What are the chances of meeting another AroAce person in real life in the wild?

[Log Date 7152]

Happy Pride folks!

So, what are the chances of meeting another AroAce person in real life? I know the approximate percentage of Ace population is 1 out of 100, and among those 1 out of 4 are aro. So theoretically there is 1 out of every 400 people. The chances are small, so is it really possible to meet an Aro Ace in real life? Have anyone met one in the wild before?

[Holmbo]

I have two friends who I think are technically aro, although they don't identify as such because they are romance favorable so kinda allo passing. I met both of them without knowing they were aro.

[illumi]

im friends w an aro classmate; she told me abt an aroace person too. me and that person didnt meet but were in the same school; idc enough to befriend any1 else atm anyway

[AstrophelDragon]

I have multiple aroace friends irl; it really probably just depends on how accepting your community is

To me it always seems like there has to be more than just 1% of people who are ace bc I know too many. But maybe it's just magnetism. And being in band. Our percussion section was like 24% ace.

Edited June 8, 2023 by AstrophelDragon

[Log Date 7152]

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Just now, AstrophelDragon said:

I have multiple aroace friends irl; it really probably just depends on how accepting your community is

So how do one get into the community? I know the queer kids in my school, but I don't exactly fit in with them tbh. I get a chance to meet a lot of new people next august, and I'm wondering how I could get into the more aroace community?

 

[HelloThere]

I’d say that the amount of aces and aros out there is probably a bit greater than 1%, I’d rank it as a more 1/30-40 chance than that. The best way to be sure tbh is probably to keep a lookout for black and white rings on middle fingers and random pride pins. I don’t have much else to add tbh. 🫤

[SwiftySpeedy]

I do have a pride pin myself, Only one person correctly identified it, and there not aroace themselves but I am going to the GSA today so those chances might increase.

[The Newest Fabled Creature]

I've met three a-spec people at my high school, one aro-spec, one aroace, and the other asexual, and it wasn't like I was even trying? They didn't have anything to signify them being a-spec, so I wouldn't know how to go about finding anyone whose a-spec other then looking for those signifiers (rings, pins, etc). But, yeah, I've met/bumped into quite a few people in our community so it's possible.

Edited June 8, 2023 by The Newest Fabled Creature
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[HelloThere]

2 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

I've met three a-spec people at my high school, one aro-spec, one aroace, and the other asexual, and it wasn't like I was even trying? They didn't have anything to signify them being a-spec, so I wouldn't know how to go about finding anyone whose a-spec other then looking for those signifiers (rings, pins, etc). But, yeah, I've met/bumped into quite a few people in our community so it's possible.

I’ve met one guy in my school who might be aro and I doubt he’d identify as such. I do wish that the GSA was an option right now but I doubt it’s a great idea for now.

[Whirl]

I've met one aro person completely in the wild once! Like others have said, looking out for pins and other signifiers is a good way to find other aro and ace folks.

In my case, the person I met was wearing an aro pin! I just walked up to them and said like "Oh! Me too!" They even gifted me the pin, which I thought was so sweet of him. 

Being visible about your identity and being a source of information is also good for meeting other aroace people. For example, one of my uni friends is probably also on the aroace spectrum! I lent her my copy of loveless and she's been texting about her low-key identity crisis the past few days lol. She's still figuring herself out though.

[HelloThere]

16 minutes ago, Whirl said:

I've met one aro person completely in the wild once! Like others have said, looking out for pins and other signifiers is a good way to find other aro and ace folks.

In my case, the person I met was wearing an aro pin! I just walked up to them and said like "Oh! Me too!" They even gifted me the pin, which I thought was so sweet of him. 

Being visible about your identity and being a source of information is also good for meeting other aroace people. For example, one of my uni friends is probably also on the aroace spectrum! I lent her my copy of loveless and she's been texting about her low-key identity crisis the past few days lol. She's still figuring herself out though.

Oh that’s actually really nice! :D

Im glad to know you met another aro in the wild.

[Jot-Aro Kujo]

Depends on where you live and how old you are.

[SwiftySpeedy]

Well if you do want to meet someone who is AroAce I would recommend joining a lgbtq+ club where they would probably reside. When I went to the GSA today there was one person who was Aromantic although they were not there.

