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shotinthehand

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  1. Hiya! I recognize you from Tumblr. You make great aro memes!

  2. Ah, Everyone is John is fun! My friend group is unhappy with how the original misrepresents DID, so we decided we're going to run it as demons vying for possession of John. Your version is cool too! We also played a game where someone's goal was to get John to become pope.
  3. I recently dumped ("dumped" sounds so mean but I didn't want to be ambiguous) my now ex-romantic partner and the arophobic and amatonormative gremlin that lives in my brain is having a lot of fun with that.

    1. candles

      candles

      same for me. I'm sorry you're going through that. Ultimately, it's best for both of you. There's nothing wrong with ending a relationship when it comes to its end.

    2. shotinthehand
  4. I like to see how far along in a song that is romantic-coded I can pretend it can be about a relatively normative friendship.
  5. I finished my documentary! Here it is.

     

    1. Apathetic Echidna

      Apathetic Echidna

      awesome! sadly I am in an internet dead zone so my connection keeps dropping.I'll have to wait till I am back in civilization to watch. But do I spy a white Sony Xperia next to you?

  6. my aro-spec pride bracelet broke today

    1. Nikola

      Nikola

      aww, that sucks. hope you can fix it, or at least get a new one

    2. shotinthehand

      shotinthehand

      Thanks. I've been dating someone for a little over a month now. Maybe it's a sign ?

  7. In the interest of being honest with everyone on here, I want to say that a friend I got a crush on two years ago and I are now officially in a romantic relationship. I’m not sure where exactly my feelings are since I’ve been trying to push the crush away since getting it because I didn’t want it to complicate our relationship, but here we are. I’m going to stay on Arocalypse if that’s alright with you all, because it does bill itself as a forum for people on the aromantic spectrum, not just aromantics, and I still consider myself on the spectrum. This is the second crush I’ve ever had if I had one back in fifth grade. 

    Anyway, keep living your best lives, and wish me luck!

    1. NullVector

      NullVector

      My feeling is that anyone who relates enough to the content on the site to want to spend time engaging with it 'belongs' here. If you had to prove all the time that you were 'aro enough', I would not like that. But I don't think this is that kind of place. Aros, grey-ros, demi-ros, romantic allies, etc, should all be made to feel equally welcome here, IMO. Good luck and let us know how your romantic relationship is going some time, if you ever feel like sharing something with us here ^_^.

