Jot-Aro Kujo

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Talking to other aros helps, I think, getting to know that there's other people out there and that it's not all doom and gloom all the time. As for dealing with other people, honestly... I'd say just keep being yourself. My family got over it after a few years when it became clear that I wasn't going to change. I didn't make a huge fuss over things, I just continued being me. Most people will give up eventually, and if they don't, well... They're not worth your time tbh

I have quite a few aro fics on my own AO3: https://archiveofourown.org/users/EmeraldTrash666 A fair number of them are about allo aros (since I am one myself), but not all, and it's not always specified. Fair warning: Some of them are quite old, some of them are VERY specific, and some of them are NSFW. Of the stuff I've written, my top recommendations if you're looking for something specifically aro-focused are Arrows of Fate, Legacy (a bit less aro focused but it's there), and Hot Summer Nights, which I will not link because it's smut.

Uh... I dunno, Reddit??? You're asking the wrong people bestie

SO much Pokemon- I used to go to a local league at a game store and the store owner would sometimes give me the old promotional posters once they were out of season. I also had quite a few Pokemon coloring pages on the wall. I also remember having pictures of R2-D2, Gir from Invader Zim, Toph from the Last Airbender, um... I wanna say maybe Jenny from My Life as a Teenage Robot? But yeah, it was mostly Pokemon. As I got older there was also various anime stuff added. I still have most of the Pokemon posters up, actually. I think there's about five in my room right now?

I'm pretty sure this is the first major video game to verbally acknowledge the existence of allo aros. Fucking get it Sims 4 yeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaahhhh

Fair enough! I apologize for overlooking that. Still, as @Neon pointed out, for many aros the sexuality spectrum is important to them and is related to their aro-ness. It certainly is to me! Not every individual has to be represented by every stripe on the flag, but the flag tries to be as inclusive as possible. Which means, yes, including people who conceptualize their aromanticism differently from you, OP. Deciding to reject all the community history and design choices behind the flag just because you don't want to be lumped in with those people is kind of a dick move.

Ena!!!!!!

...You realize every aro is somewhere on the sexuality spectrum, right?

Sure sounds like you're aro. You know you don't have to partner up if you don't want to, right? Like, I know society says you're supposed to, but you can literally just... Not do that. If being in a relationship sounds suffocating to you, then don't. It's not worth it. If you're just looking for friends, or someone to bang, you can do that without having a long-term partnership as well.

Nice work. What class is this for? I would also recommend specifying that you're talking about Christianity when you bring up "not conflicting with religious views", as there are many religions in this world and while I don't believe that most would discriminate against aros, it's still not good to imply that Christianity is the only one.

I mean I do too, but I wouldn't call not experiencing those things a "privilege", considering how much our society pushes the idea that not feeling x thing = inhuman and evil...

Man I just dress like this cause I think it's cool as fuck lol I ain't strategizing anything. I just like skirts

I can't tell you whether or not you're aro- Only you can decide that for yourself- But what I will say is that if you aren't formally in a relationship with someone, you can't expect them to be monogamous with you. If you want to date someone you need to tell them that. I understand that it can be scary to share your feelings, but it's really unfair to people to hold them (consciously or subconsciously) to a relationship standard that you didn't actually tell them about. There's no such thing as a relationship where one person is unaware of being in the relationship- That's just kind of, like, being a stalker or something? And I'm sure that's not your intention, so I don't think you're an asshole. I just think you need to examine yourself and learn to communicate better, that's all.

I'm aro and bi too. I'm a lady so together we can cover each others' weaknesses like a well-balanced Pokemon deck

Who the fuck cares? Labels are for you, not your hypothetical future self. If it helps you to call yourself something now, go for it. If that changes in the future, then it changes. I don't know who's teaching kids these days that the things they call themselves in middle school or whatever are some big permanent life decision, but they need to shut up. When I was 13 I wanted to be an animator, now I'm in school for costume design, is anyone coming at me with torches and pitchforks over misidentifying? No. Just stay true to yourself in the moment and you're fine. I mean I guess there is an argument to be made that kids are more susceptible to things like peer pressure and other external forces (homophobic parents, for example) influencing the way they identify, but as long as you're sure you're identifying a certain way because you feel that way and not because all your friends feel that way, or because it sounds like a more palatable alternative to feelings you don't want to address, or whatever, then I don't see an issue.

I don't know, why can't they? Who's stopping them? It's not like the intimacy police is gonna show up. If you want to talk about intimate things with a friend just ask.

Just as a little reminder- The term is alloromanticism, not allomanticism. Allo-romanticism. Easy to misread, so I don't blame you for getting it mixed up, but important to know for a speech, so I thought I'd bring it up! Good luck! Honestly though, I wouldn't say there's anything inherently harmful about alloromanticism. Being attracted to someone is a beautiful thing, just as much as not being attracted to people is as well. Note also that historically many people have been oppressed for their romantic attraction, including queer people and people of color (did you know that in the U.S., interracial romances were illegal until 1967?) As a bisexual I'd certainly feel uncomfortable if someone tried to talk about "the harms of allosexuality", so it's probably not great to talk about the "harms of alloromanticism", either. The thing that's harmful is the way society treats romance. The term for that is amatonormativity. Amato-normativity. This term was coined by Professor Elizabeth Brake in her book Minimizing Marriage. I'd highly recommend researching this topic, as there's been a lot of discussion about it both within and without the aro community over the years.

Damn right I’m proud to be aro. Defying social norms is metal as fuck

Lately I've been really into Castlevania. I'm working on beating Simon's Quest, Dracula's Curse, Bloodlines, Rondo of Blood, and most importantly, the Sonic the Hedgehog romhack for Dawn of Sorrow (although tbh I've been mostly only using Yoko lmao)

That's fair. In general, if you find art on the internet, you shouldn't repost it unless you know the artist is ok with it, since this is considered bad etiquette- Imagine if you drew something and someone else copied it to another site without asking you or putting your name on it, right? If you see art you like and you want to share it, the best thing to do is to link to the original post (e.g. if it's art on Twitter, share the twitter link instead of posting the image itself). That way, the artist gets full credit, the art isn't reuploaded without their permission, and people who like their style can look at their other works too!

I assume you mean elementary or high school? In my experience, around puberty kids tend to get obsessed with relationships not so much necessarily because they actually want them, but because society tells them they're supposed to care about them. At that age, romance is seen as cool and mature, thus liking romance is also seen as cool and mature, and thus to some degree people go on about romance in order to prove how Cool And Mature they are. Which doesn't make it less annoying of course, but my point is, they're really just doing it for the attention. Give it a few years and people will be too busy crying from the stress of college applications to care as much about relationships.

Unfortunately the author of Harry Potter has put a lot of time, energy, and money into promoting some really harmful and cruel things, so I don't think most people here are likely to be Harry Potter fans. But it's cute art! Who's the artist?

I'm not asexual. I knew I was aro when I learned that it was possible to be aro without being asexual.

Just ask him.