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Agreed. I always feel like I need to turn so much more when I'm sleeping next to someone. The knowledge that I can't turn freely makes me super aware of any discomfort. The funny thing though is sometimes when I'm laying in bed I imagine someone spooning me and it makes me feel comforted. Imagined spooning is nice. They totally are. I've been on many platonic dates using the couchsurfer app.

No matter your romantic orientation it's ok that you don't feel romantic attraction to your friend. If you are afraid of leading them on tell them you're not romantically attracted to them, either straight forward or indirectly by saying you don't have any crushes or such on anyone currently.

The subtitles are a bit of but understandable.

@Whirl That's a great story. I've not read one where lists are used in that way.

When it comes to homosexuality most cultures have older terms and euphemisms for it. I wonder if any culture has similar for aromantic and/or asexual. Have you heard of any? I suppose some terms for singles, like confirmed bachelor, is kinda related. In Sweden there's also a term "gammelpojk" (=old boy) which meant a man who never married. However because of heteronormavity these terms usually just mean that someone doesn't have an interest in straight relationships.

I'm watching it right now on https://www1.dramacool.cr/drama-detail/koi-senu-futari I never watch J-drama so it's a pretty weird experience for me. It's like all the acting and culture is super unfamiliar but all the aro stuff is the same.

I suppose that allos often feel romantic attraction but at first it's just potential and it only grows of they actually interact. It's weird though that it seems limited to one person, unlike sexual attraction. Does it just turn off once the person is in a relationship. Or is it just a cultural expectation that you're not suppose to feel romantic attraction for more than one person so people suppress it?

I like kissing, but I prefer kissing strangers. I like physical touch generally but it seems that is more often connected to sex than romance. In terms of romantic activities there's not much of it I enjoy. I like to go on dates with people and talk about personal topics but that's not inherently romantic.

I was gonna post but mine contained a phone number so I don't want to share it

Sweden Here's the list https://sv.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Landskapsfiskar

The religion should have ritualistic cuddling of different kinds. Like a yoga but you do it with others. But there should also be alternative version you do by yourself. We should have pilgrimage where aros walk around spreading the word of the possibility of a life free from amatonormativity. We could offer tea like in the monk and robot series. Also alternative to walking could be to ride in green velomobiles. The priest should arrange board game nights. The churches should run pet rescue stations and the services can be to take care of the pets. Also there should be singing and playing instruments, mostly just of existing songs about aromanticism.

I suppose I did think about this before realizing I was aro. But knowing that I never want to live with a partner has made me interested to seek out other people to cohabit with.

The only way to really know about these things is to try things out and reflect on them. Try the things that you feel you want to at the moment and then reflect on how it felt.

That's interesting to hear @6EBeastiI always just assumed valentine's day was only silly romance tropes.

"This no sex tale is 4,300 words of friendship between a swimmer and sentient pool that remains platonic because they’re just good friends, including learning to appreciate your own uniqueness and the importance of having fun." Sounds cool but I don't use Kindle and it seems a pain to convert according to nix

That's true. I usually don't use the term aromantic with people I don't know cause I don't want to spend lots of effort explaining unless it's someone I care about. With strangers I just say I don't date. That's enough, if people are still pressuring me they are being asholes and I'll just not engage with them. Although sometimes it can be fun to just joke around with it. I had long discussions with a guy once who tried to get me to date him and explain why aromanticism is not a thing. I didn't care about convincing him so it was kinda fun just making silly counterarguments.

This frog might make a good monster in a horror movie. Imagine it just jumping out gobbling up a dog or something.

I think your post definitely belong in this forum. Thanks for sharing. Even if you later decided aromantic label does not fit you it's still good to discuss together. I would advise to explore what you want first and not feel any pressure to settle on a label if you're still unsure. It's totally fine to desire a sexual friendship rather than a romantic relationship. Our society holds romantic relationship up as superior to others and might make it feel like we have defend ourselves and explain why we don't want one. However we don't actually need to defend that. Try out what you think you might like and see how it feels.

Thanks for sharing. I think rather that only thinking about attraction consider more what kind of activities or commitment you'd like with this person. Then you can bring it up with them and see what they would be open for.

We also have jokes like that. Man 1: What a handsome face Man 2: nej det var grisen (no it was the pig) The explanation is that the first line sounds like saying "was it you that farted" with a heavy accent

At first I misread and thought you were crocheting comics, that would have been very unusual

What kind of physical attraction do you feel for them?

There's been some violent crime in the area a while ago and so people assume that it's completely crime ridden

Thanks! I was looking in this area which has cheaper apartment because it doesn't have subway and also has some bad reputation from people who don't live there. https://maps.app.goo.gl/mTzbA76f5qboXkcY7