CoolK

I had 2 relationships I would say left an impact. One in high school I got dumped by my ex because I wouldn't kiss them after we had only been dating for 2 almost 3 weeks. The other one was in college. It was a very toxic relationship and at one point my ex told me I treated them too much like a friend. I still do not know what that means I always thought a romantic relationship was a best friendship with romantically coded activities for fun and to show commitment and care. I also was not aesthetically attracted to my last ex so that might have been part of the problem.

That makes sense.

Reading upside down an asexual romance. I have never experienced romantic attraction affecting my heart rate or butterflies that could not just be explained by the fear of being vulnerable with someone weather they are a romantic partner or not. Like is romantic attraction just people being more vulnerable with a specific person than they would any other?

That was unseeded of them to do and cold hearted. Definitely stay away from relationships a while if that's what is best for you.

I have never done it I want to try it someday if I have a partner that is open to it. I think I would enjoy closed mouth kissing but the thought of French kissing makes me disgusted. Overall it will not make or break my relationship as long as we can hold hands, cuddle, and the emotional closeness and devotion is there.

For real the discovery of my aceness was very easy because I am a bit sex repulsed. Discovering I was idemromantic took forever because I did not know a sign of being arospec was struggling to differentiate romantic from platonic attraction I am also romance favorable which added to my confusion. Upvote.

I am no crazy and was just struggling to differentiate between romantic and platonic attraction. Good to know.

My whole introducing me post has my story in full basically realizing that all infatuation is not romantic and finding the microlable idemromantic.

I have also experienced heartbreak. Don't feel any pressure to move on from it in a certain time. Lean on the people that support you. It's ok to still love them but recognize you will not be with them in the same way anymore and blocking and going no contact for a while may be beneficial than if you still want to be friends you can discuss it when you are in a better head space. A lot of romantic relationships do not work out. But I believe you will be able to find the person for you in the future if that's what you seek. Don't feel bad for mourning a loss a breakup is a real loss and causes chemical changes in your brain take all the time you need and maybe consider therapy if you can afford it.

That's to be expected give yourself the time and space you need to feel your feelings without letting them consume all of you. Lean on the people who care about you. I hope you are able to start feeling better sooner rather than later.

I am idemromantic and have to use external factors to determine if I have romantic,alterous, or platonic feelings for someone. I have had two prior romantic relationships.I have since come to the uncertain conclusion that I experience a lot of platonic or platonic/aesthetic infatuation for my friends and for the longest time I thought it was romantic because I am romance favorable. Once in relationships I experience alterous attraction which for me is a combination of platonic and romantic attraction. Or just pure romantic I am unsure.Basically what I have to do is look at if I would truly be compatible with a friend before trying to start a relationship. So it's knowing I am not compatible with my friends that keeps it platonic. But due to the fact that I tend to develop alterous attraction once the relationship is committed it made the heartbreak when I was dumped so much more severe. Because it is like when I am in a committed relationship my alterous feelings are not going to develop for anyone else? Like I do not think I could ever grow tired of a committed relationship with someone I love or just leave someone I am committed to. I was wondering if any of you can relate?

I use the microlable idemromantic. It means I use external factors to differentiate my platonic, romantic, and alterous feelings.

I go by the microlable Idemromantic and do want a romantic relationship or QPR in my case the lines between platonic, alterous, and romantic feelings are very blurry.

This it's all very subjective which is why I would be happy with a QPR or romantic relationship with a partner I am compatible with. I have to use external factors to figure out if my feelings for people are platonic, romantic or alterous because they are all very subjective and that makes them very confusing for me.

I struggle to distinguish romantic feelings from others myself. Ultimately what helps me is logically examining whether I would be compatible in a relationship with the friend I am thinking about. If not I am most likely experiencing a squish and not romantic/ alterous attraction. You can kiss someone and it just be platonic/sensual attraction.