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my friend wanted to hear a song which is quite popular at the moment and all I thought was “oh pls not this amatonormative shit again”

@nonmerci this just sounds as if labelling yourself would put you in a prison. But in fact it frees you. (or at least it can)

Oh wow that’s exactly what my mother said aswell. in addition to: „I don’t think it’s good to label yourself, do you really need that? I just don’t want you to stick yourself into a box.”

He is, but there is a big amnesia, so unfortunately he gets out of prison after a few days i wish I wouldn‘t have any courses of university this week

I wonder why so many alloromantic people (at least the ones I know) stop meeting people they like after they realize that their will be no romantic relationships with them. like, a lot of my friends start dating and then, after a few dates, they tell me that they really like the other person (and the other person likes them back), but not in THAT way. So they stop meeting each other. why can’t they just continue meeting as friends? I mean, they like each other? Why doesn’t this count when there is no romantic potential?

@Rainy Robin this sounds wonderful :)

Like having “polyamorous” QPRs (Polyplatonic :D) or not at one time?

Yeah it’s all in the title aromanticism is just invisible, nobody talks about it, nobody knows about it, nobody outside the aspec even uses (or knows!!!!) the SAM. not using it denies that aromanticism even EXISTS because NOBODY cares about romantic orientations Being aromantic is just like being non-existent. And I HATE IT. edit: I don’t hate being aromantic. I hate that nobody knows anything about us.

Hhpey, I just want to leave this text here... bc I feel like it has some very good points and I thought some of you might like it, too. Feel free to share what you think about it! it’s from an aroace perspective so I thought it’s maybe better here than in another thread, but I don’t know the thread-structure of this forum that well haha the article ” And yet, most aroace people we get to know or heard about or read about – they mostly and firstly identify as ace. We ponder why this is the case? Why aromanticism feels less important to them in this amatonormative world? We can’t get our head around this concept. We are aroace too, but thinking about it – we feel more aro than ace. Aromanticism is about relationships. It’s about friendships we have that won’t turn into another kind of relationship – a romantic one. We feel fine about them being ‘just’ friendships, but also we ponder if this doesn’t make our friends feel like ‘they don’t have a chance’ in a romantic sense, with us. And we ponder if they won’t put as much heart and work into those friendships as we do – because even if they’re not romantically interested in us, they would be in someone else. And then maybe they see those romantic relationships as needing more from them than any friendship would. Maybe not. But we ponder that nonetheless.“ i personally “started” my journey by identifying more ace than aro as well - but it changed through the last weeks/month. I am happy when I see ace representation, but I am searching for aro-rep and i do not find it. I am happy when others understand asexuality, but I want them to understand aromanticism - and I don’t know how. People understand that asexuality is a sexuality and that I CAN know I am ace - but I want them to understand that I CAN know I am aro despite I have not met every person in the world yet. I want people to differ their sexual from their romantic orientation, even if they are heteroromantic heterosexual - bc if they don’t, I feel as if I would not exist. As if aromanticism could not exist. i am happy for every ace-meeting or ace-group - but I want to have aro-meetings and as far as I’ve seen, there is NO aro community in my country. Nothing. At least aros can join ace spaces but I want to have a soecific aro-area, I want to meet Aros, even alloromantic aros, I want to hear their experiences, their happy endings, I want to hear how they discover friendships, I want to talk about them. i want to talk about aromanticism.

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You have the fastest internet in the world, but you have no phone and no laptop and nothing you can use it with i wish I would not feel that alone

Spaghetti sweater is awesome! I‘d just guess that there is one language (or more) in, which doesn’t use pronouns and has a very “gender neutral” language, so that the translator afterwards just guessed the pronoun^^

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Beard. But I prefer none of them^^ Would you rather live in a country where it’s too hot to stay in the sun (all year) or in a country where it’s too cold to go outside without a warm jacket all year

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First of all: being disabled is nothing negative. Yes, it can affect your life very much and yes, it can leed to other experiences and specific needs abled don’t have and we really have to listen what is needed and how we can form life barrier–free, but it’s not about „low life–quality“ or something like that. second: being aromantic is not “being disabled”. Nobody (apart of homomisic people) would call being homoromantic being disabled. So, why should being aromantic be “disabled”? It’s just another romantic orientation (yes, with a lot of prejudices about) being aromantic also does NOT mean being alone all life.You can form relationship people settle “higher” than friendship (which is bullshit because I don’t think you should rank your relationship.. friendships are beautiful and not worse than “romantic relationships” at all). You could form a queerplatonic relationship for example. Or you could even enter a relationship with a romantic partner without being romantic by yourself, if you want to! you don’t have to “be in love”, like kissing or holding hands therefore. Just be honest to yourself and a possible partner the whole world of relationships is still open to you (yeah, I guess it would be harder, but nothing is impossible) please excuse my english too

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@crazydreamer congratulations for your coming out?

You can, but it sounds horrific and nobody wants to hear it. I wish I had a garden full of yummy straw- and raspberries I could eat from as much as I want to

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I didn’t know this song before, but I just had Why pourquoi by “slut” in my Spotify playlist and I think it has a lot of aro vibes