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Everything posted by SamwiseLovesLife

  1. This is a really great question. Interesting that most people here seem the opposite to me. Follow up Poll on how this relates to grey/demi-romo/sexuality and where the correlations are? (sounds very technical) For me it is actually my sexuality. It seems more relevant to my life that I can be sexually attracted to all (or rather any) people. If I want to engage sexually with someone I simply make sure it's mutually un-romantic. If I were to encounter a situation where I particularly wanted to be with a person but they wanted something romantic, I would probably have a discussion around my general lack of feelings in that department, but would be willing to engage romantically for their sake (if that's what I wanted to do). Honestly I feel platonic bonds very strongly so it isn't so hard for me to 'fake' romantic action as I'm very tactile and affectionate with friends so to do so with a romantic/sexual partner wouldn't be difficult. If I were to focus more on my romantic orientation I'd likely be keeping people at a distance that wouldn't allow for the strong sexual and platonic bonds I particularly aim for so would be counterproductive.
  2. I don't swear in excess but maybe a couple times in a day. Usually the good old F***ing and S**t. Also more descriptive ones like balls or bloody (cos British)
  3. Midlands England.. so the ankle??
  4. SO MUCH YES. I struggle with majorly wanting to both snuggle and have sex with people (mostly male people) but not wanting them to get the wrong idea or want to date.. it's pretty hard to explain to non aro people :'(
  5. I feel this.. talk about identity policing Wow man.. too far D:
  6. ^ I relate Welcome Oona! I like your name, it sounds pretty
  7. I don't think it makes people immature or un-developed but I think without 'adult' attachments to people (aro aces) it's fairly easy to feel alienated by the general adult population and then find ourselves slipping into other child-like spaces as we feel more comfortable there
  8. I totally agree, I'd love a real FWB relationship. Two of my favourite things in one person, friend and sex Why are people so weird about that?
  9. Preach! 'Our kind' <-- We are now mythical creatures. Love it
  10. Remind me what Lithromantic means? Also no worries! You're welcome here and no one really minds lewd, if I'm talking about something really graphic I just put a disclaimer at the top of the post
  11. I think explaining everything, even if they might not understand it all is the best plan. Least people get hurt. The times someone comes onto me I flirt back, but then jokingly say 'no feelings though man, i don't subscribe to that icky stuff' and we can have a joke about it, without me assuming that they want more. Like saying 'No Romo' but in a way Allos will understand. If I want sex/close friendship with them I'll explain more thoroughly so they know where I stand before anything happens because letting people down sucks
  12. Childhood view: Lots of obese racist people on ranches I am so sorry..
  13. @hodges2 How would you personally define this attraction? Just so I can work out the difference between it and normal platonic/romantic desire/feelings?
  14. Welcome to the big cynical party Free hugs, opinions and occasional rants.. something for all the Aromantic family!
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