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    Luísa V. Abreu
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  1. Let's start with one I only noticed today, and I really should have felt the aro vibes earlier. It's "Oops!...I Did It Again" by Britney Spears. The way I see it, this song is about a person that doesn't fall in love but really enjoys the performative aspects of romance. She loves flirting, seducing, and playing with emotions. She may look like she's into someone and perform actions that are often associated with having a crush but she doesn't actually mean any of it. "It might seem like a crush But it doesn't mean that I'm serious" It's like a fun game and she gets so caught up in it that breaking hearts is already a casual thing for her. "Oops, I did it again I played with your heart, got lost in the game" Not very nice. I think she's aro, but she's also kind of a jerk. I'm not saying the character in this song is representative of romance favorable aros. You can totally be aro, enjoy romance and not be a jerk.
  2. I've been scouring the internet for aromantic songs for a while now and I've compiled a list of my favorites. I know there are already many "aro songs" threads here but this is mostly for me. I've classified them based on patterns I noticed. I'll be updating with new songs or with better classifications. I'll also be posting on this thread my interpretation of some of these songs. 💚ARO VIBES PLAYLIST💚 For aros by aros "Aromantic" by Lee Porteus "Aromantic Moodboard" by Max Lizanich "For me" by Dearlie "Romance kind of sucks" songs "Don't Fall in Love" by Danko Jones "Fighter Not a Lover" by The Neighbourhood Bullys "Romance is Boring" by Los Campesinos! "Heart Heavy" by Mother Mother "Crush Culture" by Conan Gray "Love myself" songs "Good Thing" by Kehlani and Zedd "Alone and Unafraid" by Eliza "Soulmate" by Lizzo "Holy" Jamila Woods "Show Yourself" by Idina Menzel "my future" by Billie Eilish AlloAro songs "Not a Love Song" by Bülow "sushi for breakfast" by BAYLI "Girlfriend" Bea Miller "Friendzone" songs "Hello" by Martin Solveig "FRIENDS" by Marshmello and Anne-Marie "More Than Friends" by ASHS "Itsy Bitsy" by TIMMS Rejection songs "Never Fall In Love" by Jack Antonoff "it's not u it's me" by Bea Miller "Need Nothing" by VÉRITÉ "I Won't" by H.E.R. Internalized arophobia time! (very sad but very relatable) "Love Love Love" by Of Monsters and Men "I Am The Winter" by The Family Crest "Cactus Tree" by Joni Mitchell "Alone and Sublime" by Mother Mother "A Diamond and a Tether" by Death Cab for Cutie "Doomed" by Moses Sumney "Plastic" by Moses Sumney "I Don't Know How To Love" The Drums "Lack of Emotion" by Skott I still don't know how to classify these but they give me aro vibes "Sick of Losing Soulmates" by dodie "Oops!...I Did It Again" by Britney Spears "We'll Sing in The Sunshine" by Gale Garnett "Dancing With Myself" by Generation X "Me & the Rythm" by Selena Gomez "I Am Not A Robot" by Marina Ant The Diamonds "She Had The World" by Panic! At the Disco "I Can't Make You Love Me" by SOAK "Kalmia Kid" by Chloe Moriondo "Photoelectric" by Örvar Smárason "Turning Out" by AJR "before you go" by Moses Sumney "Tractor" by They Might be Giants "Love Song" by Sara Bareilles "No Lover" by Jetty Bones
  3. Hi, Grace. Welcome! 💚
  4. Hii! Welcome to arocalypse. 💚☺️
  5. I'm technically grey aro, but I prefer using aromantic as an umbrella term. When I say aro I usually mean aro spec. When the distinction is relevant, I just say strict aros and grey aros. I also feel this way. In my case, It's probably because the one time that I did feel romantic attraction was so short-lived and not very intense that it's almost irrelevant to me, so it would feel weird to make it a big part of my identity or label.
  6. Since you only feel sexual attraction under a specific circumstance you are definetly in the grey area of asexuality but I don't think there is a term that describes your experience. Demisexuality usualy involves an emotional bond. Do you think you created a bond with her based on relatability?
  7. Maybe it doesnt't tell you about who they are attracted to because they don't want you to know!!! Aro people don't owe you jack shit. Why are you mad? There are many reason someone might want to use aro as their only label. Maybe their sexual attraction just isn't as important or relevant to them, maybe they're questioning, maybe they're not comfortable with their sexuality or they just don't want others to know. All of them valid and perfectly fine reasons. I don't understand why you are mad!
  8. I've found these Androsexual/Androphilic: attracted to males, men, and/or masculinity Gynesexual/Gynephilic: attracted to females, women, and/or femininity Skoliosexual: attracted to genderqueer and transsexual people and expressions (people who aren’t identified as cisgender)
  9. This isn't an aro thing and it doesn't have anything to do with the original question, but I thought I'd share my nonsensical insecurity around being lonely. I'm scared of being unable to form connections with people. I've had multiple disillusionments with "friends" and, now, it seems my "friendships" don't go any further than the surface. They're just fun people I talk to sometimes. I used to care a lot, and now I don't. I don't even feel lonely anymore and that scares me. Don't know why. I should be happy that I don't feel the need to have friends, but I'm not. 🤷‍♀️
  10. Well, then, welcome! I hope you like it here. 💚☺️
  11. This might sound blunt, but you don't have to get involved if you don't enjoy it. I think it's pretty common and understandable to be more comfortable with one part of your identity than the other. I'm bisexual but that isn't nearly as important to me as being aro and I don't really feel comfortable in bi spaces so I kind of just forget about my sexual orientation. It's good that you want to deconstruct your arophobia, just don't feel compelled to participate because "it makes sense" to do so.
  12. Thank you! that's very sweet 💚💚
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