Log Date 7152 Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 Happy Pride folks! So, what are the chances of meeting another AroAce person in real life? I know the approximate percentage of Ace population is 1 out of 100, and among those 1 out of 4 are aro. So theoretically there is 1 out of every 400 people. The chances are small, so is it really possible to meet an Aro Ace in real life? Have anyone met one in the wild before? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 I have two friends who I think are technically aro, although they don't identify as such because they are romance favorable so kinda allo passing. I met both of them without knowing they were aro. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NVLL Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 im friends w an aro classmate; she told me abt an aroace person too. me and that person didnt meet but were in the same school; idc enough to befriend any1 else atm anyway 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AstrophelDragon Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) I have multiple aroace friends irl; it really probably just depends on how accepting your community is To me it always seems like there has to be more than just 1% of people who are ace bc I know too many. But maybe it's just magnetism. And being in band. Our percussion section was like 24% ace. Edited June 8 by AstrophelDragon 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Log Date 7152 Posted June 8 Author Share Posted June 8 Quote Just now, AstrophelDragon said: I have multiple aroace friends irl; it really probably just depends on how accepting your community is So how do one get into the community? I know the queer kids in my school, but I don't exactly fit in with them tbh. I get a chance to meet a lot of new people next august, and I'm wondering how I could get into the more aroace community? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 I’d say that the amount of aces and aros out there is probably a bit greater than 1%, I’d rank it as a more 1/30-40 chance than that. The best way to be sure tbh is probably to keep a lookout for black and white rings on middle fingers and random pride pins. I don’t have much else to add tbh. 🫤 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwiftySpeedy Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 I do have a pride pin myself, Only one person correctly identified it, and there not aroace themselves but I am going to the GSA today so those chances might increase. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Newest Fabled Creature Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) I've met three a-spec people at my high school, one aro-spec, one aroace, and the other asexual, and it wasn't like I was even trying? They didn't have anything to signify them being a-spec, so I wouldn't know how to go about finding anyone whose a-spec other then looking for those signifiers (rings, pins, etc). But, yeah, I've met/bumped into quite a few people in our community so it's possible. Edited June 8 by The Newest Fabled Creature typo 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 2 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said: I've met three a-spec people at my high school, one aro-spec, one aroace, and the other asexual, and it wasn't like I was even trying? They didn't have anything to signify them being a-spec, so I wouldn't know how to go about finding anyone whose a-spec other then looking for those signifiers (rings, pins, etc). But, yeah, I've met/bumped into quite a few people in our community so it's possible. I’ve met one guy in my school who might be aro and I doubt he’d identify as such. I do wish that the GSA was an option right now but I doubt it’s a great idea for now. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whirl Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 I've met one aro person completely in the wild once! Like others have said, looking out for pins and other signifiers is a good way to find other aro and ace folks. In my case, the person I met was wearing an aro pin! I just walked up to them and said like "Oh! Me too!" They even gifted me the pin, which I thought was so sweet of him. Being visible about your identity and being a source of information is also good for meeting other aroace people. For example, one of my uni friends is probably also on the aroace spectrum! I lent her my copy of loveless and she's been texting about her low-key identity crisis the past few days lol. She's still figuring herself out though. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 16 minutes ago, Whirl said: I've met one aro person completely in the wild once! Like others have said, looking out for pins and other signifiers is a good way to find other aro and ace folks. In my case, the person I met was wearing an aro pin! I just walked up to them and said like "Oh! Me too!" They even gifted me the pin, which I thought was so sweet of him. Being visible about your identity and being a source of information is also good for meeting other aroace people. For example, one of my uni friends is probably also on the aroace spectrum! I lent her my copy of loveless and she's been texting about her low-key identity crisis the past few days lol. She's still figuring herself out though. Oh that’s actually really nice! :D Im glad to know you met another aro in the wild. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jot-Aro Kujo Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 Depends on where you live and how old you are. