Jump to content
  • 0

what is your favorite guilty pleasure?


Guest Anonymous

Question

I have decided to make this anonymous for some reasons.

Mine is reading queer romance manga and books O///O

It's just so fascinating, OK? Lol.

WBU?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Recommended Posts

  • 0
20 hours ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

Which isn't me saying that everyone is into that, obviously, but like, there's nothing wrong with having an interest in sex or romance or what have you.

There also is nothing wrong with the other guilty pleasures mentioned here.

But we believe they (fanfiction, shonen anime, ...) are below our intellectual level or refined tastes. Still, we like them. So this conflict with our self-image we call guilty pleasure. 🙃

Sex OTOH or romance cannot be a guilty pleasure because it's simply not highbrow or lowbrow in the first place.

Edited by DeltaAro
  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0

Reading +18 fan-fiction (not something one should feel guilty for reading of course, but fanfic has a type of stigma placed onto it)

Watching FNAF analogue horror tapes XD (the games kind of get dunked on a little nowadays, but the fan-made VHS tapes and analogues are really cool)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0

Sneaking in the kitchen in the middle of the night to grab a piece of candy, Sometimes I resist it other times I don't.

On 3/27/2023 at 10:28 AM, The Aro Mando Echo said:

SAME. Sometimes I purposefully look for it just to be like "Hmmm... any attraction here? No? Alright then.."

Almost like a test 😅

I'm not the type of person to even click those because I just wind up being absolutely disgusted, and the only real times I would look at that filthy garbage is when I'm trying to download some obscure virus for a virtual machine and get jump scared by it. Ugghhh then it floats around in my head, and I absolutely hate it.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0
On 3/31/2023 at 2:59 PM, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

Scary how many people here I'm seeing say, like, "porn", or "queer something-or-other". That's not a guilty pleasure! That's a perfectly normal, healthy thing to be interested in- Which isn't me saying that everyone is into that, obviously, but like, there's nothing wrong with having an interest in sex or romance or what have you. Yes, even if you're ace and only looking at it out of curiousity (although in that case, I would strongly advise you to take a moment to think about why you're describing other people's emotions and interests as something weird and bad. That's not very nice). Why does that have to be a "guilty pleasure"? Why is sexuality and queerness something negative and shameful to you, instead of something you can unabashedly take part in?

I'm not saying this to accuse people of anything, for what it's worth. I'm saying it to try to open people up to internalized homophobia and sex negativity. Why do you feel that being into these things is something negative? Who is telling you such, and why? Is it actually something bad? What message are you sending to others when you describe these things in this way? Ask yourselves these questions.

Anyway, my guilty pleasure is the live action Monster High movie lol

It's because some people in the aro/ace community still hold onto their perception of "cringe culture", anytime I spoke up about liking "weird" romantic/sexual things, i'd be called "cringy" for enjoying it. So I've kept quiet to avoid "looking like an allo" for enjoying such things. I know they're not inherently "gulity" as even I agree that contributes to negativity, but it feels so hard to enjoy without that voice in your head being like "don't you know this is cringe and the aros/aces will hate you for it"

Like it's literally the reason why I never say I have an s/o in aro spaces because now even having a romantic partner is "cringe" in some aro circles.

Edited by Lovebird
additional information
  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0
2 hours ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

I'm not the type of person to even click those because I just wind up being absolutely disgusted, and the only real times I would look at that filthy garbage is when I'm trying to download some obscure virus for a virtual machine and get jump scared by it. Ugghhh then it floats around in my head, and I absolutely hate it.

That's not a very nice thing to say... It's totally ok to not be interested in that sort of thing, but remember that other people are. You don't need to call it "filthy garbage", especially when a lot of people (especially queer people) are shamed or even killed for their sexuality. Also you should probably install an ad blocker.

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0

By that definition, I can add my main kink to the list. But by my definition, it's a secret pleasure. 😼

Spoiler

You can bet I may indulge in "art", including written, that involves it. Some depictions of it doesn't really interest me, though.

 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 0
On 6/21/2023 at 9:16 PM, HelloThere said:

It really shouldn’t be that way. I mean I don’t understand it much, and I might ignore but no one should be considered “cringe” for liking romance. Romance disgust in general tends to take over on aro sites and just further continues the stereotype that you have to be romance disgusted to be aro. 

The romance negativity has escalated to a point of ableism: armchair diagnosing people with mental illnesses, comparing romantic attraction to a disease that must be cursed or accusing those are experience romantic attraction to be crazy or outright serial killers. Some aros have even laughed at certain minority groups (often disabled people) who are unable to get married or have marriage equality.

As a mentally disabled person, it makes me feel inferior being in aro spaces. And whenever I call this out people just excuse it as "Well they're just venting, it's your fault you got offended!" as if to imply that ableism within a niche community isn't something worth talking about.

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Answer this question...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

×
×
  • Create New...