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  1. Hey everyone, I just wanted to say thank you to all the people who have helped me by sharing their personal story or giving me their opinion, or just supporting me. I appreciate it very much, really Even if our experiences with this particular situation haven't gone like we would have wanted, what counts is that we are now better than how we would be if we hadn't done what we did, and we deserve to be happy Okay I'll go now before I get too soppy
  2. Don't worry, I'm even later with this reply I know how you feel when you say you're sad because you still like her as a person, and I'm sorry Anyway, what happened with this girl is that I talked to her and explained her everything all at once: that I wanted to break up with her and that I'm aromantic and... let's just say she didn't take it very well, she wasn't angry, which would have preferred, but she got extremely sad and though I thought I shouldn't feel bad because it was the best for the both of us and I can't change who I am, I still felt really bad for her. We haven't talked since, because her therapist told me that it was the best idea so she wouldn't randomly remember me and feel sad again, but we have a very close friend in common and sometimes she tells me how she's doing, which is good because I still worry about her, she was a great person... Anyway, thanks you for the response, you're so nice!! That sounds really similar to what happened to me. I'm sorry you lost your friend though , that must have sucked. But thank you for sharing your story
  3. I found this comic and I actually cried while reading it... I don't know why because it isn't necessarily sad, but I'm suspicious those were the tears that other people (allo people) waste on Titanic Anyway this is so beautiful http://chekhovandowl.tumblr.com/becomingloveless Oops I think I just posted the same comic sorry
  4. Thank you! :3 And yes, spanish is a very complicated lenguage to learn and if the lenguage education is not good the subjet can become hell.. By the way I think you story about the spidery beach is hilarious πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I swear I read the words in my mind in an english accent
  5. My first lenguage is Spanish. I'm trying to learn English but the education system in Spain is pretty crappy in that area, I mean people from Germany and the Nordics are practically bilingual while here I've seen people not knowing how to use the past simple at 18... So yeah basically I've learned English from being all day on the internet xD. I also took French classes for 3 years but that was 2 years ago, so j'ai ouvliè beaucoup de mots (je ne sais pas where the accent marks go but I can make this sentence a three lenguage one I'm so sorry if this is making anyone querer sacarse los ojos de la cara. Your Spanish is very good!!!
  6. Yeah, I would totally stay friends with her, but if she needs space after the breakup I stay away and ask friends how is she doing I suppose.. After all she's got the worst part. Thank you :') Yes it looks like some kind of turtle neck 60's style I suppose...fashion looks weird 50 years later
  7. I think that one of the worst aspects of being aro is when you get asked out or someone flirts with you. If you just say "no" as your excuse, they keep trying because that "no" is obviously a "yes" somehow in their head. If you are comfortable coming out to them (even if you don't know them that well) and say that you are aro, they are not going to take you seriously. Maybe it's also because they ignore you and keep trying for whatever reason, but sometimes it's because people are not aware that aromanticism is a thing just because they are romantics and don't believe that there are people who are not. I think this is one of the rudest things you can do, not taking seriously someone's identity just because it's not the same as yours and therefore that person is confused or lying or crazy. I don't know this is a random thought and it's so obvious but I wanted to share it anyway.
  8. Aro people actually find this more entertaining and satisfying than a romantic relationship... 125
  9. I remember there was a scene in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows where Ron and Hermione were kissing in the middle of the Battle of Howgarts while their friends were probably dying and there were monsters and death eaters everywhere.
  10. Definitely frogs. We would have evolutioned to some kind of semiaquatic mermaids with disturbing eyes, I'd like to see that. WYR eat just pickles for the rest of your life or only be able to walk backwards?
  11. I love the idea of the white ring I'll probably get myself one And for the bracelet I found this tutorial and I thought it was really cool because the pattern kind of reminds me of an arrow. Did you mean this pattern?
