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I have recently come to realize that even if I never have another partner of any kind (romantic, platonic, alterous, etc) I would still probably be ok and happy in my life.  Does this make me loveless?  I don't think it makes me aplatonic, I still get squishes.

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From what I understand (correct me if I'm wrong), being a loveless aro has more to do with rejecting the concept of "love" in any form than it does with partnerships

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On 5/26/2022 at 6:14 AM, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

From what I understand (correct me if I'm wrong), being a loveless aro has more to do with rejecting the concept of "love" in any form than it does with partnerships

What do you mean with rejecting? Not experiencing it?
 

I don‘t fall in love. I sure „love“ my friends, but I refuse calling it love. I‘d NEVER say „I‘m aro ‚but‘ I love my friends“… When i talk about aromanticism, I say that in my case it means that I don‘t fall in love or I say that I don’t experience love. When people talk about love in general I use to say, this doesn‘t affect me/let’s me out bc I am aro. People use to tell me „yeah but you do/can love your friends“…. I hate this bc I feel like they just distract from my arones

So I use to refuse their objections and I don‘t like it when people argue about „love is love“ with „platonic love exists too“ (not only bc I know aplatonic persons exist but also bc it feels like people refuse to reflect about being aromisic) when aros say it lets us out. Bc it clearly does

so I kinda „reject“ the concept even if I experience it… does this make me loveless/allows this to use the term or is it for aplatonic people?

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On 6/13/2022 at 1:43 PM, Acecream said:

What do you mean with rejecting? Not experiencing it?
 

I don‘t fall in love. I sure „love“ my friends, but I refuse calling it love. I‘d NEVER say „I‘m aro ‚but‘ I love my friends“… When i talk about aromanticism, I say that in my case it means that I don‘t fall in love or I say that I don’t experience love. When people talk about love in general I use to say, this doesn‘t affect me/let’s me out bc I am aro. People use to tell me „yeah but you do/can love your friends“…. I hate this bc I feel like they just distract from my arones

So I use to refuse their objections and I don‘t like it when people argue about „love is love“ with „platonic love exists too“ (not only bc I know aplatonic persons exist but also bc it feels like people refuse to reflect about being aromisic) when aros say it lets us out. Bc it clearly does

so I kinda „reject“ the concept even if I experience it… does this make me loveless/allows this to use the term or is it for aplatonic people?

yeah its a wide term. could mean apl, could mean feeling disconnected from love, no love, rejecting the personal use of the term, etc.

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On 5/25/2022 at 4:45 PM, alto said:

I have recently come to realize that even if I never have another partner of any kind (romantic, platonic, alterous, etc) I would still probably be ok and happy in my life.  Does this make me loveless?  I don't think it makes me aplatonic, I still get squishes.

You might find the label nonpartnering applicable

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