Ikarus Posted May 8, 2022 Share Posted May 8, 2022 Have you ever heard an allo person say, that person is way out of my league or, he/she is a 5 or a 3 or a 9.5 in the looks department? What I find the most odd is how important looks seem to be in romantic pursuits, I made another post a while back about lookism which explains this connection a little. Lookism is basically the bias that attractive people tend to have good personality, financially stable, healthy, morally superior etc. As an aromantic, the way I find relationships seems so very different from allos, but I think lookism is a big reason for this difference. The bias of lookism takes effect on everyone to some degree, but this bias is particularly strange in romantic activities. It seems to me that allos use leagues and number rating looks as a scoring metric used to determine the probability of romance or sex with a certain person. If a guy is 6 in the looks department and the woman he wants to attract is a 9.5 then he will probably have to compensate this looks gap with personality, charisma, financial security etc. How about a woman who is judged to be about a 3 in looks, she will probably have to try the same strategies, personality, making money, sense of humor. Although it would be very hard for her to find someone “out of here league” being at a 7 or 8. Lookism can be so important that allos stay in relationships with people based solely on looks. You have a guy for instance who begins a relationship with a very attractive woman, she is amazing in the bedroom and has a very pretty face. "She" was drop dead gorgeous, then she started talking. The woman has a very entitled and narcissistic personality, and she is a complete bag for conversations. Despite this many men are very willing to stay in this type of relationship for who knows how long, it depends. I think lookism also keeps like bodied people together, for example you often see chubby people with chubby people, skinny people with skinny people, tall people, less attractive people with less attractive people. It seems that lookism and leagues often determines the type of people allo people marry or engage romantically with. A less attractive nerdy guy for instance is rarely with a 9.5 woman, but if he is rich then maybe not. A woman who is a 4 is rarely ever married to a Chad. I imagine a lot of allos would tell that Chad, hey you can do better than that, look at these 9.5 / 10 woman. At the very least lookism and leagues seem to be a very important qualification before getting to know one another. Often times relationships have problems even starting if allos are in different leagues from each other. Lookism and leagues is at the very least, in my opinion the most important first hoop to jump through for allos. Could you imagine though someone approaching you and your friend and saying this. Hey, your a Chad man, you don’t have to settle for a 5 girl like this, come on man you gotta enter the big leagues man. What utter absolute cringe that would be my God! Anyway, that is all I have to say, hope you found this interesting to some degree. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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