Nowhere.girl Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Hi! I'm María, I'm 17 and I am from Spain (so I apologize if my English is bad, it's not my first lenguage ?). I realized I was definitely not romantic about...4 days ago...haha... And I have spent those 4 days binge reading AVEN and watching youtube videos to learn the different romantic orientations in the aro spectrum to see with which one I identify. At first I thought I was lithromantic, because I've had crushes before, but I am definitely not comfortable in a romantic relationship. But then I realized that maybe those "crushes" were not really "crushes". I mean I convinced myself that I was heterosexual until 2 years ago, and I turned out to be homosexual, so maybe the same happened with my romantic orientation and it was not romantic attraction but aesthetic attraction mixed with the happiness of the idea of being in a relationship, which everyone seems to think is so fantastic and "the goal". So now I think that I'm aromantic, but that's why I decided to join arocalypse! ? I know it's gonna take a while until I discover and process who I am, but it's good to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way and I'm not a weirdo ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Welcome to Arocalypse! It's confusing finding out what your orientation is but hopefully this is the place to do it (And your English is really good!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natkat Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Hello and wellcome I also been going back and forth with labels and currently just identified as aro/aro-spec (short for spectrum) my problem has been the same that im unsure of my chrushes been really chrushes or squishes I feel its hard to tell the difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedNeko Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Welcome to the forums Good luck with working things out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louis On Air Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Welcome! Firstly, your English is really good and secondly, if this stuff confuses you then this is the place where no one has a problem with that. Thirdly, you're not a weirdo at all because the world is weird for setting dumb standards and finally, here's some ice cream Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere.girl Posted June 1, 2016 Author Share Posted June 1, 2016 Awww thank you!!! You all are so nice :') I have a question: is ice cream a thing, just like ace people have cake? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinoa Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 Welcome! Yes, it seems the ice cream thing has taken off. There are a few threads about it here and here. I'm not sure if it exists outside Arocalypse, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shotinthehand Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 11 hours ago, Nowhere.girl said: Hi! I'm María, I'm 17 and I am from Spain (so I apologize if my English is bad, it's not my first lenguage ?). I realized I was definitely not romantic about...4 days ago...haha... And I have spent those 4 days binge reading AVEN and watching youtube videos to learn the different romantic orientations in the aro spectrum to see with which one I identify. At first I thought I was lithromantic, because I've had crushes before, but I am definitely not comfortable in a romantic relationship. But then I realized that maybe those "crushes" were not really "crushes". I mean I convinced myself that I was heterosexual until 2 years ago, and I turned out to be homosexual, so maybe the same happened with my romantic orientation and it was not romantic attraction but aesthetic attraction mixed with the happiness of the idea of being in a relationship, which everyone seems to think is so fantastic and "the goal". So now I think that I'm aromantic, but that's why I decided to join arocalypse! ? I know it's gonna take a while until I discover and process who I am, but it's good to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way and I'm not a weirdo ? Welcome! It's OK if you don't pick a specific label to describe your place on the aromantic spectrum. We're happy to have more people with whom to enjoy ice cream! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aihpen Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 Welcome to Arocalypse! Good luck with figuring things out, I hope this place can help you with that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PerformativeSurprise Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 Welcome, Maria! You're definitely not alone. Hope you enjoy it here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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