Acecream

Hello here I am

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2025

12 hours ago, clbaft said:

I wonder if Moses actually is? ?

Here you go: In the summer of 2014 Moses began work on his debut album and stumbled on a term that resonated with the way he’d been feeling. Aromantic: someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction. “I was doing some self-diagnosis type shit,” he says with a grin. “I was wondering why every time I dated someone it felt a bit hollow. I’d have these really intense… not relationships... but things, where I cared deeply for someone, but always felt like there was one last piece missing: being in love. I started to wonder what love even means?”

oh I would totally ? this @void 

@InvisibleSquid I never was on Reddit so unfortunately i can’t help you but this sounds like my social media problem in general; I know a lot of people who tell me how they met someone on a Forum/Instagram/Twitter/whatever who is now their best friend. And I just don’t get it. HOW. HOW does this work? Lol

I’m totally not a shy person, when I’m in a room with someone I don’t know I just start to talk to them, but I have no idea how this works online

so, when you solve the Reddit problem please let me know, I’d love to try it out?

I don’t know if you did in it purpose but you have the question “saying “I love you” to a family member” and then “saying “I love you” to a close friend or family member” and I didn’t really know how to value my close friends and my family in this question bc I would give different answers for those two groups 

Yeah I love the memes too and I hope there’ll be more haha

I don’t know if this counts but when I was around the age of 12 a boy in my class had a crush on a girl and wrote her a love letter. I remember us sitting all together in school around her afterwards asking her how she feels about it ... I just said to her: “so, just say that you are in love with him too, what’s the problem.” Bc I thought that would be how it works, that when someone is in love with you you just have to love them back lol

actually this was how I reacted in elementary school too. A friend told me that another guy would have a crush on me and I just pretended that I was into him, including kissing his face on the class-photography while in reality I didn’t even like him lol

At the moment I have the feeling as if this situation (being isolated from friends during COVID) would remain my entire life... that this is how I’ll feel for the rest of my life while everyone around me starts relationships and families.

The hardest thing is that I have no idea who I can talk to while feeling so

Market

@mossy

alice oseman (the author who wrote “loveless” about an aroace character (I still haven’t read it by my own :/)) is aromantic asexual herself

Only last year (20/21) but I haven’t thought a lot about it before, I was too busy questioning my sexuality^^
and if I think back there were a lot of signs. So probably I could have known it much earlier

When my friend says that she really wants to have a boyfriend again and I’m sitting there and have no idea what to say

(and end up in some not-funny jokes)

the same friend (she’s dating a lot) tells me a new dating-story almost every time we meet and I never know how to react, but to be honest I enjoy the story’s bc it’s interesting to hear about dating which seems to happen in another world than mine

I’m sorry @nonmerci

4 hours ago, Mark said:

Even if they don't mention they are also ace having only aroaces gives a very limited perspective on aromanticsm.
Including that, like other perioriented people, aroaces can more easily confuse and conflate romantic and sexual.

That’s true. So I’ll try to push alloaro voices on social media more than telling about my own experiences when it’s (only) about aromanticism.

but it’s not that easy bc everytime I tell ppl about asexuality I have to clarify first that being ace does not mean being aromantic and everytime I’m telling about aromantic I have to clarify first that being aro does not mean being asexual and that my own experiences may not be the ones most ppl have.. So it’s a bit confusing where to find my own place lol

I figured out I was ace first. And then thinking about moments I referred to my asexuality I realised that I can’t “only” be ace bc being alloromantic would lead to different experiences... so i figured out I had to be aro too

No

11 hours ago, Aversa said:

I am wondering how to do that . Many people just skip your profile when they see 'Aromantic' without thinking twice. But not making it clear from the beginning is also really stressfull and I don't know... 

Yeah, me too. I’d wish to have a “queerplatonic dating app”

sometimes I’d love to try out a qpr, but I don’t know how to find one and “normal dating” or to register on a dating app with allos scares me off

 @Holmbo I understand that it may seem too personal to write it on your profile, but I believe that’s the best/fairest way to act..

Yeah I think there are some ace groups (at least digital) but sadly it seems a lot more difficult to find a aro group/something for aromantic people... but you are free to dm me if you want @Aversa :)

On 2/13/2021 at 2:48 AM, Spark_TheDemiboyRat said:

I'm almost always lonely. I'm not really sure why, but it even happens when I'm with other people. It's kinda weird...

Sometimes I even feel more lonely when I am with other people/friends. Everyone around me is getting happier and happier while I’m feeling sadder and sadder... and I don’t know why bc we actually do have a good time.

Or when I had a nice evening with friends and I’m cycling home... then I sometimes feel like the loneliest human on this planet although I was surrounded by friends minutes before.

(all during non-COVID times)

On 2/19/2021 at 8:30 AM, Rolo said:

Yes, I haven't seen most of my friends in person since last February. Video chats just aren't the same. The couple I have occasionally seen it has been for 2m distanced walks, which isn't exactly companionable. I miss them, and I'm feeling lonely.

This. We met via zoom a few weeks ago and after like five minutes I had to leave the call and started to cry bc it were just too many emotions and I remembered how much I missed them which I couldn’t handle.

-Do you have a boyfriend?

-No.

-Do you have a girlfriend? 
-No.

-Do you... like dating? Do you date a lot?

*awkwardly* -No.

-Mmh. So you like being single?
*laughes nervously* -Yes.

-Yeah that can be nice too.

i should be more confident sometimes... and just tell people that I’m aromantic.

Just wondering because I feel like when aromantic is shown and talked about everyone seems to mix it up with asexuality

i’m an aroace person myself and I feel like aro-representation should be a bit more allosexual than it is. Even in the aro-awareness week I saw a lot of posts on social media that were mentioning asexuality while I felt it would be necessary to part my aro from my ace identity (yes maybe they interact with each other, but they still are two different parts of my identity) and I fear that aroaces would be a bit gatekeeping...

Nice to read some aromantic coming out stories here.

It’s encouraging to read some of you did it, no matter how the reactions were.

just wanted to ask everyone to whom you came out yet and how the reactions were?
i personally would love to come out to my family but I still didn’t and I don’t know when I will.. actually I missed a lot of situations where I could have done it (talks about future childs, families...)

but I came out to some friends and bc I came out I learned that two of them are questioning if they are on the arospec as well :D

(Maybe to the aroaces of you: was it simpler to came out as aro or as ace and which of both seemed to be more important to you?)

I go with @nonmerci. I don’t know a lot of celebrities bc since I was a kid I ever looked very few movies.

I faked a crush once to a boy of my school (I didn’t even know him lol). I guess I would chose someone from my university I don’t know very good but only from distance (so I’d have no pressure to act in a certain way and just could „adore“ from distance, which seams easier to fake)