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You don't have to use any label you aren't interested in, but I thought I'd throw out aplatonic for you as well. ^^ Welcome to the forum!

You grew up in an amatonormative society that punishes people for not fitting into a teeny-tiny, specific box. To want to fit in? Yeah, humans be like that. To feel bad about not fitting in when you've been inundated with messages about fitting in your entire life? Yeah, humans be like that. To want to know what something you don't understand feels like? Yeah, humans be like that. There really is no abnormal when it comes to human feelings. There are billions of humans on the planet, and imo, one of the things that makes us human is our diversity and difference. If you can think of a feeling, a human has felt it. If you can't think of it - a human has felt it. Humans feel the depths of all sorts of confusing, complicated, and contradictory feelings. It's all normal. It's all abnormal. Just depends on your perspective. I'm not sure how good the book will be for you if English isn't your native language, but Jeffrey Marsh is a nonbinary activist who has a great book "How to Be You" about finding self-acceptance and maybe self-love. It might be helpful to you. I hope you are able to find peace and understanding about yourself and how you feel and make room to just feel your feelings without beating yourself up. <3

This is gonna be so frustrating to hear, but the difference between romantic and alterous attraction (and platonic attraction) is up to the individual. They're not objectively different things with hard drawn lines in between them. What makes an attraction type an attraction type is how the individual person feels about it. When you close your eyes and let your gut pick the term, what does it come up with? When you explore all the terms, which one just makes you feel the most comfortable? Which term are you most drawn to? Kissing could be platonic, romantic, alterous, sexual, and/or a combo of those things. What makes it any of those is intent, which is completely subjective.

When everybody is straight, not a queer in sight. 😒

I don't want to make a whole separate topic because it's only a brief mention in season 8 or so, but the podcast Woe.Begone has a canon queerplatonic couple! Had to rewind and relisten to make sure I was actually hearing "queerplatonic" from a piece of media. :o

You can find November's announcement over on the blog of Sara Jakša for Aromanticism and Holidays! We also need hosts for January and March, if you are willing to host! Hosting is easy and low time commitment and a great way to connect with the community. Find out how to host here.

School. Life. Homework. Constant pressure from your parents to live up to someone else's legacy. Your parents casual medical neglect and verbal abuse. Chores. Socialization. Not having the tools to handle your likely ADHD. Navigating life without management techniques and accommodations you need. Thinking about your future. Being overly aware of the economy. Planning for schools that are years and schools away. There's not a level of work you have to achieve to be burned out. It's about not having the capacity to handle the work you are being handed. You described feeling like 90% of the things on the list I linked. I'm sorry your parents have gotten this hard into your head and made you feel so negative and self-hating about yourself. This is not what parents should do. They should support and uplift and encourage and help you. Not constantly act like you're not good enough. You are. You are good enough. You are enough.

Burn out is not being lazy. You need a rest. Fighting with yourself about that is only going to make it worse. You gotta actually be allowed to take a rest to get better. Your mind needs taken care of just like your body. I'm sorry your parents are putting this pressure on you and not appreciating you for you and letting you grow into your own person.

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You can handle this! Maybe some things need editing, like taking less classes or mixing up easier classes with your harder classes instead of taking all hard classes at once or joining a study group or getting a tutor or making use of get an accessibility plan in line if applicable (ex. if you have ADHD or something that gives you access to certain adaptations) etc., but you can handle it. Listen to your body and instead of just making this huge leap that you can't do it at all - adapt. What do you need to feel like you can do it? Work towards getting those things together for yourself. <3

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That's sexual harassment, and since you're minors, it's actually child sexual abuse. That is 100% something you can and should report. I'm sorry your school environment is so unsafe.

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Dalton and Chris from Insidious: The Red Door 👀