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i always spell it wrong, oops! thanks for the actual spelling, i can never find it anywhere. thanks for your topic, i'll look into it, sounds great! for my speech, im going to mostly focus on the way humans love and how that can bring issues, and amatonormativity will be a big subject! (thanks for the spelling again btw!) thanks again! :D

hi! i need to do a speech for my english class, and i've decided to do it on the harms of allomanticism! tricky topic, but i can talk about it for days! i was just wondering if any of you have any good topic points i should bring up in my speech, or any facts that would work well with my topic? honestly anything that could work that relates to my topic! i'll be grateful for anything, so go crazy! (p.s happy pride month!)

the lack of communication allos seem to have baffles me

hi! i'm a bit confused, for context i've been reading a lot of romance online recently, and i've found that in allo relationships its common for there to be this 'waiting period' inbetween starting a relationship and being able to say 'i love you'. i was always under the impression that 'liking' and 'loving' someone was the same thing? also, it's considered weird if you can openly express your feelings and say 'i love you' to your partner if you haven't been with them for too long. whats the difference between 'liking' someone and loving someone, you still do the same things, hugging, kissing etc (maybe) but suddenly having that 'i love you' changes everything and makes the relationship more official? why is there such a big meaning behind this word? whats so scary about saying it? i really dont understand, can anyone explain? thanks! (^^)

hi elsie, welcome to the forum! i had the same experience, "oh i feel this way towards everyone i must be pans!", well, it was somewhat right. im also super clingy! i hope your book goes well, sounds amazing, you have a fan here already! what kind of music do you like and what instruments do you play/ want to play? hope you enjoy the forum!

mhm, i really struggle to find the difference between what is romantic love and platonic love. i may have teared up a bit whilst reading you reply, as romantic love is something that i so desperately want to have as people seem so happy when in a romantic relationship but reading this makes me realize im not strange for not understanding it, so thank you for that. i'm going to try thinking about my identity in a more positive way, as so far i've only really been seeing the cons. thank you again, you made my night with your advice.

yeah, i originally thought i was acespec before arospec, then brushed it aside but recently it's something i've been thinking over loads, i think im aegosexual? thank you, this is something i've been super confused over because i dont want to want anyone upset who identify as either label and i dont want to be labelling myself as something i'm not. i'll have a look into those labels and come back! thank you again! edit: wow boy i think i'm panalterous thank you so much this makes so much sense (^0^)/

hi, i've recently come across the term panromantic and i've done some research on it. i've always identified as pansexual, it was the first label i found that fit me, then came gender labels, and then aromantic. but now, i'm not sure what i identify as, because gender doesn't matter to me, but if i'm pansexual then it doesn't really work because i'm pretty sure i'm acespec, because that's being sexually attracted to people regardless of gender, but i cant be panromantic because that means being romantically attracted to people regardless of gender. anyone know any terms that might work? i'm a bit stuck right now!

hi ari, nice to meet you! welcome to the site, hope we can help you! i'm also a minor, im a pianist and aspiring bassist! i also do art, not that i'm any good either lol. i love sushi and will only eat the sponge of cakes (//^^//). i love bojack horseman, but its so sad omg, i love heartstopper!!!! i play genshin every day (AR 57) and used to play bandori but had to delete it :( studio ghibli is my favourite, i love Nausicca and Ponyo. enjoy your time on the site! hope we can be of service if needed! also, i'm happy to be friends if you want to be, maybe we can play genshin together? :D

i feel so sad and so selfish, i'm openly arospec to people who ask but im also open about lots of labels that i fit under. i've said many times i'm happily polyamorous as long as its consensual and i'm happy but it's stupid why do i bother when i know i'm arospec?? why do i have this sick voice in my head telling me that more than one person could even come close to loving me knowing im aro?? sometimes i'm completely fine with being who i am, but sometimes i'm reading something cute and romantic it hits me, i will never experience this feeling because i'm apparently too stupid and silly to differentiate this feeling from friendship. i hate it so much, with other aro folk it's fine and i love being supportive, but with myself it's so hard to love myself when i don't even know what love is. it's easy to tell other people that it's alright, but i can't do that with myself. i know allos, i know aros but only online, and the allos i've met would never ever even think about being with me because i'm arospec, even when i discuss how i'd be happy to, i will always be different and lonely. i know qprs exist, but i come from the UK and there are little to no aro folks here, let alone any who might want to try a qpr with me. it's so irritating, ahhh! sorry this is a bit of a downer, i just know people on here are helpful and i'm kind of in need rn., so thank you anyone who can help me turn this around.

it's okay not to be 100% sure on anything, as long as you think it fits you and your identity use whatever label works for you! i hope you resolve things with him (^^)

definitely put your safety and wellbeing first and avoid going into work, i'm so sorry you're in this situation, i hope you can feel safe at work soon.

i'm offended that you didn't make a snarky sarcastic remark to that grammar police comment.

i headcanon sucrose from genshin impact to be aromantic because of her color palette and her overall attitude and shyness. i think that she's cupioromantic!