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1 hour ago, ArrowAce said:

I am touch starved imo, i seriously want hugs and stuff. I just don't receive them often enough. 

*hug*

If a ya know situation happens with a lot of touching, once in a blue moon, I'm good for a year. But theoretically I can feel touch starved, I guess.

I can't say that I dislike specific types of touching, but if it has a romantic vibe to it, it can feel uncomfortable. Which is most true for cuddling.

Also, I don't like LOOOOONG touching. Cuddling is always kind of looong. And after 30 minutes at least, you need to get away from me. I need to breathe.

Some people can cuddle for hours and I would find this extremely uncomfortable. Even the cutest, cleanest and nicest humans have some peculiar bad / annoying qualities that I just cannot stand for too long.

 

On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said:

Cuddling I don't like at all, except with my mom maybe?

With cats maybe?

On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said:

Kissing (three times) is sort of the national greeting here, but I don't really like that.

🤒🦠 Coronavirus says: "I approve this greeting. Thank you for helping me remain an issue!"

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23 minutes ago, DeltaAro said:

With cats maybe?

cuddling and petting dogs and some other animals, yes!  not humans because they're not cute (used as a synonym for 'hot' is obviously different, and i don't find babies/children cute)

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It's honestly really confusing for me. I mean I think I quite like hugs, or at least I love the idea of being hugged/hugging somone, but I'm always to embarrassed to ask for any, so I don't get hugs/hug other people often. And about other stuff... Well, I also quite enjoy holding hands as well! (But I don't do it often, for the same reason)

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i mean i will sometimes allow physical touch, but only if i know/am comffortable with said person, but holding hands (i only do this with one person, and theyre dating someone already) i will sometimes do because Anxious habit

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15 minutes ago, aro_elise said:

cuddling and petting dogs and some other animals, yes!  not humans because they're not cute (used as a synonym for 'hot' is obviously different, and i don't find babies/children cute)

Cats yes... 🐈‍⬛ meow!

Though I used the word "cute" for humans, I actually don't think adult humans are ever really cute... (I guess I just adjusted myself to the romantic language to call grown ass men or women "cute" ... though my actual reaction to this is "what?"). Sexy or hot, maybe but not "cute".

I can understand "cute" applied to babies and small children to some degree. I mean they're much smaller for starters (not a > 50 kg human clinging onto you).

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1 hour ago, DeltaAro said:

Also, I don't like LOOOOONG touching. Cuddling is always kind of looong. And after 30 minutes at least, you need to get away from me. I need to breathe.

Some people can cuddle for hours and I would find this extremely uncomfortable. Even the cutest, cleanest and nicest humans have some peculiar bad / annoying qualities that I just cannot stand for too long.

Oh no, 30 minutes is my max too. There’s always an arm or a leg that’s getting cramped…

1 hour ago, DeltaAro said:

With cats maybe?

…except with cats yes! My cat weighs a little under 5kg so he’s not too heavy and also soft and warm :)

1 hour ago, DeltaAro said:
On 1/24/2023 at 6:42 PM, Nix said:

Kissing (three times) is sort of the national greeting here, but I don't really like that.

🤒🦠 Coronavirus says: "I approve this greeting. Thank you for helping me remain an issue!"

Yeah it’s really weird how most people in the Netherlands just straight up ignore that the virus isn’t gone? I mean, last friday I was invited to a party but I chose to hang with two of my friends to start watching The Last of Us. And now I hear from a friend that did go that about 2/3rds of the party goers has Corona now, her included :-/

Touch can be really dangerous 😬

(And I also wouldn’t call an adult cute, they’re just… not.)

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On 2/8/2023 at 2:45 PM, KoconutBounty said:

i mean i will sometimes allow physical touch, but only if i know/am comffortable with said person, but holding hands (i only do this with one person, and theyre dating someone already) i will sometimes do because Anxious habit

Alright. I am now VERY anti-touch with people I don't know. someone pinched a large portion of the back of my neck, and I know it wasn't an accident because you cant just do that accidentally

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I'd rather strangers not touch me, but I like being touched by friends and family every once in a while as long as it's platonic. However, I suck at initiating touch, and I've been told being hugged by me feels like "being hugged by a very sweet piece of wood". 

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I’m very open to touch espresso from friends I tend to be a bit more cautious with strangers but if someone ever really needs a hug I’m glad to give it ^-^

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On 2/8/2023 at 12:42 PM, aro_elise said:

i don't find babies/children cute

Same with me -- they're usually loud, annoying and needy. Just yesterday at my work, a little boy said "hi" to me in a friendly little kid voice, and I even find THAT annoying. Also, babies are ugly as fuck. Childfreedom reigns forever!

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1 hour ago, GoodbyeRepublicServices said:

Same with me -- they're usually loud, annoying and needy. Just yesterday at my work, a little boy said "hi" to me in a friendly little kid voice, and I even find THAT annoying. Also, babies are ugly as fuck. Childfreedom reigns forever!

I wouldn’t take it that far because some do want kids but yeah, I just don’t.

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