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwiftySpeedy Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 (edited) Well if you do want to meet someone who is AroAce I would recommend joining a lgbtq+ club where they would probably reside. When I went to the GSA today there was one person who was Aromantic although they were not there. Edited June 8 by SwiftySpeedy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 8 Share Posted June 8 33 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said: Well if you do want to meet someone who is AroAce I would recommend joining a lgbtq+ club where they would probably reside. When I went to the GSA today there was one person who was Aromantic although they were not there. I’ll definitely see if I can do that by the time school rolls around soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harvest-Unity Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 (edited) I think you're more likely to meet younger people who identify openly as aro. Also I wouldn't be surprised if that stat was slightly higher, since its still a nieche label that not many people know about, stats like these also change depending on methodology. No shit though, I was at a Drama event thing and I was randomly put in a group with 2 other people, [we're teenagers] and we were talking about random stuff during a break and we both found out we all happened to be aro [and also, unrelated, both really liked The Owl House], it was very surprising! Also one of my childhood friends that I've had for 10+ years is AroAce! and I think another friend of mine might identify as demiromantic? Edited June 9 by Noble-Harvest-Spear 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 1 hour ago, Noble-Harvest-Spear said: I think you're more likely to meet younger people who identify openly as aro. Also I wouldn't be surprised if that stat was slightly higher, since its still a nieche label that not many people know about, stats like these also change depending on methodology. No shit though, I was at a Drama event thing and I was randomly put in a group with 2 other people, [we're teenagers] and we were talking about random stuff during a break and we both found out we all happened to be aro [and also, unrelated, both really liked The Owl House], it was very surprising! Also one of my childhood friends that I've had for 10+ years is AroAce! and I think another friend of mine might identify as demiromantic? Oh my gosh, I wish I found more aro’s. 😓 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AstrophelDragon Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 22 hours ago, Log Date 7152 said: I was already friends with one aroace person before we realized we were both aroace (that's how I figured it out). Then he became friends with another aroace person, then I started becoming friends with a different aroace person, then we realized we were all aroace because a couple people had pride pins/rings and it was mentioned 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 9 Share Posted June 9 30 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said: I was already friends with one aroace person before we realized we were both aroace (that's how I figured it out). Then he became friends with another aroace person, then I started becoming friends with a different aroace person, then we realized we were all aroace because a couple people had pride pins/rings and it was mentioned Oh my gosh, 4 aroace friends off of pure accident. I need this kind of luck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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alto Posted June 10 Share Posted June 10 I met an aroace in the airport once 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 10 Share Posted June 10 16 minutes ago, alto said: I met an aroace in the airport once Ooh, sounds like a juicy story. :D 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AstrophelDragon Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 On 6/9/2023 at 11:17 AM, HelloThere said: I need this kind of luck. A lot of it is probably just where you live and what you do and stuff. I attended a pretty accepting school in a fairly accepting city where there's not much danger in coming out. And within that, I was in band, where there tends to be more queer people. And I'm neurodivergent, and only really know how to talk to neurodivergent people, and a lot of neurodivergent people are also queer, including a lot of aroace people. Put all those together and it does make it more likely for me to meet aroace people than for others (also by aroace I mean on the spectrum of both, in this case asexual and aro-spec) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelloThere Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 26 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said: A lot of it is probably just where you live and what you do and stuff. I attended a pretty accepting school in a fairly accepting city where there's not much danger in coming out. And within that, I was in band, where there tends to be more queer people. And I'm neurodivergent, and only really know how to talk to neurodivergent people, and a lot of neurodivergent people are also queer, including a lot of aroace people. Put all those together and it does make it more likely for me to meet aroace people than for others (also by aroace I mean on the spectrum of both, in this case asexual and aro-spec) I mean I haven’t found many aroace’s but I’ve somehow managed to find all of my fellow geeks and nerds and talk a lot about entertainment and shows. Somehow I managed to be the best friends with queer people where I’m at. XD Let me think… I have a friend who’s bi, and her friend I think is gender fluid or bi-gender? And another person in that friend group is possibly aro. That’s about as many friends I have at school that’re queer but at church there’s a girl who’s sorta the type that’ll talk for hours about transformers comics, and it’s surprisingly entertaining. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abaco Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 i maybe had one aro classmate during high school? but its been a while since i last got in contact with them and i didnt known them very much, so im not sure 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alto Posted June 13 Share Posted June 13 (edited) Uh, I was talking to someone with autism who ID'd as aro ace. His caretaker was nearby and the moment our conversation turned to that she told us to change the subject :/ That is the story behind the Aro in the Airport. Edited June 13 by alto 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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