I relate to this a lot. I identify much more strongly as aro than as ace. And the few ace communities I stumbled on while trying to find an aro one to join were... Less than acceptable in their behaviour to aros.
To be honest, it feels like just acting on a mutual crush immediately and being lucky. The expectations help cement the relationship as a thing that comes out the other end as opposed to a one night fling.
For the same reason that stereotypes are so prolific - eight times out of ten they're right. I just hate how insistent many people are about this stuff in particular.
I'm forced to second this. Anything put out by them is just so wholesome and lovely. I used to own virtually the whole collection but I lost it at some point...
YES! I was so upset at Haruhi at the end of this show.