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I might be wrong but I think the sexuality was included for a specific reason : enlight the fact that aro can be of any sexuality and so that we are not a small part of asexuality. We didn't have this problem with gender (people don't think that being aromantic means we are of a certain gender) and so it was not put in the flag.

First : Voidpunk aro... I did 't know the label but it sounds great Second : Never shown... Well, I go back in the cupboard Third : Cups... Apparently "Keywords : emotions, subconscious, creativity, intuition, relations, imagination. You are really focused on your feelings, and on whether you would love to be in a relationship or not. To you, being aro is a way to see your relationships in a way society isn't used to. And it's cool ! You don't have to be put in a box !" Sounds great to me Fourth : Aroallo... I don't get why but I liked the description with it : "You're sunny, bright, strong, and confident. You have a lot of pride in your identity and aren't afraid to speak about it"

I don't know. Do just aro would agree as they don't label their sexual orientation ? (I really wonder) Anyway grey is for demi and grey romantic, so nothing to do with sexuality. The black is to say that aro can have any sexuality which is important in my eyes because people often think aro are asexuals. Though I can see why someone could want to translate the same idea by not having sexuality on the flag. To answer the question, I think the first flag didn't have any mention of sexuality in it. But I don't think people use it.

OK I'm starting to use that

Yeah probably ! I was wondering cause the parfume sounds very specific.

I don't know. Maybe nougat ? But also salted butter caramel... I don't know if you have that outside of France, but that's delicious.

I don't have a difference, I am as sure for both. I was confident quicker about my sexual orientation, almost immediately. But after I accepted I was aromantic too, I become as confident about this identity.

I don't kbow for your parents, but some religious people cobsider everything that is not heterosexual to be a problem. It can be because then you won't be a "good" spouse in my marriage (by refusing to have sex). It can also be because virginity is valued cause we are resisting something (temptation), but asexuals resist nothing as they don't want sex, and so it "devalues" the meaning of abstinence. Now for your mum, you don't have to come out if you don't feel safe. However you don't seem safe anyway as your parents think you're bi and don't accept it. I don't know how old you are and your financier situation, but best thing to do would be to go away as soon as possible. As I suppose it is not realistic right now, look at if the LGBT+ community in your area is accepting of ace and aro people, or better, if there is an A-spec community where you live (unlikely but who knows). Maybe they can provide hello and ressources.

No, aromanticism alone is not diagnosed as a mental disorder, or I don't know where. Which is true though is that some peoplz will see aromanticism as a sign of othzr pathologies, usually some kind of intimacy disorder, or depression.

I don't relate to the concept of pride in this context because I take pride in the things I achieve, not in the things I simply am. But I like being aro for sure and I wouldn't change it even if I could.

I also start to using that.

Yeah exactement. I remember a discussion about it and the person saying it just didn't get the problem. But that's something a lot with alloromantic people. Try to enlight them on amatonormativity and they will tell you "no, we and society are not like that".

I think you can. Something I learned on AVEN : originally, "ace" was used as an umbrella term, as opposed tl asexual who were only "no sexual attraction". An alternative for you would be to use aroacespec, if you don't want to use grey.

I don't know if this is what @Lovebirdwas thinking about, but for example, in France, a person can't work because of their disability, they touches money from the government, but if they get married, depending on the spouse's money, the government stop giving the money due to the disabled person, because the payement is now linked to how much money the couple gains together : this is the idea that a married couple have to share everything, but that means that now the disabled person is dependant on the spouse's money. And that's really weird because the couple can live together forever, as long as they are not married, the disabled allowance is still given. It is the marriage that changes everything.

Yeah in Europe it depends on country. We don't have that in French, as far as I know. I would probably take "other" as an answer.

I liked the ship in the early seasons, but then it became repetitive. It was the same plotline each season : Rumple saying he will change for Belle but lying and manipulating, so Belle wants to live but he says that he will change. But yeah the idea was interesting. I just didn't like how they try to selle this story of a woman trying to leave and a man constantly denying her right to leave like "the most romantic story" (they really say that in a trailer).

Just a guess, but probably, one thing that males the romantic relationship feels "not right" was that he has yroubpe to see what was expecting from him on romance and so act more as we do in a friendship (that's common for aros). So, it could explain why the dynamic of your relationship has not change.

Here's what I learn being a teacher : we get old very quick.

I think that people are too quick to forgive and accept ça or toxic behavior because the person who did that "love them". That's not only a romantic thing, but it is more talked about there. Romantic love is supposed to be so amazing that it justifies everything. One sad example is toxic relationships... I remember when I was discussing a ship in a tv show (Rumbelle for Once Upon a Time if you know this show) : for me their relationship was really toxic and they should have get a divorce. But someone argue about how she's been there with her husband and people should not be so quick to break up when things can still be "healed" and that the spark of love is still there... Seriously who cares if the spark of love is there when a man abused you like this ! In fact I've seen a lot of people justify people who are in the wrong because "they are in love" (things like harrassment or stalking). It was about fiction, but I'm sure that people who justify it in fiction are willing to justify it in real life as well. And that's say a lot about the messed up view that amatonormativity gives them...

As an aplatonic I can't relate. I happen to have befriended more girls than boys, but not because I feel more drawn to them. It is just that I have more interests with the girls I met than with the boys, or we get along more. Now I've heard that with oriented aroace the platonic attraction is often the one that gives the "oriented" part, and I suppose it is important for some alloaros so you are not alone with this.

It's things that are associated with romance, though they are not necessary romantic. For instance, going to the cinema to watch a movie : that's common for couples to do this as a date. However, it doesn't have to be a date : you can go to a movie with a friend as well.

If it was a time I wasn't aware I was aro, I would have responding with what I like in friends and what would make the person a good father as it was a criteria for me back then, I guess. Or maybe that's the part when I would have realized I was aro because I would not know how to answer. Now if it was a time when I already knew I was aro, I would explain the teacher why I can't do the assignement, and if the teacher doesn't believe me and wants to force me, I'll report it, possibly with the help of a "syndicat" as we say in French, to be sure that I'ml be heard. I guess is the ache te r says something like "ok then think about what would be attractive if you were not aro" or "t tu to think about what you appreciate in people", I would do the assignement. But that's sound like a weird assignement to me.

I think last time I did the test, I was INFP. But it was some time ago.

One important thing to remember is : even if it is long to change with therapy, it is even longer without it. Another thing is : you are 20. Not having done anything important at this age is normal. I remember when I was around this age, I had his big existential crisis because I felt this way too; it was one of the reason entering adulthood was so hard for me. But at 20 your life is still at this begining, not at this age. Now for your social anxiety and possible selective mutism, I think it is better to be helped, so you can learn safely ways to "fight" it.

I've heard the term before, but not seen it used often. I think that people talk more about platonic attraction, romantic attraction and sexual attraction, so it is more common to see people use a label correlated to them. Personally I would call myself anattractional : I don't feel any type of attraction. I still see all specific non-attraction as separated though, in the sense that I don't think that me missing all of them is linked and I could have feel one of them but not the other; it just didn't happen.