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Yeah, being ace doesn’t have NEARLY as much of an impact because overall that part of one’s life is smaller in comparison to the over romanticizing of the media and just society in general. Either the first one or the sunset flag, in general I wish there was an official one but I don’t see how the sunset flag coincides with both the aro and ace flags.

Oh cool! I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (people call us “Mormons” but we denounced the name as it associated us with a splinter group of different values) and I’m not really sure if my church has any big issues with me possibly being aroace, I mean it wouldn’t prevent me from going to heaven, but I wouldn’t get the highest level of it. We have a much more lenient policy on LGBTQ beliefs and have often fought for rights if it’s morally right. (morality is easier for us to side with) We aren’t against gay people but my church does believe that acting upon said same-sex attraction is a sin. It’s among the better of Christian churches but there is still a social stigma against LGBTQ people in the church. We don’t have any policy on trans rights but I have a feeling that it’ll change at some point. (Not sure which way that could go) Being aroace does coincide with the church pretty well so that’s good I guess.

So here’s a story, I’m Christian and the denomination of Christianity I’m in is more tolerant of LGBTQ people, they’re more for peoples rights but disagree in that when it comes to the actual religion. I’m like 80% sure I’m aroace, at least for now, and I know that I’d still easily be able to stay in the church with no issues. (I have no intention of leaving) I am however more worried about the social stigma in this church that values marriage above most other things. It’s not a requirement to go to heaven but not marrying sorta lowers the bar. In our church those that don’t marry stay in a “singles ward” so then there’s less feelings hurt whenever someone talks about the importance of family in normal wards. It’s not nearly as much adversity or any issue but I’m still not even close to being sure enough of myself to come out as I’m only 15 so I can’t be sure yet. Either way I’m not scared that my parents will have a serious negative reaction, I’m afraid of disappointing them, or being alone because I might fail to make friends, or being wrong later on and having to ride it all back. I mean, my church is far more mild and nicer to LGBTQ people than most, but I still have concerns. My parents opinion so far I’m not marrying is that I’d be lonely and that it’ll change soon, I told them my ideal relationship was one with a close friend group, or living with a friend. Maybe it would work, maybe it wouldn’t but either way my chances are equal if not more than that of a relationship. I’m worried, but not scared. I hope that in some way this helps. :D

Oh, I despise Ben Shapiro, he looks for any mildly showboaty person in the LGBTQ community and then adds a blanket statement to it. I’ve seen this guy react to stuff and I’m just amazed he hasn’t been cancelled. He got angry about some kids show having gay dinosaurs in it, and honestly it just makes me laugh that he even cares. XD

Believe me if I was able to I’d wear a white ring on my left middle finger and a black ring on my right middle finger just to make a subtle hint to others if they know what that is. :D

I honestly have no idea, school in general has always been a pain when it came to dirty jokes or relationship drama. It just gets so fricking old and I find it frustrating to say the least. I don’t think there is a way but maybe just expressing that you really don’t find this comfortable in a serious talk is the best answer. If they’re your actual friends they’d know when they crossed a line.

Huh, I don’t know what to do in that situation and I’m not here to advise but I can say, I (sorta) feel you. I mean no one was obsessing over me (I don’t see why someone would, I mean have they even met me?) but there was this one time that someone had tried INCESSANTLY to get my phone number, I mean she stopped after that hour but I think she may still have a crush. I guess the closest thing to advice is that if you don’t want to meet with this person, that’s perfectly fine. I can relate when it comes to having a hard time articulating emotions outside of text. And yes, it’s just very creepy in general from how it sounds. I mean it’s not your responsibility how this person feels but if you want some closure to just get it over with and be done, then sure that’s a good idea I guess.

Ok, I need some info on what’s going on.

That’s actually very well said. :D

It’s pretty nice. Welcome! :D I can’t even tell you how much of a comfort video Jaidenanimations coming out video is. XD I SORTA figured it out, she introduced me to the topic so when I started educating myself in the LGBTQ spectrum I remembered her talking about being aroace and then decided to look around, next thing I know I’m 90% sure I’m aromantic and asexual (aegosexual).

I have no idea but that sounds like a VERY ace dream. XD

Well it’s at night so, frick yeah. A million dollars but you lose .1 pennies every time you breath.

A girl chases a piece of wood and ends up on a boiling corpse in another world.

Absolutely not bro, I mean maybe a baby pidgin? I pigeon egg? (Also @Eclipse you really want me to be alone for we don’t ya? I’d die without friends because I’m not too optimistic about romance. XD) 1 million dollars but will always have a bad taste in your mouth no matter what you eat.

Conflicted

It may sound like a crush and possibly is, but what’s the intent behind it? That can determine things best.

I really don’t think I can, it’s just so… nonobjective. I can’t define it because wanting to date someone isn’t always romantic, it’s probably more the intention behind it? Idrk this is mostly just me regurgitating what others said bc I have no fricking clue.

I honestly can’t believe that I didn’t realize that until recently. XD I know I’m young but that wasn’t something I ever knew, by the way people had been asking others on dates I thought that 90% of it was literally based on looks or randomness. Dang I’m much more aro than I thought.

Is it weird that I want to (if I had the skills) make an animated song talking about aromanticism and what it actually is?

Tbh I kinda relate. I’m not 100% sure yet but pretty much no one is. I never wanted a relationship in the first place so then if I’m right then it’s more of an “Oh no! Anyway. ;)”

Think of the things that are good about this, it means that you’re free from obsessing over some random person and have more time to focus on YOUR life, YOUR career, and YOUR interests. You can still have a partner, just more of a friend. :D

You have no idea how much I’ve been thinking the exact same thing. To be honest I’m not sure but I do have a piece of information that may help. This came from my dad and he’d probably lose it if I used it like this but he says “doubt your doubts.” If you have serious personal doubts that you’re aro but it also feels right at the same time and makes sense, doubt your doubts and maybe find ways to test if you actually are aro? Idrk I’m kinda in the same boat so this is advice to me as much as it is to you. I’m not suggesting just dating some random person but if you think you have a crush on someone or anything like that, don’t shut it down, explore it further and try to be sure if it’s legit. From there it’s really just giving it some time. Identify as aro if you want, it may change in the future but nothing’s permanent and identifying as aro is far from it. Just I guess my best advice is to question your doubts and don’t pretend to have extra signs of aromanticism to feel like a “real aro.” Just be yourself, see where it goes for a bit, evaluate, and don’t worry about things being set in stone. We’re both in the same situation so I guess we’ve both got some things to figure out overtime. Your feelings are your own and don’t let your doubt tell you otherwise. :D

I’ll do some looking. :D

Oh my gosh I fricking loved it! The last episode was gorgeous! :D

Yeah that does sound about right.