Edited June 8, 2023 by SwiftySpeedy

[HelloThere]

33 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Well if you do want to meet someone who is AroAce I would recommend joining a lgbtq+ club where they would probably reside. When I went to the GSA today there was one person who was Aromantic although they were not there.

I’ll definitely see if I can do that by the time school rolls around soon.

[Harvest-Unity]

I think you're more likely to meet younger people who identify openly as aro.

Also I wouldn't be surprised if that stat was slightly higher, since its still a nieche label that not many people know about, stats like these also change depending on methodology.

No shit though, I was at a Drama event thing and I was randomly put in a group with 2 other people, [we're teenagers] and we were talking about random stuff during a break and we both found out we all happened to be aro [and also, unrelated, both really liked The Owl House], it was very surprising!

Also one of my childhood friends that I've had for 10+ years is AroAce! and I think another friend of mine might identify as demiromantic?

Edited June 9, 2023 by Noble-Harvest-Spear

[HelloThere]

1 hour ago, Noble-Harvest-Spear said:

I think you're more likely to meet younger people who identify openly as aro.

Also I wouldn't be surprised if that stat was slightly higher, since its still a nieche label that not many people know about, stats like these also change depending on methodology.

No shit though, I was at a Drama event thing and I was randomly put in a group with 2 other people, [we're teenagers] and we were talking about random stuff during a break and we both found out we all happened to be aro [and also, unrelated, both really liked The Owl House], it was very surprising!

Also one of my childhood friends that I've had for 10+ years is AroAce! and I think another friend of mine might identify as demiromantic?

Oh my gosh, I wish I found more aro’s. 😓

[AstrophelDragon]

22 hours ago, Log Date 7152 said:

 

I was already friends with one aroace person before we realized we were both aroace (that's how I figured it out). Then he became friends with another aroace person, then I started becoming friends with a different aroace person, then we realized we were all aroace because a couple people had pride pins/rings and it was mentioned

[HelloThere]

30 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said:

I was already friends with one aroace person before we realized we were both aroace (that's how I figured it out). Then he became friends with another aroace person, then I started becoming friends with a different aroace person, then we realized we were all aroace because a couple people had pride pins/rings and it was mentioned

Oh my gosh, 4 aroace friends off of pure accident. I need this kind of luck.

[SwiftySpeedy]

same

[alto]

I met an aroace in the airport once

[HelloThere]

16 minutes ago, alto said:

I met an aroace in the airport once

Ooh, sounds like a juicy story. :D

[AstrophelDragon]

On 6/9/2023 at 11:17 AM, HelloThere said:

I need this kind of luck.

A lot of it is probably just where you live and what you do and stuff. I attended a pretty accepting school in a fairly accepting city where there's not much danger in coming out. And within that, I was in band, where there tends to be more queer people. And I'm neurodivergent, and only really know how to talk to neurodivergent people, and a lot of neurodivergent people are also queer, including a lot of aroace people. Put all those together and it does make it more likely for me to meet aroace people than for others (also by aroace I mean on the spectrum of both, in this case asexual and aro-spec)

[HelloThere]

26 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said:

A lot of it is probably just where you live and what you do and stuff. I attended a pretty accepting school in a fairly accepting city where there's not much danger in coming out. And within that, I was in band, where there tends to be more queer people. And I'm neurodivergent, and only really know how to talk to neurodivergent people, and a lot of neurodivergent people are also queer, including a lot of aroace people. Put all those together and it does make it more likely for me to meet aroace people than for others (also by aroace I mean on the spectrum of both, in this case asexual and aro-spec)

I mean I haven’t found many aroace’s but I’ve somehow managed to find all of my fellow geeks and nerds and talk a lot about entertainment and shows. Somehow I managed to be the best friends with queer people where I’m at. XD

Let me think… I have a friend who’s bi, and her friend I think is gender fluid or bi-gender? And another person in that friend group is possibly aro. That’s about as many friends I have at school that’re queer but at church there’s a girl who’s sorta the type that’ll talk for hours about transformers comics, and it’s surprisingly entertaining. 

[abaco]

i maybe had one aro classmate during high school? but its been a while since i last got in contact with them and i didnt known them very much, so im not sure

[alto]

Uh, I was talking to someone with autism who ID'd as aro ace.  His caretaker was nearby and the moment our conversation turned to that she told us to change the subject :/

That is the story behind the Aro in the Airport.

Edited June 13, 2023 by alto