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I think I've always known it, basically since I was in middle school... At that time I used to think it was normal to want and desire romantic relationships, I was curious but also too scared, and when I had some crushes they were always platonic and went away so easily. Then at 15 I started actually rejecting everything romance-related, I ran away from anyone flirting with me and even the will to try (I think it was socially induced) faded away, since then I just want them to leave me alone 😅 I still like to have deep deep bonds and even cuddles but I refuse romance. I actually found out about a romanticism only in 2022 and it fits me so well!

I think I've always known it, basically since I was in middle school... At that time I used to think it was normal to want and desire romantic relationships, I was curious but also too scared, and when I had some crushes they were always platonic and went away so easily. Then at 15 I started actually rejecting everything romance-related, I ran away from anyone flirting with me and even the will to try (I think it was socially induced) faded away, since then I just want them to leave me alone 😅 I still like to have deep deep bonds and even cuddles but I refuse romance. I actually found out about a romanticism only in 2022 and it fits me so well!

Hello there!! First of all thank you for your reply, reading these words is very heartwarming to me and makes me feel less alone 🫶 Yes I really care about him and I'm happy of this special bond we have, especial)y the tenderness and intimacy between us, indeed I'm afraid I'm "deluding" him acting like we're in a relationship despite not intending it like this. He's very open-minded, he never judged me while exploring my asexuality and my polyamorous side, but the relationship label is so important for him... I don't know if he will ever be able to understand my point, I don't wanna lose him but I guess I have to risk to respect myself and my needs. Thank youuu for give me some interesting points ❤️ Hey there!! Thank you for your reply! Sorry I have a stupid question... What do you mean with fluitic attraction and wavership? I don't know what it is but I'm very curious ☺️

Okay so, before starting: I've always suspected to be aromantic, I found out this romantic orientation exists in 2021 and since then I've defined myself like this, it perfectly sums up my vision and approach to romantic love: never felt the need or desire to have a relationship, I value friendship way more than it. Now. I'm in a sort 9f situationship that started 6 months ago. I met a guy that I immediately liked as a person, we get along very well because we have a similar vision of the world, same sense of humor and we can talk and joke and tell serious and deep thoughts to each other. I saw him as a friend since day 1, but after some days he started flirting more openly with me. See, I was the first one to hug you after some deep conversations we had, but it was completely innocent, I like physical contact with my friends, I didn't think he could have a crush for me. One day he kissed me, I was so embarrassed mostly because I never experienced it before (I always run away when someone shows romantic interest to me), I was shaking but also curious, so I decided to try - I didn't feel a strong attraction to him, but he's nice and not ugly at all, I was attracted enough to not feeling disgusted. We slowly became friends with benefits, he's always been very patient with me to make me explore and discover this new shade of me, very very tender and understanding. I initially kept to see him as a friend, a very close and precious friend, but after some ups and downs... I got really attached to him, we're living a sort of open relationship. I mean, I don't feel the urge to see him that often but I sometimes like to cuddle him and be cuddled, hugs and tender kisses (not a French kisses fan tough, but neither is him), I even said him I love him spontaneously in a passionate moment (idk maybe it was a mistake??) but I'm not sure I feel it in a romantic way. I think his feelings for me are stronger and more intense as what I feel for him, I love to take care of him but in a really innocent way, I don't feel the need to do couple-coded things such as have dinner outside together or leaving for weekends all alone far from everyone. And then there's the label. Yes, because he has his own insecurities and fragilities, he really would the "relationship label", to say I'm officially his girlfriend and he's my boyfriend 'cause he needs this "safe zone", nevermind if it's an open relationship but anyway a RELATIONSHIP. And every time I think about it I feel sick in the stomach, I just CAN'T. My mind can't process the fact I have a boyfriend, I actually don't really want it!!! Yes this was my first experience so I decided to live it fully and see what would've happened, I ended up like this but in the end I feel so uncomfortable in a relationship, it's not what I wanted and I don't see myself in it. That label scares me so much. Now I'm so confused: I behave as if I'm in a relationship with him because it's spontaneous when we're together, but if I think about it I cringe so bad and I wish to come back to when we were just friends. I don't even know if my feelings are induced by his behaviour (I mean he wooed and waited for me for months!!!!). Meanwhile I feel understood every time I read some aromantic story or witness, relationship is not a thing for me and I'm sure that after this (because it's gonna end with him sooner or later) I don't want to be trapped in a similar situation, I'm fine alone and I wanna stay alone. How do I manage fhjs situation? Can I still consider myself aromantic? And above all, what's up with this terror of the "relationship" label? I'm incredibly confused right now 😭

Thank you so much, it's heartwarming to feel this support ❤️ Thank you 🫶 Thank you ☺️ Thank you soooo much ❤️

I've never felt the need to try it in my life, but I was curious and final)y it happened to me some months ago... my first thought was "kissing is overrated" 😂 it doesn't disgust me, I don't mind, it makes me feel nothing except when it lasts too long - I get bored 😅

Well... hello ☺️ I'm a girl who's exploring her romantic orientation and sexuality, I'm a little confused right now but also really curious! I haven't had so many experiences so far but I've always had an aromantic approach to anything romance-related. I can feel a loooot of love for people, I value my friends and family so much, I also enjoy hugs and physical contact but when it comes to romance I feel scared and uncomfortable... I also identify as greysexual (somewhere into the asexual spectrum for sure). I got libido but I barely feel sexual attraction to someone specific. But as I said I'm quite confused at the moment and I hope to find relief in sharing my thoughts with y'all and reading your words ❤️ So thank you for existing as a community, I've just joined but I already feel less alone ✨