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  1. Yeah, I agree. My main problem with this allospec line of thinking is that it's trying to gatekeep who gets to identify as aro or ace.
  2. I've seen a few people (often allos, for some reason) saying that aromanticism and asexuality aren't spectrums, and that calling them so is watering them down. People who experience attraction no matter how small or rare would actually be allospec. What do you think about that? Honestly, it just sounds like exclusionist rhetoric to me.
  3. I found the word and started questioning when I was 14, but I was only able to accept myself as aromantic in august of this year. (I'm 18 now)
  4. I don't think it's good. Sweet and savory things very rarely go together for me.
  5. Of course, It's fine! The whole thing about Queer Platonic Relationships is that you get to define it with your partner(s). It doesn't have any of the restrictions and expectations of a romantic relationship or a friendship. QPR's can be sexual or non-sexual, monogamous or not monogamous, involve romantic coded activities or not, and it's all valid. I understand how sexual feelings can, sometimes, be mistaken for romantic. I occasionally get confused about what attractions I'm feeling too. As for the word platonic: This might not be the most popular usage of the word, but I use "plat
  6. I've compiled a list of my favorites. I know there are already many "aro songs" threads here but this is mostly for me. I've classified them based on patterns I noticed. 💚ARO VIBES PLAYLIST💚 For aros by aros "Aromantic" by Lee Porteus "Aromantic Moodboard" by Max Lizanich "For me" by Dearlie "Romance kind of sucks" songs "Don't Fall in Love" by Danko Jones "Fighter Not a Lover" by The Neighbourhood Bullys "Romance is Boring" by Los Campesinos! "Heart Heavy" by Mother Mother "Crush Culture" by Conan Gray
  7. Hi, Grace. Welcome! 💚
  8. Hii! Welcome to arocalypse. 💚☺️
  9. I'm technically grey aro, but I prefer using aromantic as an umbrella term. When I say aro I usually mean aro spec. When the distinction is relevant, I just say strict aros and grey aros. I also feel this way. In my case, It's probably because the one time that I did feel romantic attraction was so short-lived and not very intense that it's almost irrelevant to me, so it would feel weird to make it a big part of my identity or label.
  10. Since you only feel sexual attraction under a specific circumstance you are definetly in the grey area of asexuality but I don't think there is a term that describes your experience. Demisexuality usualy involves an emotional bond. Do you think you created a bond with her based on relatability?
  11. Maybe it doesnt't tell you about who they are attracted to because they don't want you to know!!! Aro people don't owe you jack shit. Why are you mad? There are many reason someone might want to use aro as their only label. Maybe their sexual attraction just isn't as important or relevant to them, maybe they're questioning, maybe they're not comfortable with their sexuality or they just don't want others to know. All of them valid and perfectly fine reasons. I don't understand why you are mad!
  12. I've found these Androsexual/Androphilic: attracted to males, men, and/or masculinity Gynesexual/Gynephilic: attracted to females, women, and/or femininity Skoliosexual: attracted to genderqueer and transsexual people and expressions (people who aren’t identified as cisgender)
  13. This isn't an aro thing and it doesn't have anything to do with the original question, but I thought I'd share my nonsensical insecurity around being lonely. I'm scared of being unable to form connections with people. I've had multiple disillusionments with "friends" and, now, it seems my "friendships" don't go any further than the surface. They're just fun people I talk to sometimes. I used to care a lot, and now I don't. I don't even feel lonely anymore and that scares me. Don't know why. I should be happy that I don't feel the need to have friends, but I'm not. 🤷‍♀️
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