Nagito

For me it's aesthetic attraction. As second I would place sensual and as third – platonic. I have no sexual attraction and I don't know if I experience other types of attraction. In some cases aesthetic and sensual attraction are mixed up or I don't know if the attraction I'm experiencing is sensual or aesthetic.

I was dating about 5 times while I was between 13 and 19 years old and it was very exhausting and I think I could understand you. It's the fault of amatonormativy, literally nobody says about other ways to be happy and whatever, and I think it forces part of aros, who don't know they're aro, to be involved in romantic relationships because we simply don't know there are other paths. I'm talking about 'part' because there are aros who always knew they don't feel the romantic attraction and there are also aros who wish to date (and it's valid). I'm happy you've found yourself. Alloaros are totally valid and welcome!

I'm identifying me just as aromantic. I don't feel the need to use labels connected to other orientations. For the first time I identified me as aromantic and asexual while I was 23 years old. Now, when I'm 24 years old, I decided to abandon the label of asexual because I don't feel the need to use it. I feel me better using so aromantic label.

You can tell to her that you want to buy it to stop picking nails and it'll help you. I don't think she'd search for meaning of wearing a ring on middle finger. In December I've bought an Atlantis ring, I'm wearing it frequently and literally no one asked about it.

I think it's a good topic to talk about. When we're talking about orientation, there are mentioned just two: sexual and romantic (and exactly in this order). But when we're talking about attraction, there are also other ways how persons are attracting or not attracting, for example: platonic, alterous. To be honest, I feel like the other types are simply treated like "worst", "not significant", "they don't deserve to be called like that". I'm identifying myself as aroace demi/grayplatonic and graysensual (without being sure who is attractive to me due to my conditional experience of it), and I'm more about to say: hey, but it's my orientation, not just attraction. And what do you think about it?

I like some of romantically-coded activities, but only toward a person who is very close to me. I don’t consider hugs, holding hands or kisses as romantic but if someone would have an intention to place romantic feelings while hugging or kissing me, I wouldn’t like it, I think it’d be uncomfortable to me.

That’s really great you discoreved your romantic orientation. Congrats! I started to doubt my orientation when I put an aromantic character in story I was writting and when I finished it, I couldn’t stop thinking that I can be aro (and I had a short auto-gatekeeping phase, if I can call it this way). I think it’s interesting to see that there are many, many ways to discover yourself.

Hi! I discovered my aromanticism before asexuality, too.

Welcome!

’Neutrois’ is created of two French words: one which means ’neutral’ and other for ’three’. It’s literally ’third neutral gender’ and this term was created by H.A. Burnham in 1995.

One more INTJ here.

I’m neutrois. I’m using the term ’nonbinary’ because it’s easier than trying to explain to other person that I’m gender-neutral.

Hello! Yep, I also think it’s weird to be aro and like reading ’romantic’ fiction. I’m personally writting this type of fanfiction but recently I’ve started to put more aros as main character. Since always my characters were non-heteronormative. No, because I’m transgender and I even don’t remember their names (they hurt me in the past so that’s better to me to don’t talk to them).

I think you can simply say you find having shorter hair more comfortable or something like that. You don’t need to tell them the real reason of your decision.

I’m not going to tell them. They have problems with accepting me as transgender person, so coming out as aroace wouldn’t be good for me.

Welcome! There are lots of persons who aren’t native of English (I’m not native, too) so don’t worry about mistakes or something like this.

For me it all of it sounds like aromanticism. But the only one person who can say you’re aro is you. Me too! I think the worst thing in the world is when someone asks for some books, movies or series to read/watch and then there’s lots of things with romantic plot. I have never felt romantic attraction to a celebrity but I’m feeling aesthetic and sensual attractions to one soccer player, for me he’s the most beautiful man I’ve ever seen and the only one thing I literally would do with him is to hug him and joking or talk with him. I don’t see myself doing anything romantic with him and for me it’s strange when people say ’I would marry’. I know this feeling very well. I’m like ’hey, that’s great they aren’t posting anything with their partner, it’s their personal thing’ and then I feel very disappointed when they’re starting to do it. I literally don’t understand it and it’s ’a little’ annoying for me. When a coworker said to me ’you’re so romantic’ I literally stopped being ’nice’ in this meaning. I don’t want anybody to think I’m flirting with them.

Welcome! It’s never late to discover your orientation or gender.

I always knew I’m different but I didn’t know why. I discovered being aro this year, a few weeks before my 23th birthday, two or three months after discovering being neutrois (I’ve already known I’m nonbinary but I wasn’t sure which gender term fits me). I was writting a story where the main character, Gabriel, was demisexual gay and he felt sexual attraction to his best friend, Bruno Henrique, and I was thinking what to do and I decided to make Bruno as aromantic gay. And there was a chapter in which Bruno reveals to Gabriel his aromanticism and Gabriel his demisexuality to him. I’m not sure when I finished this story but for a few weeks after it I was like ’what if am I aromantic?’ I needed sometime for it and thinking about my past relationships made me be sure I have never felt romantic attraction to my ex-partners, it was something other. Maybe alterous attraction? I don’t know. It was a strong feeling but not romantic and I feel that all of my gestures toward them were acted.

Obrigade. Tô aberte para fazer amizades então não vejo problema qualquer para conversar um pouco, se você quiser. É importante para se lembrar que usando coisas como Google Tradutor não é vergonhoso. É algo que muitas pessoas fazem mas não todos tem coragem para revelar. Eu pessoalmente tô usando-o durante escrevendo uma história se tenho dúvidas.

Oi! It’s possible! Yeah, a part of aro persons are touch- and romance-aversed. I’m learning Br-Portuguese since 2018 and I know the feeling of using Google Translator, especially while writting a story in this language or reading something, kkkkk. Now I’m having problems with code-switching because my brain ’turns-off’ sometimes (I’m native Polish speaker, English is my second language and Portuguese is third but currently I’m using more Portuguese than English, tbh) and then I’m mixing languages in one sentence.

I understand you! Well, when I said I’m neutrois I heard ’oh, another Tumblr gender’ (this term is older than Tumblr). In my opinion looks like it’s more difficult to explain microlabels in general because there are still people who even doesn’t try to understand. Well, if you want to, we can move to private messages.

In my opinion, all the labels exist to pick the one to feel comfortable with and not to be ’practical’. But each person has their own point of view and I’m not going to argue, it’s obvious.

For me microlabels are very confusing so I prefer to call myself just aroace, kkk.

They’re different things. ’Aego’ means ’without me’ or something like that. Aegoromantic isn’t interested in being in romantic relations and romance-positive aro can be interested in them.