MondoBilby

I loved playing The Sims 2 DSi port (drastically different from the main game) all the time when I was little. All the main parts of the Sims games aren't really the main focus in that game. You can't build anything (you just live in a hotel), you can't start a family or anything like that. The main focus was the weird as hell story and getting your hotel to look nice. You can be romantic with other characters, but it's a very limited feature and all you can do is just do a romance minigame with them (and it doesn't affect anything at all anyway). I never did that though, I always liked making my own music in the music clubs you can put in the hotel.

??? Why are you saying "there's no correct answer" when just a second ago you were saying aro people "can't date normally" and that "alternative relationship" should be the only name for these types of relationships. You're the one who was pushing for one correct answer here. That's all I'll say though, I hate arguing online. It never goes anywhere and everyone's time is just wasted. This website is a safe space for aspec people to share their experiences with one another, everyone deserves to be included. So no more arguing about whether people's feelings are "correct" or not.

Welcome! Good to have you here! Also is your pfp Chara from Undertale? 👀

It's clear that this relationship is taking a toll on your mental health, so break up with him. Don't give in to peer pressure, if your friends can't understand and/or respect the way you feel then they aren't good friends. This will be a tricky situation to navigate, so be careful with how you word things of course. But if anyone lashes out at you (especially your bf) remember that you haven't done anything wrong and you are making the right choice for yourself.

Everyone I have told is extremely supportive, but yes they do mix up the meaning of it a little (I don't mind though). Some are like "oh yeah that's the one where you don't want to be in a relationship" or "the one where you hate romance" and I just say "nah bro I literally cannot feel romantic attraction lol" (speaking from my own orientation, I know there's greyromantic and stuff but I'm fully aro). There have been a couple times where people assume that because I'm aro I have little sympathy for allo people when they struggle with romance issues. I like making little jabs and jokes sometimes about my friends' relationships, and two times I've gotten the response "I know you're aro and all that so you wouldn't understand but blah blah blah" and I'm just sitting there thinking "dude I can still feel empathy jesus christ"! I noticed that the most common thing they do is confuse aromanticism with romance repulsion. I guess because I am also romance repulsed that makes it a bit hard to differentiate, and I don't mind explaining the difference.

Hells to the yeah, man! Single life rules! I can just focus on myself and achieve my own goals, it’s overall a very chill time! I hate that stigma people have that you’ll “never be fully happy unless you’re in a relationship”. I mean, I think my existence debunks that enough lol!

I always liked the thought of birds being the “aro animal”. Something about them feels very independent and free. Frogs are great too of course! I don’t think frogs will ever stop being the definitive aro animal.

Eugh, just the thought of kissing on the lips grosses me out to no end. My overactive imagination definitely doesn't help with the visualising of it, all I can think about is all the saliva and germs.

Hey, welcome to the forums! What kinda things do you crochet?

It's mostly just because they were treating their relationship like they'd been together for years right as it started that made it feel so short-lasting. Seriously, the amount of drama that happened was bloody tiring. I won't get into it though to respect my friend, and also because I just don't really care lol. It was crazy though, I'll say that.

Haha, that's exactly what one of my friends did! He got a gf for the first time, not even a week went by and they were already planning their engagement and what they'd do for a honeymoon and such. Very long story short, they're not together anymore lol. Only lasted about 8 months.

I'm very sorry to hear that. I've got no experience with this, so I unfortunately don't have anything super meaningful to say, sorry. But I do hope you get better. You're super valid.

This is incredibly well written. You described things in such a way that I could really feel all the emotions that this mc was feeling. I'm not asexual, but the descriptions of disgust and uncomfort around sex are the same feelings I feel about romance, so I could still relate to this a little. Great job!

Oof, I feel ya. My best friend has a partner now, and even though he still makes an effort to hang out with me I still feel like things have changed. I guess it's because his friendship is so important to me, but to allos romance is usually the "higher tier" in relationships. I know he still cares about me, and I'm super happy for him because his mental health has improved so much since getting a partner, but I also get the occasional thought like "I wasn't enough to make you feel better? You had to get a partner to not be depressed anymore?" It sounds selfish, so I try not to think like that, but it's still a lingering feeling. Sorry for the rant, I just relate to this a lot. I also don't really understand romance.

I've never been in a situation like this, so I could be saying the completely wrong thing here, but I suggest you just ask her these things. Nothing wrong with asking. Good and honest communication is important in a relationship.

Hello, and welcome to the forum! It's a super chill community here, I'm fairly new myself and I'm havin' a grand ol' time so far. Hope you like it here! What kinds of books do you like? Also give me recommendations if you want, because I need to read more.

Anything is a QPR if you want it to be. What I mean is, it's just a label that simplifies complex human emotions. If you think what you want should be called a QPR, then call it that. On the other hand, if you prefer to just think of it as a friendship with added smooching, call it that. In the end, it doesn't really matter that much.

I don’t have any aroace friends either, so I totally get how you feel. It’s a bit confronting when your friends start getting into relationships, everything changes. I’m just lucky my best friend isn’t a very romantic person. He doesn’t do any PDA with his partner in front of me, and I get along with his partner quite well. My brother still doesn’t have a gf yet, and I hope he gets one eventually (he really wants to), but I’m also a bit melancholy about it. He and I have been very close for most of our lives, and it’ll be very weird when he gets a gf and maybe even moves in with her. I’ll miss him a lot, even if he still visits a lot. Sorry for the slight rant lol, just saying you’re totally not alone with this.

When I found out, I thought "thank god". No way am I gonna deal with all the drama and problems that come with romance lol, I've got more important shit going on. This was my mum's exact reaction when I told her as well, she just said "Oh, good, I won't have to worry about all that".

I used to keep switching between identities because I was always so confused on the genders I liked. Due to being aro (and a not that emotive person in general), my feelings towards others are quite mellow and not noticeable, so it was difficult for me to pinpoint what kind of attraction I felt towards others. I thought I was lesbian for a while, pan for an even shorter while, but I can now safely say I'm bi with a strong leaning towards women (purely sexual attraction, boobies lol).

A recent drawing I made in Procreate You can see more of my stuff on my Newgrounds account if you like this one :) Oh, and here's an Aromantic-related doodle I did of an aro-coloured bird!

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False. I don't do headcanons very much at all, let alone unpopular ones. Tpbm collects something (i.e rocks, toys, bottle caps etc.)

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