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It really shouldn’t be that way. I mean I don’t understand it much, and I might ignore but no one should be considered “cringe” for liking romance. Romance disgust in general tends to take over on aro sites and just further continues the stereotype that you have to be romance disgusted to be aro.

Bro going on a podcast sounds awesome, later on in life I’d LOVE to do that.

Like I legitimately like felt weak levels of aesthetic attraction to several people and then I spent the next two days wondering if I feel crap for those people, despite completely ignoring them and not really wanting to talk much at all unless anyone legitimately just likes conversation.

Yeah pretty much, I tend to have a lot of mild aesthetic attraction (I just tend to notice people’s looks but have absolutely no urge to act on that at all), and generally that’s it. They all look about the same most often and it just takes like 5 minutes and then any real aesthetic attraction disappears.

Sorta like how you can tell when someone’s pretty but it’s pretty much impossible to compare people to other pretty people or try to see what makes that person pretty.

I mean seriously that stuff is supposed to be REALLY strong for people, that’s how I definitely know that it’s not love at all for people. I mean I’ve been wondering if I like people from simply looking at someone for too long, or my heart rate increasing when I see someone aesthetically attractive. XD

Yeah true.

Wow, that’s something I hope not to feel. I mean is that much immaculate wordplay just the long lasting side effect? Jeez, that’s crazy!

I’d love to get a hard copy at some point, and sit down with some music on and just waste away relating to all of that and seeing other experiences.

I’ll try and see what I can do. And on that last part I tend to disagree. Wait, is this how allos freak out over being single? Oh gosh I feel bad for them.

Whenever I get asked that, I have no idea or I just list the qualities of a nerdy friend, or focus much more on one’s personality than looks. Generally looks are distracting and make it just so much harder for that person to be taken seriously.

I do know that I might just be a bad communicator, but if I’m right or wrong about that, both ways suck. I just genuinely hate a lot of my personality, and it just makes me feel worse about the future. I don’t want to feel alone or be alone, I want to have friends, to game it out and be there for others when they need. It’s just that how I deal with friendships irl absolutely sucks, I deal with it by not dealing with it. I mean I really want those to work but even in them it feels like I have to force myself to go to activities with friends, like I should be more excited about things. I really hope that this is all just manageable but I don’t know how to do so.

I never had the attention span for that, it was >20 minutes or nothing.

I have no idea, I generally just view it like how I want a video game or to watch a new movie. Excitement, longing, and joy when it happens. That’s the best guess I have and I hope it’s accurate.

Oh yeah, I just dove into all the many things about The Owl House, and politics, trans rights, Gravity Falls, the new Spider-Man movie, and so many more things. I mean I don’t know everything about it I just tend to go down a long rabbit hole about some things and just take in all the shorter video content I can, I mean I have limits on long vids. XD

I just, even when I want to, can’t seem to do anything about friendships. My self esteem around them is bull crap and I often stutter trying to apologize for dumb things I do, and it shows. I just need to have friends that’ll actively pursue still talking to me, because I despise initiating everything, I just dominate the whole conversation or get loud and obnoxious.

Same here, I understand most of it intellectually but the purely emotional aspects of it that lead to stupid things just floor me. I mean flirting and risking all of your friendships for some person just doesn’t sound good. I know for a fact that I haven’t looked at anyone and thought “I wanna kiss this person”, I mean come on that’s disgusting, I just focused on the looks to see if I felt the need to engage with that person, I generally didn’t I just looked at that person a bit more than others. I’d love a QPR but I can barely make a friendship last, how could I make that happen? I don’t know if it’s just my lack of confidence, or not being good at communicating but I just can’t seem to do it, I absolutely despise that about myself. I meet people, I love to talk to them, and then I don’t act on it at all! Am I just lazy? Do I have adhd or something? I mean I really am concerned about that, I talk excessively, I interrupt, I butt into conversations, I try to talk in a conversation but if something piques my interest I completely dominate the conversation. My mind is either always on fire, or I’m fidgeting. I constantly get distracted, I’m on my phone far more than I intend, I forget absolutely everything in school from assignments to due dates. I even got told by a doctor that some medicine I took as a kid, and my reaction to it was a clear sign of adhd, but I feel like that shouldn’t be the case right? I mean what would that mean for me? I originally wouldn’t take anything even if it was true but honestly what it’s doing to my ability to even continue friendships and focus just makes me wanna change my mind! I’m even ranting right now, which already says a lot! I’m sorry, I just need a minute, I don’t have any issues I just feel like crap, that’s all.

I just LOVE finding queer characters in movies and more recently, headcannoning some of them as aroace. I like talking about politics (but it’s getting boring and I hate that it’s all I can talk about, I hate being negative but I can’t not focus on issues that hurt us all), and I just ADORE gaming and drawing. I’m not amazing at either but that’s what time is for.

My biggest fear isn’t that I won’t have a partner, it’s that my friendships will fail because I realized I don’t know how to maintain them. I’m an extrovert and I love talking but I can’t get myself to actually focus on things more down to earth like just life in general. I know how to talk, not how to make lasting and close friendships. It still hurts me that I haven’t done much to hold them together. I don’t want to be alone, but I’m afraid my lack of understanding in friendships prevents them from lasting. I’ve only ever lived somewhere for like 5 years. I don’t have many close friends and this place I’m at right now only has a year and a half left. I don’t want to keep losing that, I hate it, it feels emptying.

Insanity

I don’t understand that either, like what’s so appealing about exchanging spit with someone?

I’d actually love to see wind arrows in that game, then you could blow away hordes of enemies, sorta like tulin’s tornado but more explosive in like a circle shape as it moves. Holy crap I need to work at Nintendo. XD

Yeah I’m biased towards gaming or talking with guys, but whoever is fine.

Now I’m imagining tears of the kingdom where you can fuse wind turbines to arrows. XD

Yeah I could imagine that, not to mention that arrows often have three little feathers at the end, and wind turbines have 3 blades. That can’t be a coincidence.