    2. shotinthehand
  8. Well, I'm a teen on this site, and I know there are a lot of other ones here too.
  9. Actually, you know, you and your community are fetishizing mlm relationships. Mlm are tired of being treated this way by mostly teenage girls and ready for y'all to knock it off. I can find some quotes breaking this down into better detail if you want, but I had to get it out
  10. Hi, Courtney! I turned seventeen this February 15th (2018) so it doesn't take much to transport myself into the mindset of my sixteen-year-old self. Maybe some of the other people who responded are about your age too. I must admit I didn't actually check. As a lot of people have already outlined, the aromantic spectrum and the asexual spectrum are two different spectrums! You can be allosexual (the opposite of asexual) and aromantic at the same time. It sounds like those might be some labels that fit you, if you are looking for labels. In addition to what others have already posted here, I'd like to tell you: don't worry about being sixteen and it's ok if it is indeed "just" a phase. If you aren't experiencing romantic attraction right now but you do experience it later, it doesn't mean that you weren't really aromantic when you were sixteen. It just means that that label doesn't describe you well anymore. You hurt no-one by using that label now. Even if you did, it isn't your job to play respectability politics and worry that by identifying with this label at a young age and potentially dropping it later, you might reinforce stereotypes about people who identify as aromantic. It is not your responsibility to make people who identify as aromantic worthy of respect from bigoted people. It's their job to educate themselves and to let us educate them if we're feeling up to it. If it turns out to be a "phase" aka a temporary stage in your life, that's OK! Being a teenager is an age for exploring your identity and figuring out what and whom you're into and what you like being called and calling yourself. It's saddening that "phase" has become a dirty word. Having a fluid romantic (or sexual) identity, that is, going through phases, is fine, no matter what age you are. It's always OK to change your labels later if you like and it's OK to be fast and loose with your labels if you want to be! In ninth grade, I knew one other person who identified as on the aromantic spectrum. They worried that they only identified as aromantic because they were on hormone blockers, and that as soon as they got off hormone blockers, they would start experiencing romantic attraction. It didn't help that their family told them this, or at least insinuated this, a lot. I told them that if that were the case, it was fine. They were hurting no-one by identifying as aromantic in that moment! They weren't getting crushes, so they got to call theirself aromantic! The label is for you to feel better about yourself, not to play respectability politics with. The label is for you, not for other people. Just like there are a lot of mentally ill or neurodivergent people on this server who had to deal with self-doubt and/or invalidation about their identity because of their mental state, they realized that it doesn't matter if that's the "reason" they're on the aromantic spectrum. They get to decide if they identify as on it and they are not obligated to consider how that might impact the image of the aromantic community. The community exists to support each other, not to throw vulnerable members under the bus. I started identifying with the word aromantic about the time I was turning fifteen. At that time, I had only had at most two experiences that were sort of crushes but not really. After about a year of identifying as gray-aromantic because I felt unsure of one of those experiences, I got a full-on crush on someone. I got to stick with the label I was already using since I was already using gray, but I did move on the spectrum. I was less aromantic than I was before that, and that was OK. No-one was hurt by that. If I start getting lots and lots of crushes, at what is considered the "normal" rate/amount, then I will drop my label as a person on the aromantic spectrum, because it wouldn't fit anymore, and that will be OK. I will still advocate just as strongly against amatonormativy, allonormativity and stereotypes against aromantic people. Maybe even more people would listen to me because I'd have allo-privilege then. If I used any terms you're unfamiliar with in my post you can almost certainly google them and get a good explanation, or you can search for them on this server, or you can ask me! I'm happy to clarify anything if that would help. I hope this post is beneficial for you or for other people.
  11. It...uh...sounds like you're romanticizing/cutesifying gay relationships
  12. Hi, everyone! I'm collecting video interviews from non-straight women and transgender and non-binary people on their relationships with their femininity. If anyone is alright with me interviewing them, please let me know! If you know anyone who might be alright with being interviewed, put them in contact with me! I'm going to be asking everyone questions like "how does wearing a dress make you feel?" and "do you like being described as feminine?" and I plan on asking questions specific to people's orientations and gender identities as well, such as "how do you respond when people say 'you don't look like a lesbian'?" or "as a trans-girl, do you feel obligated to wear make up to indicate to other people that you are a girl?" or "do people expect you to be available to men as a woman, even after you tell them you are aromantic?" I'm going to edit all the interviews I get into one cohesive film and then show it in a theater at my school for a suggested donation of about a dollar. I'm going to donate all proceeds to the Urgent Action Fund for Women's Rights, an organization that grants money to activists for women's rights and LGBT+ rights, especially their intersection. I need to have this finished by March of 2019. Thanks for your time!
  13. Hi, everyone! I'm collecting video interviews from non-straight women and transgender and non-binary people on their relationships with their femininity. If anyone is alright with me interviewing them, please let me know! If you know anyone who might be alright with being interviewed, put them in contact with me! I'm going to be asking everyone questions like "how does wearing a dress make you feel?" and "do you like being described as feminine?" and I plan on asking questions specific to people's orientations and gender identities as well, such as "how do you respond when people say 'you don't look like a lesbian'?" or "as a trans-girl, do you feel obligated to wear make up to indicate to other people that you are a girl?" or "do people expect you to be available to men as a woman, even after you tell them you are aromantic?" I'm going to edit all the interviews I get into one cohesive film and then show it in a theater at my school for a suggested donation of about a dollar. I'm going to donate all proceeds to the Urgent Action Fund for Women's Rights, an organization that grants money to activists for women's rights and LGBT+ rights, especially their intersection. I need to have this finished by March of 2019. Thanks for your time!
  14. Hi, everyone! I'm collecting video interviews from non-straight women and transgender and non-binary people on their relationships with their femininity. If anyone is alright with me interviewing them, please let me know! If you know anyone who might be alright with being interviewed, put them in contact with me! I'm going to be asking everyone questions like "how does wearing a dress make you feel?" and "do you like being described as feminine?" and I plan on asking questions specific to people's orientations and gender identities as well, such as "how do you respond when people say 'you don't look like a lesbian'?" or "as a trans-girl, do you feel obligated to wear make up to indicate to other people that you are a girl?" or "do people expect you to be available to men as a woman, even after you tell them you are aromantic?" I'm going to edit all the interviews I get into one cohesive film and then show it in a theater at my school for a suggested donation of about a dollar. I'm going to donate all proceeds to the Urgent Action Fund for Women's Rights, an organization that grants money to activists for women's rights and LGBT+ rights, especially their intersection. I need to have this finished by March of 2019. Thanks for your time!
  15. Hi, everyone! I'm collecting video interviews from non-straight women and transgender and non-binary people on their relationships with their femininity. If anyone is alright with me interviewing them, please let me know! If you know anyone who might be alright with being interviewed, put them in contact with me! I'm going to be asking everyone questions like "how does wearing a dress make you feel?" and "do you like being described as feminine?" and I plan on asking questions specific to people's orientations and gender identities as well, such as "how do you respond when people say 'you don't look like a lesbian'?" or "as a trans-girl, do you feel obligated to wear make up to indicate to other people that you are a girl?" or "do people expect you to be available to men as a woman, even after you tell them you are aromantic?" I'm going to edit all the interviews I get into one cohesive film and then show it in a theater at my school for a suggested donation of about a dollar. I'm going to donate all proceeds to the Urgent Action Fund for Women's Rights, an organization that grants money to activists for women's rights and LGBT+ rights, especially their intersection. I need to have this finished by March of 2019. Thanks for your time!
  16. Hi, everyone!