  12. I forced myself to have crushes but it was because everyone had them and I didn't really know what it felt like, so there was a constant Gollum-like discussion in my head between what was imposed and what I really felt: "I like this person, they are funny and I like their appereance and I kind of want to put my face on theirs..." "THAT'S IT, YOU HAVE A CRUSH" "Are you su..." "YES THAT'S A CRUSH GO ASK THEM FOR A DATE"
  13. Oops I didn't see the post sorry!! Yep I think we all should agree on a flag. Thanks!
  14. Yeah that's probably what I'll do, I'll tell her the truth, the sooner the better... Thank you so much for helping me and sharing your story, I was clueless about what should I do and my friends wouldn't understand it if I explained it to them, so you certainly gave me some perspective haha. Oh and thanks for the song too!! Hahaha
  15. Ok it may seem like a dumb question since the colors are all over the website but I searched it up on google and apparently there are 2/3 different flags for aromanticism (?) http://vignette1.wikia.nocookie.net/aromantics/images/7/74/Aromantic_flag2.png/revision/latest?cb=20150430151847 http://vignette3.wikia.nocookie.net/aromantics/images/0/0a/Aromantic_flag.png/revision/latest?cb=20150430151823 Is there an "official"aromantic flag? Which one do you use/like the most?
  16. Hi! I'm currently in a romantic relationship because at first I thought that I was attracted to this girl. I've been getting more and more uncomfortable on the romantic parts of it to the point that I don't even wanna read her texts because it makes me feel so anxious; I think I may be aromatic. The point is that once I was in the relationship I told her that I liked her a lot, because I was confused and I thought that that's what romantic attraction felt like (then I realized that I just liked her as a person). She REALLY likes me, **TW plus she has problems like depression, an eating disorder, etc, but I made sure that she was getting proper treatment so she will be ok, ** but all of this just makes things more difficult. My problem is that I don't know how to break up with her. I know the best option is tell her how I feel, but I don't want her to think that I'm a liar for saying that I liked her and now suddenly I don't, or that I used her to figure out my romantic orientation (I don't think I did, do you? I really care about her, I really do). I was wondering if anyone had experienced a similar situation, and if so, how did you do it? How did you explain them the whole thing? Are you still friends? If you hadn't been in this situation I also appreciate your objective responses
  17. Yes!!! I never understood why people who experience romantic attraction are so sad after a breakup, I was always like "but we can be friends, what's wrong with that?". I have 2 exes and I am not exactly friends with them, but that's because they keep the distance I suppose. The first one is still in love with me but he tries to hide it, and he even keeps the faith that one day I will suddenly start to like guys and date him again. I still talk to him and consider him "my friend", but it's really uncomfortable being around him knowing his feelings for me. This particular guy makes me realize how powerful romantic attraction is for some people, and helps me to figure out the intensity of the feeling altough I can't feel it.
  18. Awww thank you!!! You all are so nice :') I have a question: is ice cream a thing, just like ace people have cake?
  19. I agree with you, I think it's the same thing with #giveelsaagirlfriend. I don't care if Elsa ends up being aro, ace, homosexual, pansexual or whatever, as long as there isn't another heterosexual/romantic cis princess. It would be cool too if she is not queer but doesn't get married, to show that you don't need a romantic partner to be happy and that it isn't the goal of life.
  20. Hi! I'm MarΓ­a, I'm 17 and I am from Spain (so I apologize if my English is bad, it's not my first lenguage πŸ˜…). I realized I was definitely not romantic about...4 days ago...haha... And I have spent those 4 days binge reading AVEN and watching youtube videos to learn the different romantic orientations in the aro spectrum to see with which one I identify. At first I thought I was lithromantic, because I've had crushes before, but I am definitely not comfortable in a romantic relationship. But then I realized that maybe those "crushes" were not really "crushes". I mean I convinced myself that I was heterosexual until 2 years ago, and I turned out to be homosexual, so maybe the same happened with my romantic orientation and it was not romantic attraction but aesthetic attraction mixed with the happiness of the idea of being in a relationship, which everyone seems to think is so fantastic and "the goal". So now I think that I'm aromantic, but that's why I decided to join arocalypse! 😊 I know it's gonna take a while until I discover and process who I am, but it's good to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way and I'm not a weirdo 😜
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