MondoBilby

I love hugging my parents and I'm fine with other family members, but that's about it. My friends aren't very huggy people anyway. For me, hugging is great for my mind. Giving my mum a good hug really comforts me and makes me feel safe. With other people, I feel a bit awkward. I can sit closely to my friends though, to the point where our shoulders are pokin' each other. Even then, that feels kinda breachy though lol.

I’m really not much of a shipper or a “headcanonner” (lol), but I do enjoy imagining Sam & Max from… Sam & Max being in a QPR from time to time. Max is often shown to be disgusted at the sight or mention of romance and PDA, and generally doesn’t show an interest in finding a romantic partner, so I do consider him to be on the aro spectrum. Generally, the two are really really good friends. They both go crazy if one of them isn’t around the other. I do also love the thought of them just being best friends, but a QPR does surprisingly fit their dynamic.

I've got a few aro badges and bracelets chilling in my room, along with two aro-coloured crochet donuts my mum made for me. There's also a sticker on my door of four frogs sitting on top of eachother coloured like the aro flag (which my best friend got for me).

Welcome to the forum! I'm also pretty new here. I'm not the biggest metal fan, but I do enjoy some hard rock/indie rock sometimes.

Here's a very weird image I made a while ago that basically explains who I am as a person:

Happy for you dude! I’m also a big introvert. Welcome to the forum by the way!

I hate it when the main characters get together in the end of the story when for most of it they just seemed like really good friends. It’s like people are cosmically incapable of making characters close with each other without turning it into something romantic. Friends? What are those? And this doesn’t have to do with the stories themselves, but that’s what annoys me about the whole “shipping” thing. Can’t these characters just be friends? I’m not saying others should stop shipping, I just personally never do it myself.

Nothing changed for me when I came out to my friends and family. It was my friends that suggested I might be aro in the first place, and my parents are perfectly accepting. Aro behaviour runs through my family, most of my mum’s aunts and uncles never got married and my mum herself finds romance quite sickening sometimes. So my coming out probably wasn’t a big surprise to her. Me and my mum and dad have reached an agreement that they won’t have any grandchildren from me, but rather grandcats. I’m gonna get them to babysit any future kittens I get lol.

Dude you literally took the words outta my mouth, I pretty much feel the exact same way (except I don't have crushes). Having a couple friends is enough for me, I don't need anything more than that. That last part you wrote is especially funny to me. It's so funny when you see someone absolutely head over heels for someone else, calling them "perfect" and stuff like that, and then you look at that person and they're just...really regular. Like, there's really nothing special about them at all. Makes me wonder how and why romantic feelings even start in the first place.

I've had a similar experience with both my friends. They both got into relationships and I just felt like I was being ignored. I felt like that the most with my best friend Snake (code name), who is very important to me. Because I'm aro, I see friendships as the most important non-familial relationship, but my friends are allo and romance is just automatically more important or "special" to them. I do sometimes get the assumption that I'm being ignored or something, but Snake puts in a lot of effort to hang out with me, and I'm also well aquainted with his partner which helps. I just stayed positive about it, and I can tell Snake really cares about me. There was a lot more tension with my other friend though, because none of us really liked his girlfriend and he was quite obsessed with her. Things have calmed down recently though, which is nice. Here's some advice from my own experiences: I would try to keep a positive outlook about it. I completely understand your assumptions, as I have had them myself, but I've learnt that those assumptions just caused me unnecessary anxiety when in reality my friend wasn't ignoring me at all. I don't know your friends (duh) so I have no idea how obvious it may be that they're leaving you out or only hanging out with you to see their crushes, but it's no use to worry about something you're not even fully sure is real. Maybe try to talk to your friends about how you feel if you think they'd understand. Otherwise, just go with the flow and see what happens.

Money. Seeing the future would make me have an existential crisis. Do I try to change anything? The pressures of knowing what’s about to happen (and that I probably can’t change it) rids me of any free will I thought I had. 😖 Money or your phone chargers never do that thing where they only work at specific angles again

I play games on pc and switch equally, though I also sometimes play games on Xbox one and my DSi which somehow still works like new.

I've never had a crush, so I can't relate too much. But I do often get very conflicting feelings because I change my mind about things so often. It's very confusing and annoying. I hope you can figure out your feelings!

Yeah, it's always nice to meet or hear about other people in your area who also identify as aro or ace. I live in a smaller town, so I was a bit surprised when I met two people who identified as aro. It was really cool!

I guess it's like having an ideal friend. Personally, I prefer confident people over shy or insecure people, so I naturally gravitate towards those kinds of people if I'm looking for a buddy. I assume that would be the same case for people with romantic types. That's personality though, I don't fully understand how people find certain features on a person romantically attractive. I understand if they find it hot, because I'm not asexual and I definitely have a type in that regard. But I'm a bit confused as to how a certain hair colour can make you want to date someone more.

When my friends were all talking about crushes and I said I'd never had a crush in my life (and wasn't interested in having one), then one of my friends said "maybe you're aromantic". A few internet searches later, I realised I fit exactly into the descriptions of aromanticism. It felt like I'd unlocked a whole other part of me I had no idea about lol, it just felt so right.

Maxibons. Not even a flavour, I just love Maxibons. They incorporate all the best things in an ice cream! A crunchy chocolate layer, plus a soft biscuit layer on the other half, it's an amalgamation of the best kind. My favourite Maxibon flavour is the waffle one, where it has a waffle instead of the biscuit.

I understand how romance works on a basic level, but some of the feelings and thoughts people describe about it do confuse me. I don't like cheating though, mostly because I think of it as a betrayal of trust, nothing to do with jealousy or anything. To me, it's like if you and your best friend had a special secret handshake with each other, but then you see your best friend doing that handshake with someone else you've never met even though you both promised you'd never share it. It doesn't seem like a big deal, but I'd get the slight feeling that the best friend has lost interest and/or doesn't cherish their relationship with me as much anymore. I imagine that would be a bigger deal for people who are more intimate with each other. It's funny, because most of the descriptions I've heard about what it's like to feel romantic attraction just sound like anxiety in some way or another. Or excitement, those feelings are very similar, but it mostly reminds me of anxiety. Honestly, it just sounds tiring lol

I think Mondo is a cool sounding word, and Bilbies are my favourite animal!

I don't do headcanons very much, but I do have one. I personally hc Meta Knight from the Kirby series as being Aroace. As far as I'm aware, he's never showed any romantic interest in anyone throughout the games, anime or manga. He's very serious about his job, and being the best swordsman is his top priority. I just love the thought of Meta Knight politely turning people down (in a gentlemanly way of course) because his fighting skills are more important than a relationship.

There were no specific signs, I just never thought about romance or kissing anyone or anything like that. When I was little, I just treated romance like...it's there...I don't really care about it. Infact, I think it's quite gross. I used to create stories all the time and none of them ever involved romance of any kind, I was just never a fan of it. I never questioned that until I found out about aromanticism and decided to do more research about it.

You should definitely rewatch it! I’ve been rewatching it with my family and it’s been awesome so far! Also very nostalgic since it was one of my favourite shows when I was little :)

Thanks! I actually made the little cardboard BMO in my profile picture :) Here’s more pictures of it if you’re curious (I made it so you can change his face around)