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I like the combo one a little better aesthetically, but the sunset one is fun if you want subtle pride stuff (I made myself a bookmark recently!).

I also like all of them! I'd say my favorite's probably Rogue One, I know it's not part of the main arcs but I really enjoyed it. I'm also pretty fond of the Clone Wars show.

Welcome! It's always lovely to meet a fellow nerd - do you have a favorite Star Wars movie?

Hello and welcome!

Ditto. I haven't made an account on AVEN because, at least from a glance, there seems to be a lot of talking about how asexuality affects romantic relationships. I think those descussions are important, but I don't really relate to them at all.

1.)Loveless aro 2.)Never Shown 3.) Swords 4.)Frayromantic 5.)Dusk Aromantic

At the moment, "Crush Culture" by Conan Gray, but it's been stuck in my head for three days and if it doesn't leave soon I'm going to get sick of it.

That's very interesting, and definitely clarifies some things. Thanks for the explanation!

How can people in a romantic relationship go from utterly adoring each other to loathing each other's guts so quickly? I get that they don't want to be around each other after a break up, but it's like every merit they ever saw in the other disappeared the moment they broke up. Of course, sometimes the other person really was pretty nasty, but most of the time they're both good people who just stopped being compatible or weren't in a good state for a romantic relationship. Maybe it's just my particular group of friends, but the way they talk about their exes, you'd think they dated the devil himself. Why it so hard for them to say that things just didn't work out and leave it at that?

Ranging from earliest to latest (note: some of these are more ace things) - -always thought it was statistically improbable that so many people find people who reciprocate their attraction. -in 6th grade, when I heard a friend of mine had gone on a date, I did my best to defend her against what was obviously untrue slander (she would never do such a terrible thing!), and was horrified to discover it was the truth. -I got really annoyed once more of my friends started dating because it was making my life unnecessarily complicated -started loathing reading about romance in books because it's all mushy and overdramatic (and surely unrealistic?) -got my one, singular crush (the legitimacy of which is questionable) on a close friend, and despite feeling jealous of his girlfriend, was glad he didn't like me back so he wouldn't ask me out, because then I'd have to lie and tell him I didn't like him. -crush(?) broke up with his girlfriend and I tried (and failed) to convince him to still invite her sit with us because I missed her and didn't understand why he suddenly hated her so much. -thought jedi not being allowed to date was perfectly reasonable and they should just A.) not fall in love or B.) happily ignore their feelings, because as I had clearly experienced, it's not that hard. -struggled for a very long to understand how alloaces can still fall in love, because I thought a romantic partner was just a friend you thought was hot. (still a little fuzzy on how that works, but now I get that it's because romantics feel something I don't.) -gay friend tried to get me to talk about cute boys with him, and despite being "straight", I had no idea what counted as a cute boy. -a friend (the former crush, actually), jokingly told me, after a rather personal game of truth or dare at a party, that I'm "pretty fucking asexual for a straight person".....probably should have been a hint but I didn't begin to question for another year or so.

True TPBM likes cats better than dogs.

I definitely feel platonic love, beyond that it's all fuzzy. I occasionally have what I think might be weak sexual attraction, but it's fairly infrequent and is easy to ignore, just a brief flash of "wow that's a nice smile" or something like that. I'm not sure if sexual attraction's the right identity for it, because it doesn't make me want to touch the other person or anything, but it doesn't really last long enough for me to sit down and analyze it. Likewise, I had what I assumed was a crush on a friend about four years ago, and while it definitely differed from how I usually feel about my friends, I'm not really sure what it was. I didn't want to date him or have sex with him, but I did get nervous around him and jealous of his various girlfriends because he'd talk to them instead of me. I'm not sure if it was a crush or a squish or if it was just me being frustrated that someone I was close to suddenly had more important people in his life, but regardless, it was irritating and I haven't felt anything like that since. Basically, a lot of maybes, hence why grayromantic (and gray-ace) fit well, at least for now.

You're profile picture is of a cat, and while cats are amazing, my cat is the best and therefore having a picture of her would be better. Words are made of letters.

Hello and welcome!

They are kind of intriguing, like they're in on some joke I didn't catch. Though to be completely honest I spend more time worrying about them when they make what seem (to me) to be very bad decisions because of romantic attraction.

Oldest child, as far as I know none of my biological family members are lgbtqia, although my (step) cousin is trans.

Thanks for the support guys, the box has been checked :)

I'm applying for a scholarship and it offers preference to "students who self-identify as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community". I feel so weird about checking this little box. It's not a matter if aro counts or not, since it 100% does and the scholarship even put the "A" in, but if I really count. I haven't been identifying as (grey) aroace very long, I'm not really out to anyone, and I'm not super confident in my label. Normally I'd tell myself that it doesn't matter, that identifying this way makes me feel comfortable and it's okay if it changes later, but in this situation there's money involved and that makes me feel really gross about it. I don't want to feel like I'm monetizing an identity that might not even be mine, if that makes sense? But at the same time the whole point of me applying is to try and get money to pay for my education. Should I check the box?

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She kind of seems like the "you haven't met the right person" type, but I suppose anything's possible!

That sounds really cool, actually! The next person gets a 5' by 5' slice of American cheese.

I'd rather strangers not touch me, but I like being touched by friends and family every once in a while as long as it's platonic. However, I suck at initiating touch, and I've been told being hugged by me feels like "being hugged by a very sweet piece of wood".

I'm also a huge fan of his books! I adore the Stormlight Archive and I really appreciate how unobtrusive and actually likable the romance is.

Hello lovely people! I have to confess, it took me a bit to work up to courage to make an account here, so I've been watching from afar. I'm a senior in high school, and up until a year ago I was very determined I was straight because of one singular crush (squish? smush? I wish I'd taken notes) in 7th grade. It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that allo people feel attraction more frequently than once every five years.... At the moment I'm identifying as gray aroace, because I think I feel some sort of attraction once in a blue moon, but it's infrequent enough that I have no idea what it is and weak enough that I don't really care. Anyway, I decided to finally make an account because I need somebody to discuss this suspicious painting with: This painting hangs above my favorite chair in the living room. It was purchased by my mother, who, as far as I know, does not know I'm aro. I have a lot of theories.