I don't think that my gender is meaningful when it comes to my personality. I know for sure I am a cisgendered woman : I won't use anything than "she", I feel at ease with my gender Identity (though I won't descirve myself as a feminine woman at all). However, if I had to list the things that affect my personality or way of living, my gender is at the bottom of the list. I even think there would not be a lot of difference if I was a guy. In other words : I think myself (and of other people) as a person and not as a woman (or a man too for others).
My problem is : it makes me feel very transphobic. I had a hard time understood transgendered people (though now I think I do for trans men and trans women, for agendered it's more complicated because before I discover transgenre, I never thought that people are identifying themselves to their gender; sorry, I don't mean to be rude or offense anyone; I know there is a lot of trans and non-binary people here).
Now, I've learned that some aro doesn't mention their sexual orientation because they don't think it is relevant. I think that's a bit how I feel about my gender : I know I am a woman, but I don't think it is worth mentionning nor a big part of my Identity.
But I know gender is very important for trans people, who suffers from people who think gender is not big deal (I would never say that to invalidate their feelings, their distress is real and that for them it is a big part of their identity).
So my question is : am I valid in my way of feeling things, or am I just a cis that doesn't understand anything and is transphobic?
EDIT : it seems I failed to post anonymously. I thought I just had to sign in anonymously but it seems I was wrong, my bad.
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I don't think that my gender is meaningful when it comes to my personality. I know for sure I am a cisgendered woman : I won't use anything than "she", I feel at ease with my gender Identity (though I won't descirve myself as a feminine woman at all). However, if I had to list the things that affect my personality or way of living, my gender is at the bottom of the list. I even think there would not be a lot of difference if I was a guy. In other words : I think myself (and of other people) as a person and not as a woman (or a man too for others).
My problem is : it makes me feel very transphobic. I had a hard time understood transgendered people (though now I think I do for trans men and trans women, for agendered it's more complicated because before I discover transgenre, I never thought that people are identifying themselves to their gender; sorry, I don't mean to be rude or offense anyone; I know there is a lot of trans and non-binary people here).
Now, I've learned that some aro doesn't mention their sexual orientation because they don't think it is relevant. I think that's a bit how I feel about my gender : I know I am a woman, but I don't think it is worth mentionning nor a big part of my Identity.
But I know gender is very important for trans people, who suffers from people who think gender is not big deal (I would never say that to invalidate their feelings, their distress is real and that for them it is a big part of their identity).
So my question is : am I valid in my way of feeling things, or am I just a cis that doesn't understand anything and is transphobic?
EDIT : it seems I failed to post anonymously. I thought I just had to sign in anonymously but it seems I was wrong, my bad.
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