tyledgarlic

absolutely sorbet counts! (not all of us can eat dairy after all) and holy crap nettle? thats so cool! where, what did it taste like? was it steeped, blended in or both? YESSSSS a good vanilla is the besssstt. part of why i like butter pecan so much, they (on average) use more vanilla flavoring than regular vanilla what company had those? that sounds sooo good!

curious what the gen. aro public’s favorite ice cream is so. tell me. mines mint chocolate chip/butter pecan (not together), but i’ve had some good honeysuckle and basil-avacado icecream.

this used to be a solid yes for me. cake, financial benefits, party, etc sounds fun. Now i realize that when i actually put myself in that equation i’m not so keen, sounds. excessive, to legally bind myself to someone with a whole ceremony just for tax benefit. If i ever do feel the need, i’ll keep it to a minimum of legal requirements and ice cream cake with friends. Maybe a fancy-scmancy suit, as a treat legally, all you have to do is go to the courthouse with papers, ordained official, and ~60$. differs where you’re from but you can go pretty cheap w/ that, depending on whether you want to use someones house or a public space

ymba if you can’t understand why you’d date w/o sex/when you can be or already are friends ymba if “they wouldn’t care that much unless it was a crush” annoys the sh*t out of you ymba if you hate+/dread dating

welcome!

i’d assume it’s mostly overdiagnosis/unnecessary diagnosis of other disorders in aros. i’ve seen people’s first response to “i don’t want romance” be an armchair diagnosis of intimacy anxiety disorder or aspd, and knowing the mental health system and my own experience, i would not be shocked if some professionals impulsively do the same.

BITE I LOVE OMG i love the gradiet?!/!?!?!? so good

you now can’t remember your favorite songs i wish i lived in subtropical/temperate rainforest

yeah its a wide term. could mean apl, could mean feeling disconnected from love, no love, rejecting the personal use of the term, etc.

playing with someones hair, and generally “romantic” physical contact.

hi im tyler im new here. i’ve known im aro for a while but i’d love to make more friends here!

hun thats a massive no. casual sex is seen as filler till you settle down at best, and being a whore/heartless player who leads people on at worst. i see so many people shame others for having sex with no romantic connection, not just with christians but with the lgbtqa+ community, saying they’re “the worst of the __” who gives ___ a bad name, that you can only truly be ___ if you have romantic attraction and it sucks. because people will only accept you having casual sex conditionally. only if you’ll “get a relationship soon” or if you're in an open one, hell sometimes i feel like people treat cheater better than “pathetic” people who always stick to one night stands/fuck buddies. and oh, don’t get me started on amatonormativity in fwb. then even in the aro/ace community, aro is treated like mutable with ace, the same, like you’re “weird” if you’re aro but not ace, it’s always assumed that you’re both. don’t you dare call that privilege. it’s not even glorified in queer media. i feel like as a community we use romantic love as some kind of softer, purer part of identity that makes us better, equal to “straights”. feels like its only glorified in the context of between relationships or in relationships, older queer medias the only place you really see that much.

upon completion you are bedridden twice the amount of sleep you lost, on top of what you regularly need. meaning if you lost 4 hours one night 8 is added to your typical sleep, and so on. better not be on a deadline. i have wings i can fly with at any time

i’d say do your best to research good therapists *for you* in your area. a good way to do that is break down what you might want, obviously someone with experience in sexual trauma but if you have any self diagnoses/symptoms and traits shared with diagnosis it’s good to look for that too. you could be able to check reddit for some proper reviews of those therapists (many useful subreddits), or find the therapists social media. you might not find the former but the latter is pretty common nowadays, and can be useful as many teach coping/grounding etc methods in case therapy’s still inaccessible to you. i wish you the best of luck