    I'm collecting video interviews from non-straight women and transgender and non-binary people on their relationships with their femininity.

    If anyone is alright with me interviewing them, please let me know! If you know anyone who might be alright with being interviewed, put them in contact with me!

    I'm going to be asking everyone questions like "how does wearing a dress make you feel?" and "do you like being described as feminine?" and I plan on asking questions specific to people's orientations and gender identities as well, such as "how do you respond when people say 'you don't look like a lesbian'?" or "as a trans-girl, do you feel obligated to wear make up to indicate to other people that you are a girl?" or "do people expect you to be available to men as a woman, even after you tell them you are aromantic?"

    I'm going to edit all the interviews I get into one cohesive film and then show it in a theater at my school for a suggested donation of about a dollar. I'm going to donate all proceeds to the Urgent Action Fund for Women's Rights, an organization that grants money to activists for women's rights and LGBT+ rights, especially their intersection.

    I need to have this finished by March of 2019.

    Thanks for your time!

    1. Apathetic Echidna

      Apathetic Echidna

      are you contacting on the Discord? or other Discord channels for gender? I think you would get a much faster response. Also what do you really meant by non-straight? just for clarification

    2. shotinthehand

      shotinthehand

      I'm not on Discord. By non-straight I mean anyone who isn't heterosexual and heteroromantic

  17. Hello! Some of you may be familiar with GISHWHES, the greatest international scavenger hunt the world has ever seen. Players complete zany/weird/impactful items for points. One of the items is to get 400 people to answer a poll about which side of their teeth they start brushing on. Please, please answer my poll and share it with people!

    #gishwhesteeth

    1. Ace of Amethysts

      Ace of Amethysts

      I start brushing on my right side personally, lol.

  18. GISHWHES registration is closing in 17 hours; if any of you want to join my team you should know my team name is Abnosomites.

  19. Harry Potter house: Slytherin Divergent Faction: Uhh...that's really hard...I believe that if humanity falls, it will be because of our selfishness, but I can't see myself living in Abnegation. I'm having a hard time choosing between Candor and Erudite, but I think I would go with Erudite because I value privacy. I took the official Percy Jackson quiz once, and I was told I was Grover instead of a demigod. I think that if I were the child of a demigod, I would be the child of Athena though. Also, I have a long-coming rant about Harry Potter houses that I might put here later.
  20. Ninety Nine Bacon Balloons
  21. You don't feel sick every morning, but you are sick. You wake up, walk to the bathroom, calmly vomit and go on with your morning routine. Your teeth start to deteriorate from stomach acid exposure. I wish I were better at chemistry.
  22. I go by she/her." it is easier to come up with wishes than corruptions, but you can't come up with corruptions any more and can't play the game any more You can dance, but you can't really control when you stop dancing. Sometimes you spontaneously start dancing even when you don't want to, like at funerals or in the middle of speeches. I wish I could fall asleep when ever I wanted to.
  23. Hi! Look how much stuff we have in common in our "about" sections! Where in Germany are you? How much German can you speak? I'm German level B1-B2.

    1. aihpen

      aihpen

      NO WAY! That's a lot in common :gasp: I'm currently living in Hamburg though I'll probably move back to NRW in September. German is my first language, so I'd say I'm pretty good at it ^_^ 

      Assuming that German isn't your first language, where are you from?

      Also that's really good if it's not your first language especially because German isn't the easiest language to learn from what I've heard xD

    2. shotinthehand

      shotinthehand

      Arg, I can't tell if you're poking fun at me or not. Either way, I'm fine with it. I'm currently living in Weinheim.

      My first language is English and I'm from America.

      The articles in German are frustrating is my main problem.

  24. Agh! I'm sorry! I was so pleased with how creepy my corruption of a wish turned out I just hit post! I wish I had the power to manifest and control sea slugs wherever and whenever I wanted to.
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