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Picklethewickle

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  1. All last week I was feeling too tired to exist. Now, these past three days I've been sick, so sick I can't get out of bed. I spent all of Monday in a fever-dream, and only today I've been able to dredge up enough energy to dick around on the internet. Who would have thought?

  2. Being put into that position would make me feel sick too. Honestly, it would end the friendship. People need to accept that sometimes you like someone as a friend, and that doesn't have to change into anything else.
  3. Those people should shut up. Who are they to tell you what you feel and experience?
  4. The theory that aromantic people failed to mature, or developed incorrectly, or are mentally broken comes up a lot. The possibility of there being a connection between trauma and orientation has been studied by mental health professionals repeatedly. In truth, while there is evidence that trauma impacts how we interact with other people, there is no correlation between past experiences, good or bad, and orientation. There are aromantics with trauma. There are aromantics without trauma. There are romantics with and without trauma.
  5. An important message from the universe: The universe is offended with us for being a mere handful of unimportant people, and further more, for living on such an unimportant planet in an unimportant solar system situated in an unimportant galaxy. How dare we be so unimportant.
  6. In Star Wars: The High Republic: Quest for Planet X the character Sky is canonically non-binary. The story even talks about disphoria and binding.
  7. The universe offends me for turning my green bananas brown.
  8. My green bananas are turning brown. Excuse me, I think there is supposed to be a stage where you turn ripe before you go off.

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    2. smac n cheese

      smac n cheese

      YEAH, LEAVE THEIR BANANAS ALONE!

    3. P4R4D0X

      P4R4D0X

      ya know what? all status updates are good places to pull thread ideas from. we should have a thread about offending the universe, and keep it off it the Why does the above post offend you? thread, just in case people don't want to read about 2 kids offending the universe

    4. P4R4D0X

      P4R4D0X

      Done! Find it here.

  9. 92% asexual and aromantic The way many of the answers are both yes and no at the same time makes no sense. Which is it? Yes or no? If you want to state that additional point apply, then add a yes option with additional points, and a no option with additional points. The 8% I got for demi come from the fact that some of the questions only allow for "yes" or positive responses. While the test does divide between romantic and sexual, sometimes it skews answers so that you either have to pick "yes to romance" or "yes to sex" and doesn't allow you to readily pick "no to both". Even though the test pegged me as aroace, the test results blather on about "romance and sex isn't your jam right now" and "you probably still find people attractive and want to do stereotypical intimate stuff with them" "you'll probably form allonormative relationships anyway" and "While you may not be feeling the pull of romance or sexual attraction right now, that doesn't mean it won't change in the future. Keep an open heart and an open mind". Fuck you test results. Fuck you.
  10. I've never met anyone who knew about aromanticism. If I ever do, I'm going to drive you all crazy, because I'm all of the stereotypes that give all other aros trouble. I am both aro and ace. I am romance repulsed. I do hate romance. I don't want a relationship. I don't feel sympathy for other people's relationship problems, or interest, for that matter.
  11. Sabi Mehboob, the main character of the tv show Sort Of, is genderfluid.
  12. Any members on here read or write fanfiction? What kind of stuff do you like? What gets you reading and what gets you writing? What are your fandoms? Your prefered style? I've been reading fanfiction a few years, and have gotten into writing as well. While I have fun reading, many of the stories weren't exactly what I wanted to see. Eventually I realized what I wanted to see were my own thoughts and feelings, and no one can recreate those for me, so I started writing them down for myself. At first I wasn't going to post anything, but eventually I realized if everyone did that, there wouldn't be anything to read. I've heard it said that fanfiction writers are just readers who couldn't find the story they wanted to read, and that sure turned out true for me. There are a few fandoms I write, but the majority of my stories are for Murdoch Mysteries. I particularly like writing for minor characters and for less active fandoms, but that doesn't mean I avoid main characters or bigger fandoms. My favourite things to write are drabbles and slice of life moments. Share some links to your favourite stories or your profile if you feel inclined. Zati Linn | FanFiction My fanfiction should you want to know.
  13. I haven't played it yet, but a game on the switch called Everdream Valley is supposed to be a farming game really similar to Harvest Moon, but you play as a kid and there is no relationship stuff. I have played a lot of Harvest Moon and some Rune Factory. When I play a new game I get married the first couple of times as it is part of the game, but once I get a few re-plays in I stop bothering with that aspect. As far as choosing a marriage candidates, I just look at the list of characters and pick one. I try to create a story in my head that my player character has an attachment to this person in some way, but I've never managed to convince myself to feel any draw toward a fictional character. It's just another goal to complete.
  14. I made my fanfiction avatar the same aroace maple leaf image I use here, but that's as far as I've gotten.
  15. How do you want your relationship with him to change, relative to how it is now? Determine how you would like things to be going forward, and find out how he would feel about those changes.
  16. You don't need to wait until you are at your worst before seeking help. You deserve support at any point, and seeking help now might keep you from hitting your lowest again. Even if you don't have a specific issue at the moment, it is definitely worth telling a therapist that you are having re-occuring mental health concerns. There may actually be a pattern or triggers that are bringing on those problems, and a therapist could help you find those patterns and break them.
  17. The parts about finding yourself feeling whatever other people are feeling sounds like a lack of emotional boundaries. People who don't have boundaries tend to absorb what other people feel, and look to other people's feelings, reactions, and behaviours for guidance. They tend to struggle to make decisions or to take actions on their own. It can be hard to set boundaries at first, particularly when you don't know what your limits are. It might help to start by getting in touch with your own feelings, such as by writing a journal. Give yourself little emotional check-ups through the day, particularly as you interact with other people. Take note if you feel good about what's going on in that moment. If you find you are irritable, tired, or impatient with what's going on, particularly for no clear reason, then chances are someone crossed a boundary without you realizing. Take note of whats going on when you feel comfortable, and compare that to what is going on when you feel uncomfortable. That will help you develop an understanding of what your core beliefs are, what your true emotions are, and where your boundaries would lie.
  18. It lets people understand you better. It lets you know if your friends are accepting, or if you need new friends. I can't think of anything besides that.
  19. It sounds like you already have tried a little bit. If you have no interest in these things, have no need for these things, and you are happy with the way things are now, what reason do you have for seeking a relationship? You could take all the same things you've said and use them for an argument in favour of being single.
  20. This topic can also be thought of as "What do you like about yourself?" Put down anything you consider good, or you think you do well, be it profound or trivial. I'm good at scratching the ears of furbabies. It's been a long time since I've run into a furbaby that didn't enjoy my skritches.
  21. This is part of what annoys me about romance, and all conversations around the subject. Romance is put on a pedestal. It is presented as more than everything else, rather than one of the many things we can feel. It doesn't matter to me if romantic attraction is a chemical process in the brain or not. Whatever the cause and however it is processed, some people feel it and some people don't. What matters to me is the excess of pretension around the subject. I want people to be allowed to feel what they feel and to be allowed to set aside what they don't feel.
  22. I hate romance too. I find it tiresome and annoying. I don't want anyone trying to romance me in my life, I don't enjoy hearing about other people's relationships, and I can't stand seeing it in shows and books. I can definitely get wanting a break from people who emphasize it over everything else. It still remains that it isn't okay to be cruel and judgemental toward people who do enjoy romance.
  23. There are more people who feel the same as you than you might realize. There are people who are open to having a sex-free romantic relationship. In fact, there are people actively seeking that out. Sex is not love to all people, and it's okay if you never want to have sex with anyone. There are relationships just like you dream, full of love and trust, without needing sex as part of that bond.
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