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I found this while looking for studies into fetishes and kinks.

 

https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2015/12/22/kink-and-romance-survey-demographics/

 

The relevant bits are quoted here:

 

Do you experience romantic attraction?

94.1% Yes
5.1% No

 

Crush Symptoms

85.5% fantasies about romantic things happening with them
75.8% persistent, involuntary, and intrusive thoughts
71.7% sifting through their behavior or speech for signs they return your affection
67.6% collecting information about them
54.8% when thinking about them brain feels sparkly or like fireworks
54.6% shyness or fear around them
54.1% remembering romantic events that happened with them
45.9% crippling fear of rejection
44.2% talking about them all the time
37.9% difficulty saying words around them
20% self-insertion of self and them into romantic movies or literature

 

[The next questions were asked only of individuals who have experienced crush symptoms.]

Percentage of Crushes Where Crush Symptoms Are Experienced

41.1% Every time you have a crush
29.7% About three-quarters of your crushes
16.2% About half of your crushes
3.3% About a quarter of your crushes
9.6% Only a few of your crushes

 

Usual Duration of Crush Symptoms

4.8% For a few hours or a day
8.9% Ends before we start dating
7.9% Ends when we start dating
34.3% Less than six months into a relationship
15.2% Six months to a year into a relationship
7.3% More than a year
21.6% Never ends

 

Longest Duration of Crush Symptoms

2.6% For a few hours or a day
4.2% Ends before we start dating
6.5% Ends when we start dating
21.5% Less than six months into a relationship
13.4% Six months to a year into a relationship
17.6% More than a year
34.2% Never ends

 

Do you experience more symptoms or for a longer period if the person is more romantically desirable?

54.3% Yes
44% It doesn’t seem to matter
1.6% No, I experience them longer if the person is less romantically desirable

 

About what percentage of your partners have been someone you originally experienced crush symptoms for?

34.5% All
15.2% About three-quarters
20.4% About half
10.9% About a quarter
19% Very few

 

Desire For People One Experiences Crush Symptoms Towards To Return Affection

79.1% yes
18.1% no
2.5% I actively prefer they don’t

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Interesting... nice find.

 

20 hours ago, Ettina said:

85.5% fantasies about romantic things happening with them

Would be nice if they asked more about what people consider to be "romantic things".

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On 08/05/2017 at 3:53 PM, SoulWolf said:

Interesting... nice find.

 

Would be nice if they asked more about what people consider to be "romantic things".

Yeah this one confuses me too.. I mean, them buying me ice-cream could be romantic? I just really like ice-cream..

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On 08/05/2017 at 3:48 AM, Ettina said:

67.6% collecting information about them

don't most people do this to a certain extent for all the people they choose to interact with?

 

Very interesting though! however a never ending crush sounds like a pain. A not particularly uncommon pain. 

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On 07/05/2017 at 7:18 PM, Ettina said:

I found this while looking for studies into fetishes and kinks.

 

https://thingofthings.wordpress.com/2015/12/22/kink-and-romance-survey-demographics/

 

The relevant bits are quoted here:

 

Do you experience romantic attraction?

94.1% Yes
5.1% No

Presumably 0.8% Unsure.

This is interesting since it shows aros as a much larger minority than any other survey I have seen.
Wish this matched with my own experience.

 

On 08/05/2017 at 3:53 PM, SoulWolf said:

Would be nice if they asked more about what people consider to be "romantic things".

As opposed to "romantic coded things".

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On ‎2017‎-‎05‎-‎12 at 4:21 AM, SamwiseLovesLife said:

I mean, them buying me ice-cream could be romantic? I just really like ice-cream..

exactly!  on my semi-anniversary with my ex, he got me a bouquet of lilies because he remembered they were my favourite.  I certainly appreciated it but get this: after I told my mom i'm aro, she brought up the lilies, asking something to the effect of 'didn't I think that was sweet'?  I said 'no more so than if they'd been from a friend'.  she seemed genuinely surprised.  

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