alto Posted October 24 Share Posted October 24 So a dude that I've been talking to lately says that considers QPRs "romantic". Are they romantic? If not, how are they different from romance? What makes them different? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hemogoblin Posted October 24 Share Posted October 24 No. They are neither romantic, nor platonic, hence the name. I've (and others) talked about this recently more in depth here, including with links to tons of people describing their QPRs. They are different from romance, just like any other type of relationship differs from others, by the intent behind them, which is queerplatonic. Not romantic. Not platonic. But something else: queerplatonic. Some friends have sex. Some friends kiss. Some friends go on dates. Many people consider those "romantic/intimate/committed relationship" things but that doesn't mean they inherently are. The difference is the intent behind them. People get to define that for themselves. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Collie Posted October 24 Share Posted October 24 No, I would think it's not romantic by definition. I don't know if queerplatonic attraction is a thing or not (some say it is), but a QPR specifically, is a relationship that would appear closer than friendship and yet not a romantic relationship. The definition is broad and vague by design, but one thing is that it's not a romantic thing. People outside of the relationship may assume that it's romantic, but that doesn't make it so. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted October 24 Share Posted October 24 I think about it as the non-binary relationship, if that helps. If you take gender, you have the whole non-binary spectrum that defies the idea that you have to be either a girl or a boy. In this spectrum, you have agender people, bigender people, demiboys, demigirls, etc. Depending on the specific label, they can have things in common with male and female gender, or be completely disconnected from them. However, they all have in common one thing : they are neither a boy or a girl. That's the same thing for QPR. They are defying the binarity between platonic and romantic relationships. For some it will be close to a friendship, for some ot will be close to romance, for other it will be both at the same time, or it will be neither of those. It really depends on the people involved, no QPR looks the same. However, they all have one thing in common : they can't be synonymous to friendship or romance. So if it is true to say that QPRs can sometimes have romantic components, it is not accurate to say they are romantic per se, or that they are the same thing as a romantic relationship. In fact, from the experiences, I've read, those who enter a QPR thinking "it is just like a romantic relationship" are usually disappointed and the relationship doesn't last. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 On 10/24/2023 at 4:56 AM, alto said: So a dude that I've been talking to lately says that considers QPRs "romantic". Are they romantic? If not, how are they different from romance? What makes them different? Since QPR is an umbrella term, it will end up being used to describe relationships which are romance like and/or pseudo-romantic as well as those which are different. Very often depictions of OPRs, especially in mainstream media, are of coupled relationships. Which especially if they are also hetero, mongamous, cohabiting/marital, etc have little to tell apart from amantonormative ones. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted November 1 Share Posted November 1 (edited) On 10/24/2023 at 9:29 AM, nonmerci said: I think about it as the non-binary relationship, if that helps. If you take gender, you have the whole non-binary spectrum that defies the idea that you have to be either a girl or a boy. In this spectrum, you have agender people, bigender people, demiboys, demigirls, etc. Depending on the specific label, they can have things in common with male and female gender, or be completely disconnected from them. However, they all have in common one thing : they are neither a boy or a girl. Can you have multiple separate relationships with the same person at the same time? Normally you can! I wonder 🤔: can you have a QPR 💚 with someone and also have a romantic relationship ❤️ with them? Or are QPRs supposed to be exclusive in this sense? Honest question! I guess... they are exclusive? Edited November 2 by DeltaAro Simplified Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Synthetic Adrenaline Posted Sunday at 10:39 AM Share Posted Sunday at 10:39 AM Personally they're a bit too relationship-like for me. I'd rather just have plenty of strong friendships and be part of communities. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellie04 Posted Monday at 11:20 AM Share Posted Monday at 11:20 AM Explicitly no but it’s up to the beings in a relationship to decide Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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