Elise Posted April 4, 2017 Share Posted April 4, 2017 I think I'm confident and satisfied with myself, my situation, what I do and all, but sometimes it offends me to find out what I like/don't like is supposed to be a sign of lacking confidence among other people for irrational reasons like "because it's not natural". For example, if I say I don't like going out, or say I don't like compliments that don't really make sense, some people assume that I lack confidence. Is it just me who experiences this and finds it fricking oppressive? Are you confident? Do people assume you're confident? Do you have a moment when you don't appreciate a certain type of compliment? Is it supposed to be super conceited to even just say I'm confident? Do you have some preferences/habits by which people assume you're insecure? I'm confused....... I'm "sensitive" and it's also something people would take as a sign of being insecure. I care what other people think so I sometimes end up asking why do you say this and that but this is because I'm taking what they say seriously. I usually try to understand it as much as possible instead of just dismissing it while pretending as if I get it naturally. So it's not really relevant to insecurity. I don't even find this "sensitive", to me it's just normal. I might be in a sense trying to stay confident almost unconsciously because I have a lot of factors that put me out of the norm of the society including being an aro/ace. It might be because I think I should be confident myself first to embrace the stuff that's socially discriminated against that's relevant to me, and to embrace similar stuff that's relevant to other people too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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