nonmerci Posted December 14, 2021 Share Posted December 14, 2021 Hi everyone! So I've been on AVEN for a few months and, as said in another post, one think that strikes me there was how much some people here hate the term "allo" (seen as offensive) and want people to use romantic and sexual instead, in particular the person to whom these terms would apply, and in particular the "sexual" people. Which was a shock for me because the aromantic community seems to have the opposite view, or at least I always saw aroallos calling themselves, well, aroallos, and even in a thread being upset about an article that says they should not use this term. So I've been thinking about this for quite a while because this difference in terminology is strange. First it shows that aro and aces communities barely talk to each other (which is not as much as a surprise for me, to be honest). But most importantly, how is it possible that the two communities have opposite view on the same subject? And coming from the people who are concerned by it? I have a theory about why it is this way, and I'm curious to hear your opinion on it. Am I right or am I completely wrong? One of the argument I've seen on AVEN is there is no use for the world "allosexual" because "allosexual" is not a label, as it doesn't describe an orientation, and that there is no need to put all the people who feel sexual attraction together. In fact, I've seen people even arguing this is a majority group because for them, the "allosexual" group doesn't exist, the only thing important is who you are attracted to and not the fact that you feel attraction. My guess here is that the "sexual" people on AVEN are never felt in a position where the fact they feel sexual attraction (rather than towards who they felt it) is relevant for them in a personal level, and therefor fail to see how it can be different for other people. On the other hand, aroallo have felt alienated in both aro and ace communities because they feel sexual attraction and that they are sadly the forgotten group of the so-called a-spec community. It is very difficult to find content about them, and the fact that aromanticism is always tied to asexuality doesn't help. So the fact that they feel "sexual attraction" became important to talk about this group of aro that are left out by opposition to the aroaces, which may explain why aroallos are more keen to accept "allosexual" as a relevant term. So, what do you think? Am I right or am I wrong? Am I simply overthinking it (I mean, I'm probably over thinking, but not too much I hope)? Do you have an idea yourself? I am of course particularly interesting about hearing the opinion of aroallos about it, and apologize if my theory is wrong or hurtful. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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