyone have a specific reason theyre Anti-Touch/Touch Repulsed? or am i the only one? (other than the ones who already stated why) When I was assessed for autism, one of the statements on my official diagnosis letter was how I dislike being touched. So I guess it's an autistic trait. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MondoBilby Posted December 19, 2023 Share Posted December 19, 2023 I love hugging my parents and I'm fine with other family members, but that's about it. My friends aren't very huggy people anyway. For me, hugging is great for my mind. Giving my mum a good hug really comforts me and makes me feel safe. With other people, I feel a bit awkward. I can sit closely to my friends though, to the point where our shoulders are pokin' each other. Even then, that feels kinda breachy though lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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